by Rebecca Escoft Penn State Extension Home Economist For Lehigh County Keeping Your Marriage Strong Have the wedding chimes turn ed into noisy gongs and clanging cymbals? If June is a traditional month for weddings. July may be a month for the “first falling out.” During the first year of marriage, much enthusiasm for the relation ship exists. I encourage any new lyweds to take advantage of this enthusiasm. This is the time to put into place routines that will keep your marriage strong throughout your lives. In Secrets of Strong Families, Stinnet and DeFrain describe strong families as pleasant, posi tive places to live and grow. Strong families leant how to treat each other in healthy ways which promote positive self-esteem. One way to do this is to regularly ex AG CYLINDERS ** ra-fr f g 2XB ASAE 20’A Pin Center 62.00 2’A X 8 ASAE 20’A Pin Center 65.00 3XB ASAE 20'A Pin Center 69.00 Prince Directional Control Valves... 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Saying, “Don’t ever talk to me Hike that in front of my parents again!" doesn’t help. Try saying something like, “If you ever feel angry like you did tonight. I’d pre fer is you ask me to go into an other room and tell me there rather than in front of my family.” This allows both people to work on finding a way that’s acceptable for each person’s needs. Other statements like, ‘That’s dumb!” or “Stop that!” are inef fective and demeaning. Negative comments need to be carefully screened. What starts off great can Box 56 RRI Atglen, Pa 19310 sometimes end up being really bad. Think aobut how you would feel if someone said to you. “You look great even though you’re put ting on weight" or ’That looks good considering you made it” Wouldn’t it be better to simply say, “Wow. You look great!” or “The cabinet you made is just per fect for that spot in the den.” I encourage partners to take time early in the relationships to Poultry Ambassador LANCASTER (Lancaster Co.) 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