Page 12 — SUSQUEHANNA BULLETIN ADAM & EVE % or for worse. words of the marriage cere- mony seriously: “for better When marri- Wis hard, you don’t give up.” He thinks a lot of young ; . couples figure, that, well, if things don’t work out, “they can always get a divorce.” In other words, marriage is just “for better,” but not “for worse.” Rhonda, Michele, & Steve Proctor In September of 1969 Steve Proctor entered the St. Clair County Commun- ity College in Michigan as one of eight male students of nursing in a class other- wise composed of some seventy girls. Met in nursing school Out of all those girls in his nursing classes, there was one who almost im- mediately caught his eye, but she seemed to be en- grossed with another girl and two fellows from her home town. Just by chance one time, Steve and the attrac- tive girl, whose name was Rhonda, were paired off to take each other’s blood pressure. (They didn’t tell the Bulletin whether their blood pressure was up that first time they got acquaint- ed.) Later, they worked to- gether in obstetrics and the nursery. The more they talked to each other, the more they found they had similar ideas and points of view. But Steve was a little shy about asking Rhonda for a date, and Rhonda was confiding to a friend that she “knew” he was going to ask her out, but wonder- ed just when he’d get a- round to it. It took about a month until Steve asked Rhonda to go to a football game with him. From then on they start- ed to see each other regular- ly. Rhonda was impressed by the respect Steve showed her in little ways, like open- ing doors for her, walking on the outside of the side- walk, and coming to the door for her. One night Steve brought his guitar along and played and sang on a balcony ad- joining Rhonda’s apartment. She listened and was moved. Shared a religious faith They were also discover- ing that they shared a strong religious faith, a belief that the relationship between a man and a woman was a part of their relationship to God. Together, they were active in a local church youth group. Steve took Rhonda home to meet his family, and they took her in as one of their own immediately. Steve has five borthers and sisters, one of whom was adopted, but his family had also raised ten foster children. It was a household where newcom- ers were made welcome. Rhonda wds most welcome. It was clear now that Steve and Rhonda were for each other for keeps. Steve’s father said to him that if he ever had an argument with Rhonda not to bother com- ing to him about it, because Steve’s father would assume it would be Steve’s fault. Steve gave Rhonda an engagement ring on her birthday in June, 1970, nine months after they had met. They were married in Feb- ruary, 1971. Administrator at Schock Presbyterian Home In the summer of 1971 Steve was appointed admini- strator at Schock Presby- terian Home in Mount Joy. They moved here and lived for six months in Manheim. Then they moved into a big old white farmhouse near Route 441 and Cole- brook Road. In August, 1972 their daughter, Mich- ele, was born. This May, Steve will grad- uate in business administra- tion from Elizabethtown College. He has been at- tending school at night since he came here, getting more training for his career in health care administration. He is scheduled to become administrator at a new Pres- byterian home being con- structed at Oxford. Pa. “For better or worse” The Proctors don’t claim to have a perfect marriage. They admit to having argu- ments, Rhonda doesn’t think a marriage can be good without some argu- ments. But when they have disagreements, “We turn to our faith, and we pray about it. . .He doesn’t give in, and I don’t give in, all the time. We discuss it.” Steve says that he feels a lot of people don’t take the The Proctors have had a _ lot of tough financial times | since they were married. A lot of couples break up ove. arguments about the check- book. It would never occur to either of the Proctors 1 not to trust the other com- | pletely with the checkbook. Rhonda quotes the Gos- pels, “not to worry about what we will wear and what. we will eat.” She thinks that when money was very short, somehow, ‘‘miracu- lously,” they managed. Communication “Two become one” in marriage, which means to the Proctors that nothing is hidden from the other. They believe in absolutely free communication with each other about any concerns. Rhonda asks, “If you can’t be open with your husband - who can you be open with?” ~ The Proctors feel that marriage has changed since a generation or two ago, when many husbands and wives had an ‘““‘unspoken re- lationship with each other.” They feel that problems must be brought out in the open, discussed, and solved. Otherwise, the problems can grow big over the years, build up, and destroy a marriage. Rhonda says that she feels that the husband is, fundamentally, ‘“the head of the household.” But Steve quickly adds, “But the husband must never take advantage of that fact.” In their living room a family Bible is open to the 13th chpater of FirstCorin- thians: *. . .Love will never come to an end. ..” ——r Bruce Sutter February 26, 1975 Fob 2 > Bruce Sutter left Sun. for Cubs training camp Last Sunday Bruce Sut- ter of Mount Joy flew to Scottsdale, Arizona, to be- gin spring training as a pit- cher with the Chicago Cubs. After three years with teams in the Cubs system, Bruce gets his big chance with the Cubs, the first Mount Joy resident on a major league ball team since Bob Sprout. It only took Bruce three years to move up to the big-time. He made the move despite a bad elbow nerve in his throwing arm and a torn cartilage in his knee. Dr. Charles R. Winter of Lancaster relocated the nerve so that it doesn’t bother Bruce’s throwing. Dr. Winter also took care of the cartilage. Bruce can’t throw the fast ball anymore, which used to whizz past batters when he pitched for Done- gal High School and won the County Championship against Garden Spot with a three-hitter. Loss of the fast ball doesn’t bother Bruce, however, who has Letters to Editor Dear Editor: As you know the May- town Youth Organization has not disbanded, but will continue to sponsor recrea- tion for the youth of East Donegal Township. The MYO would like to thank the East Donegal Township Jaycees for the campaign they put on to get the people - members and parents - to come out to our February meeting. We would also like to thank the “Susquehanna Bulletin” for all the publi- city you gave to the MYO. The articles in the paper be- came the “talk of the town” and stirred up enough inter- est to get at least some of the people involved. So, thank you, “Susquehanna Bulletin” and East Donegal Twp. Jaycees, for caring and keeping us, the MYO, a going concern. We will be holding elec- tions at our next meeting, March 24, 7:30 p.m. at the former Legion home in May- town. All members are in- vited to attend. The MYO will hold base- ball registration on March 10 from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. at the Legion home. This is for boys and girls, ages 8 to 15. New children are asked to bring a birth certificate and all children are asked to bring a parent to the sign-up. The alternate registration date will be Saturday, March 15 from 10:00 a.m. to 12 noon. Thank you, once again, for all the help you have been to the Maytown Youth Organization. Sincerely, Pauline Henry Publicity Chairman MYO been perfecting his sinker and slider. ‘Fast balls can be hit too,” he says. Bruce told the Bulletin he learned to play ball from his father, Howard H. Sut- ter. He played in the mid- get midgets in Mount Joy. In high school he learned a lot, he says, from the late Don Staley and Al Brooks. They taught him “every as- pect of the game.” They taught him how to set up a batter and keep him off bal- ance. They also taught him “respect,” Bruce states. Bruce felt confident the day before he left for Ari- zona. He has learned a lot in his three years in the minor leagues. “Mostly con- trol and keeping the ball down,” he says. Although Bruce has been playing with some losing teams in the last few years, his earned run averages have been phenomenal. This fall his E.R.A. was an incredible 82. It was those low E.R.A.’s that brought him up to the majors in such a short time. DID YOU HEAR... Don Witman, DHS senior, has been selected to repre- sent Lancaster County in the 1975 National Music Education Convention in April. Don will be singing in Eastern Seaboard States Chorus. He is the son of Mr. and Mrs. S. Martin Wit- man of R. D. 1, Marietta. DID YOU HEAR... William A. (“Tex”) Lan- dis has received a certificate of merit from the National Merit Scholarship Qualifying Test. He is one of less than one-half of one percent of all high school seniors in the United States to qualify. Tex is the son of Dr. and Mrs. William B. Landis of Marietta.
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