Page 12 FR EE HELP Dear Louanne, I am quite aware of the fact that women mature at an earlier age than men, and in most cases I have found this to be true. Just like in my last relationship it was totally devastating when we had to break up because he couldn't meet me half way and settle down. I vowed never to become involved with a younger man again. So what happens next? I meet this guy whose funny, bright, affectionate, and seems to have a good head on his shoulders. We have wonderful times together, and I can tell already that if this relationship holds tight I could possibly fall in love again. But guess what he's 18 - I'm 22. I feel like a cradle robber. I'm totally paranoid waiting for something to go wrong. I want this relationship to work because he's very special to me. What can I do to ease my fears? - Send -letters to: ---Dr. Louanne--Barton, Personal- Counseling 213 Glenhill Farmhouse, Behrend College. Erie, Pa 16563 ACROSS 41 Symbol for tellurium 1 Oriental nurse 42 Poses for . 5 Night birds portrait 9 Cleaning utensil 44 Strip of leather 12 Story 45 Terminate 13 Region 47 Makes lace 14 Time gone by 49 Directs 15 Printer's 50 Halt measure 52 Knocks 16 Sagacious 54 Fulfill 18 Marry 55 By way of 20 Paid notice 57 Food fish 22 Intertwine 59 Pronoun 24 Rodents 61 Female deer 27 Matures 63 Twirled 29 Stalk 65 Evergreen tree 31 Small rug 67 Those holding 32 Calumniate ' office 34 Wild plum 68 Sly look 36 Japanese 69 Carry drama 37 Repeals 39 Vegetable Signed, Happy but Scared DOWN 1 Devoured Ask Louanne Dear Happy but Scared, It's always scary to enter into an intimate relationship, but think how boring life would be if we didn't take thise risks. Being able to take that risk depencds in part on how strong our own identity is, our sense of who we are. The women who are really in trouble are those who feel they are nobody without a man. As for different rates of maturity between men and women, that pretty much evens out by age 18. What is more important is social maturity. That depends on life experiences. Adolescents go through a gang stage where they strive to fit in and be like their peers: . A lot of experimentation goes on until eventually we gain a sense of individual identity. Only then can we really relate intimately with others in a healthy way. Independence is another important factor in maturity. Are we able to separate from our family, to make decisions on our own, to determine our own values and goals independent of our family? Your special person may be very mature socially depending on his experiences. Is he still tied to Mom's apron strings or looking for another mother? Or does he seem to have a strong sense of who he is and an ability to function independently? I've known 18 year olds who are more socially mature than 40 year olds. Weekly Crossword Puzzle 2 Control 6 Takes from 3 Indian mulberry 7 French article 8 Carpenter's tool 4 Chop 9 Title of respect 5 Fertile spots in 10 King of Bashan desert 11 River in Italy 17 Negative prefix 19 Teutonic deity 21 Erase: printing 23 Succor 25 Equivalent in value 26 Bends 27 Lessens 28 Transgressions 30 Cries like a cow 33 Redact 35 Girl's name 38 Asterisk 40 Dry 43 Sculptured likeness 46 Pigeons 48 Spirit: colloq. 51 Greek letter 53 Symbol for tin 56 Viper 58 Suitable 60 Diocese 61 Roman gods 62 Attached to 64 Hebrew letter 66 Maiden loved by Zeus The The Collegian Wednesday, - March 15 Peer Ministers contd. from previous page evening. I knew about this, and I *vented anything from happening. The action really depressed her. She took all of her bad feelings and turned them on herself. She kept reiterating how she felt like a failure because she was getting nowhere with her boyfriend. Getting nowhere with me proved to be equivalent to pouring salt in an open wound. I wanted desperately to help, but seeing as I was part of the reason for her bad feelings, opening my mouth would only make her feel worse. All I could do was offer her my shoulder to cry on. More recently, another girl I know was having problems with her "would-be" boyfriend. When the boy turned out to be less than expected, she felt sad because she had been on the receiving end of a long line of heartbreak in her life. I tried to share my own similar experiences in that area to make her feel more at ease. Both of these instances made me feel uneasy. It's terrible that such feelings can hurt such good people. This pain doesn't just cause them to hurt, however; they suffer. This pain drives right through you, and you can feel it, physically. They hurt from the soul. When this pain afflicts you, you can feel as if the world was a cold, uncaring, unfeeling, place. You feel alone. You're NOT alone. There are people out there who have shoulders willing to be cried upon, whom you can share with, who arc willing to become friends. These people are called "peer ministers." We are a small group of students who are willing to do anything that you need, if you feel the same way as the people in this article. Someotie in a movie once said, "Life is pain. Anyone who says otherwise is selling something." If you need someone to talk to, but are intimidated by the possible stigma of seeing a psychologist,. please give us a try. We are located in the Student Services suite on the second floor of the Reed building, in the Campus Ministry office. We are: Darrell .1. White: Tuesday, 2-3:00 p.m. Marie Sprumont: Friday, 2-3:00 p.m. Virginia Schwartz: Friday, 3-4:00 p.m. Gina Gomez: • Friday, 12-1:00 p.m. The Collegian has a new location and a new phone - number. Our Phone number is now 898-6488. 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