The Mariettian. (Marietta [Pa.]) 1861-18??, May 30, 1863, Image 1
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Marriages and Deaths, She simple announcement, vacs ; but for any additional lines, five cents a line. A liberal deduction made to yearly and half yearly advertisers. Jos PRINTING of every description neatly and expeditiously executed, and at prices to suit the times. TEE PERFECT HUSBAND. A• light unto the morn, So time to hint unfolds her; As holds the light the day, So unto him he holds her. A fairer than himself, By One still brighter given, A somethingless of eaeth— A something more of heaven, He deems her not • saint.- 111,,laving she is hurnau And as he is a man, The dearer she as woman. Not doWn on her he looks,. Nor up to an "ideal, But straight into her ayes, And all his love is real. A. bends the sturdy tree To shade a pool of water, But itandeth I ke a rock When wind and torrent slaughter ; So bends he unto her. When gentlest her controling, 'No stands he as a wall When dangers round as. rolling. 'Tis not by greater.light, Or privilege. he rules her ; For 'Us his grace to yield, That in obeying echools her— And if the less himself, From troublous cause, or other, ID milder type he wears The spirit of his .mother. dia she may have a fault, - &o he may have a greater, ,(Ind sorrow_for his own ~Fur both is expiator— And if upon her sleeve she snares a . passing lolly lie frights it with a smile, And not with melancholy. Ile slaves her truth to him Fly no confining portal, Itut in himself reflects Its counterpart immortal. The freedom that he gis.,a Is taken from the doner— husband's faith may rent Upon a husband's honor. And ever as a chlid, When. childish-like he guides her ; And ever as a man, 'When she is strong he guides her ; Thrnugh sunshine and through shade, Through blessing And disaster, •In more than risme her friend, Inlessitian law her master. 0 lAD-FASHIONED II OS ItSTY.- A gentle. man states that, when a boy,he was one day in the office of his grand father, who bald a position under - the Federal Go vernment, and wishing to write, he was about taking a sheet of letter-paper from the desk. "What are you about there ?" said the old gentleman.— " Getting a sheet of paper," said the boy. "Put it back, sir, put it back l' exclaimed the strictly honest official, "that paper belongs to the Government or the United States l" [lt would be truly refreshing to be able to record such an instance as the above at the present time.--14105.--Sci. ontific Arperican. BOWING POTATOES.--This is a forma : Let each mese be of equal size.— Let the water boil before putting the potatoes in. When done, pour off the water sod scatter three or four table spoonsfull of salt, cover the pot with a Coarse- cloth, and return it , to the fire for a short time. Watery potatoes are made meetly by this process. Bow sim ple is the process, yet how few under stand it CLEANING GLANIL-M LE some fine whitening in a little dilute alcohol, and kikear it upon the glass with a soft rag, after which rub off with chamios leather. Looking•glasse■ may thus be cleaned, and . fly specks, ikc., removed. A western paper states that they eau heard of a eat nursing little pnpies, *sod whin' the little doge were, taken sway the oat became furione, and- eat etelikinj fly Waist dap: Ilkytittrtnt Vtaitsglinntia lournal : gitbettt* yittrature, Affriculturt, Betas of ikt gag, focal 3nttiligtutt, it. ADVICE TO A YOUNG LADY. "You are n4w married, and as is usual on such occasions, your friends and ac quaintances will profess-to wish you joy. Many will do so as an actof common civility, feeling little or nothing of the sentiment which the words import-- When, however, I express a solicitude for your welfare, I think I am entitled to the credit of meanintsomething more than the performance of.an empty, cere mony. But when congratulating you. I know nb' better way of proving the sincerity of my professions, thin by tendering you my advice as to some of the means I deem necessary to be 'pm sued in order to render your new situa tion a matter of real felicitation. "Young people'are very apt to think, if they think at all on the subject, that when they get married their cafes are all scattered to the winds, and that their happiness is secured for life; So far from the truth is such a thought, that when reality awakens them from the dream of uninterrupted bliss, they find their sorrows certainly doubled, and whether their joys are to be increased or not, depends mostly upon themselves ; and they will Atilt find causes enough to interrupt their happiness, though each should do their best to precentor coun teract them. One thing is certain, that the married state may be made more happy than the single life, or it may become a state of perfect wretchedaess ; and whether your present situation is to be better than that you exchanged for it, depends much or mostly on yourself. ft is therefore a matter the first in or der, as well as the first in importance to you, that you should endeavor to ascer tain the means best calculated to secure a continuance of that kappiness which doubtless you expected to experience in the wedded life. On this subject I will endeavor to assist you. "That you were happy during the pe riod spent in courtship, you will not deny. That you were so, arose - from the consciousness that you loved and were loved in return ; and from the pleasing hope or moral certainty that you would attain the object of your af fections. The hope is realized, and that you are happy now, you need no one to tell you. If it is the reciprocated effec tions of your husband which make you happy, it is yours which makes bim so ; hence, mutual affections constitute the source of connubial bliss ; and it is equally true that the infelicity of the married state, follows the loss of those affections. On the continuance of the affections, then, no less than on the choice of a husband, depends your hap pitiess in the wedded life. The means to insure a continuance of those affec tions, is the subject next in course for . your consideration. "So numerous are the instances in which married people have lost their af fections for each other, that the unre fleeting have hastily concluded, that it is easier t acquire them than attain them. If this be true, it goes to prove that you should be more assiduous to re tain the affections of yoUr husband, than you were to gain them, But it is not true to the extent which many believe. It, is verrunphilosophical to argue, that like causes do not prodUce like effects —or that the effect will cease, though the "cause be continued. • The truth mbst probably is, that when the affec• time of married people become extinct, it is owing to their neglect to continue the causes by which those affections were first elicited. What man in his senses, if he knew the disposition of the lady he addressed, would fall in love with a sour, sulky, brawling, ill natured woman ? It is the opposite qualities whfch he sees, or thinks he sees, in the lady of his choice, of which he becomes enamored. It is a countenance illu mined with smiles, eyes beaming with intelligence, s mouth flowing with sweetness and good nature—in short, deportment indicative of modesty, mild ness and benignity, to which he pays the homage of his heart. If such were the causes by which were quickened the tendeiness of the lover, rely on it that nothing short of those will insure the affections'of the husband; for when the causes subside, the effects must necessa rily cease, and then misery and wretch edness will become the inmates of your househo'd. "More of the happiness of married people is involved in their conduct du ring the first year, than in any succeed ing period of their connubial associa tion. There Bret probably but few in stances *here Oersons newly married do not aisoever,4 and that, tee; is se ft* 1:, • -i-i.......4 : :::::..#-...7: : - : ..,.411i-+ AFTER EIER MARRIAdE. mAT-.s.,:r.F 4 TT-4, P.A...,,-154.T7T.T.R.pxy,,..,KAY . - '3O _iBe3: period' of their matrimonial relation, each iu the other, some trait of charge. ter which had before escaped their ob servation—and much, very much, of the felicity of their lives, depends on the course they may pursue on those ,occa -810139. Should the newly discovered faults or follies of the. husband appear to' be such as to preclude .the hope of their being corrected, however unpleas ant the task, the wife's earnest- course wilt be to endeavor to accommodate her self to them. If she cannot bring her 'circumstances to her mind, the alterna tive is to try to bring her mind to her 'circumstances. Custom and habit tend to lessen the effect of evils which can not be destroyed ; and common pru dence will induce her to conceal from her husband her 'knowledge of those faults of his which she cannot expect to obviate because it will riot inctease his affections for her shorild he think that hers for him are in the wane. If a wo man would correct the faults or follies of her husband, she should refleot that she can only do, it by "means of her influ ence over him--that she has, in general, no other Influence than what arises from his affections for her—that'the continu ance of these depends on The Continu ance of the causes by which they were kindled,—and you may rest assured, that whatever female patience, mildness, good humor, arid tender affection cannot accomplish with a husband, frowns, sulks, sharp reproofs, and ill-natured re proaches can never achieve. By the former he may be soothed and softened into complaisance, and willingly led to abandon a foible or a fault ; but the latter will inevitably tend to sour. his mind, to curdle all the milk of human kindness in his bosom, warm his resent ment, excite his opposition, and confirm him in error. "My acquaintance with your husband has Mimed me to believe, that bis whole heart and soul accompany big af fections and aversions ; and that it de pends much pr mostly on the exercise of your prudence and discretion, wheth er he will be to you a kind and tender husband, or at unpleasant and nninter eating associate. Perhaps you are now about to ask, if the wife must make all and the• husband no sacrifice to promote connubial concord and domestic peace ? I mean no such thing—on the contrary, so much depends on your mutual en deavors, that without the husband's, the wife's cannot succeed. But the path I have pointed out for you to take, is the surest, nay the only one to be pursued to produce or continue -in hint ' the disposi tion.to a corresponding course of meas ures. Can that bi called a sacrifice which promotes ilomesoa blies ? As; well may he he said to sacrifice: his money who gives it for alarger sum. "You will be disappointed if you ex pect your husband's face always to be the sporting place of smiles and graces, or his mind at all times attuned to the soft melody of harmonious strains--- CAs well expect eternal sunshine, cloallesE skies, As men forever temperate, calm and wise' Sickness, disappointment, and perplexi-* ty in his busixess, and a thou.sand name less causes, cannot but sometimes oper ate to disturb his mind, depress his spirits and becloud his visage ; produ cing, perhaps unusual taciturnity, or a strain of language not remarkable for its millifluent cadences. This is not the occasion on which he is, to be met with a corresponding deportment on the part of his wife. It is rather the time when, the exercise of all her philosophy is in. dispensable, a time when her temper is to be tried, her heart probed, and her affections put to the test; the time when, by her kind, soft, and sympathizing lan guage, and a countenance and conduct bearing testimony to its sincerity, that he is to be comforted at least with the reflection, that he has a friend in adver sity as well as in prosperity, a partner in his sorrows as well as in his joys. I may possibly be singular in the opinion, but I could never entertain the fullest confidence even in the virtue of that fe- . male whose sympathies could not be ex. cited by the sorrows of others ; and surely a wife can never appear so inter esting and amiable in the eyes of her husband, as when sees her melting with kindness to him, and sorrowing for his sorrows. In short it should be the object of your unremitted attention, to make him feel that his home is a place of refuge from his cares, a sanctuary from the frowns of adverse fortune, and he will seek it as naturally as he would desire his own felicity. But when a husband ceases to regard his home as the happiest place on, earth, he . would shun it as he would fly from his troililes'; and es it eftei happens; will take the road to rutn, ancl seek at the ale-house, the gaming -table, or more indeueut, places, a refuge from domestic broils, the consequences ofleirieb, thetighofien teen, are too disgtistiag for . detail. - "It - could nof be deemed . a compliment to your busband's taste,' to - suppose he will be entirelYiedtfferenh- to your ocll dress, or PleaSed to see. you - Careless in this reepecf, either at home-- or abroad. Those wives have not reflected ranch, who think a slipshod' slattern hazards nothing of her husband's good opinion or that the hick of neatness in domestic dress is not a certain indication of her indolence and the disordered aspects of her habitation. 'lryour husband loves you,'he Could not but feel sotriewhat of disappoiotment, should the personal ap pearance of his wife be much inferior to that of the girl he courted, or to the igen. • erality of those females with. whom you may happen to associate. He cannot but makecomparisons, and it should be your care , tha,f they should,not result in your disadvantage. _ ..Extravaganc.e in dress should also be avoided as ill calculated, to increase the respectability of a married lady, and it sometimes occasions surmises , nowise creditable to the female character. •In deed, you ought, by consulting,your hue- band's wishes in thigi respect, to leave him not a doubt, that your dress is fashioned to meet his approhation, more than to attract the gaze or gain, the ad miration of any or every other person. It• may be, thought, perhaps, by some that the dress of the wife is, to the hus band, a matter of very trifling conse quence ; but 'rely upon , it, the e f fect . of disregarding his opinions on this subject, is not always wholly unimportant. ...You have doubtless seen and heard enough to knOW, that nothing short of crime can more impair the rnspedtability of a married lady, than often being seen at public plades unattended by her hus band. " , Should yours have no desire" to be thrUnged with company a!, home, nor di position to seek it abroad ; or shetild von unfortunately aspire to live in a style inconsistent _with his feelings or resources, I have already said 'enough to show yon, that no .y action of yours eavor ing of opposition, no kkok.soured with disappointment, nor expression tinctur ed with reproach, will dispose him the, more to gratify your wishes.. That such means cannot.succeed. with a man of sense and.ipirit, is as obvious as the in discretion -'through Which .they are adopted. ' "Abrupt contradiction of any one, though sometimes the effect of an un guarded moment, is generally regarded as a sure indication of low and vulgar hreeding ; but such conduct in a wife towards a husbapd, seldom fails to ren der him ridiculous and her contemptible in 'the estimation of all , who may happen to witness such at instance of her folly and imprudence. Much of the.tespect ability of the wise, is reflected from the husband`; and when fAle';',by her india- cretion, lessens his, she itiAlure to sink her-own in public estimation. "To conclude—l have voluntarily and perhaps officiously offered you my...coun sel, and the best my judgeMent can af4 fOrd. My motive , is your good but it depends on yourself 'whether or not it will be useful .to 'you. But keep this letter by you. and if at theiiilad of three or four' years,.you shall think,,yourself not benefited by,its contents, you have my assent to burn*. "That the blessinga of health, peace, and prosperity may attend you through life, is the sincere wish and earnest hope of your friend." ear At a country town, one Sunday evening, fatigued with his long journey a wagoner, .with his son John, drovehis team into a good rang, and determined to pass the Sabbath enjoying a season of worship with the' good folks of the village.. When the time for worship arrived, •John was sent to. watch the team, while the wagoner went in with the crowd. The. preacher had hardly announced his subject' . before the old man fell sound asleep. Hi ;sat against the partition in the centre of the body slip ; just over against him, seperated only by a very loci partition, sat a fleshy lady, who seemed all absorbed' in the sermon. She struggled hard with her. feelings, but unable to control them any longer she burst out with a load scream, and shouted to the top other voicn, arousing the •old Man; who, but half awake, threw his arms around her waist and cried, very soothingly hoa Nancy l' whoa, Nancy I Here John," • canine his sen;'cicut the'lbelly-band and loosen ibet'brelkingl'fgqiCk she'll , tsar vrerythiagi' ..; 1 1_1:31-11 11 1854 Profession and Practice, Twnikiiids-of witnesses are often 'en countered in courts of justice-4h., un willing *Ruse, and the tnewilling , Wit- Deis. Here'is one who daesetreeein to• come under either category. Tbe . piolectiting atteiney 'thus ad= dresses • "Mi. Parks; state, if yon •• please.; whether the defendant; to:your know]; edge.'has ever followed any profession." "Ile bad - been c professoreversiiice I have known him." ! , st profosoor of what 17. "A ,profeoso; of *eon." . • "You dot understood we, Mr. Parks. What• does } I)e,do "Well, generally what be . pleases."; "Tell • thejury, Mr. Parks, whet .the defendant follows." "Gentlemepo(lhe jury„the Oefeodant follows, the crowd THheia they go to - ,• • "AIL Parks, ,this kind otprevation will not do here. Now, state, sir, :how t h e defendant ,supports bitnitelf." "I saw him last night supporting him selr against a,.lamp - post." !gNiny .your Honor, this wa nes sholvkan evident disposition .to tri fle with this, honorable, court." The Oourt-"Mr. Parks, elite, if you know anytlliog a.bout it. what the de. fendant'a occupation is. Pie court, let , me, say, haE§ no idea that you mean to be dieingenious." "Occupation, did you say,,eir" "Occupation;' answered the.judge. "Yeb," echoed the counsel. "What ie.his occupation 7" • "If 1 am not mistaken, he occupies_ a garret somewhere in town." "That's all, Mr. Parks. understand you to say that the defendant ie - a' pro . fessor,orreligion 4 oRe is. . . "Does his piactice coriespondent with his 'profeisiori ?" • "I.' never hpard °tatty correspondence or letters of any kind." "Iran said ecHnOthing shod?. his pros pensiti for drinking. Doe's in drink hard ?" ' "No, sir 1 `l' think he drinks as easy as any maw I . ever saw." "One more question, Mr." Parks--you have known this nefendant-aj long time. What are - his babits—rointe- or other wise ?" "The one - he has got on noir, I think, ie rather,.tight under the acme--it is `cer tainly too short waisted for the faith- ion." "You can take yiitir seat, Tvti. Fait's." • Canativ!—A lady had a' magnificent cat. Mrs. Jones neighbor, ordered her man servant to kill it, as it alarmed, her canary. The lay sent mousetraps to all her friends, and - When two or three hundred mice were caught, she had them put into a box, which was forwarded to the cruel neighbor, who eagerly opened what she hoped was some elegant pres ent, when out jumped ;the mice, to her great'horror and filled her house. At the hottern of the boa she founds paper diiected to her, from her 'neighbor, say ing, "Madam, as you my cat, I take the liberty of sending 'you - my mice., . ABOUT SIGARS.—Some speculative . philosopher r ays that the eigars consum ed throughout the country in one year; would make a worm fence 6 feet high" around the- District of Columbia; and air expelled .in smoking them would drive the Banks 1. xpadition round the world . with.enough over to do g the wind work of all the patent medicines in the United States. isr Mrs: Fitidragon has long- been waiting to visit Highgate-Wood Cemei tery, and the othei day 'she said. to her husband, "You hive never taken'me to the cemetery." "No. dear; that is a pleasure I haVe yei had' only in anticipa tion."--[VVIIO Said "Wretch ?"] Gir "Halloo, Fred, what are you wri ting—poetry V' "Yes," said Fred "I'm writing an owed (ode) to. my tail or." "What's the time and-tope ?" continued Tdm. "Time, -sixty , days," replied Fred. "It's set to notes °tango in his possession." The - Bangoi Whig lids heaid of 'a slut hound; in that regidn, that adopted and suckled a' litter of young foxes, the tooth'ei'of Which she had killed. Why is'the .American flag like the stare in '•heaven; . Beeime the stars (and stripea):ean't be pulled down. Ifinonity ituour,Godi. it will be Cep., folirtwilsgsWyen-Poi tie WI; NO. 44-.' 1:41[01e141110 A !Jecness.—Harper's .'Drawer.' ccintains , this "ear,Aling" an- ecdote : The - enrolling officer of Hailsbury District, ,Maryland, wasyery active and thorcugh in the perforrn,ance of his duty. One day- he went to the house of a countryman, and finding none Of the male, members of the family •at home, made inquiry of an old *omen, the num her and age of the "males" of the fam ily. After naming.several, the old lady stopped. : 4 . • "Is there no one else reAskeilklus. oil- En "No!" replied the , vroman,unone ez cept Billy Bray,'? "Billy• Bray I where is he "Ha was at the barn a moment um": said the old lady. Out went . the officer, but could not see the man.. Coming back, the - worthy officer questioned the old lady as to the age Billy, and went away, after enroll ing his name among Uwe- to be drafted. Time of the drafting came, and one of those on whom the lot fell was Billy Iray. • No, one knew him. Where did helive ? The officer who enrolled him was call 4 on to produce him, and, 1 0, behold, Billy. Bray wi;s a jackass I and stands now on the list of drafted men•es forming'one of the quota of Maryland. The following rich scene i 8 stiid to have lately occurred in one of the Courts of justice between thejiidge and a Dptch witness all the way front Rot terdam : Judge--"ViThat's your native language?" pe no native. Ise'a Dootchman." J.—" What's your mother tongue:?" W.—"Oh, fader pay she pe all tongue." J. in , an irritable tone)—What language did yon speak in the- cradle ?" W.—"l tid not no lan guage in to cradle _ speak , at all ; I only cried in Dutch." • • itir A precocious youth, a student in an . academy, not fifty miles from Delhi, not laving the fear of , seceah be fore him, and instigated by , the spirit of truth ; being asked in his geography what they raised in South. Carolina, re plied, "They used to raise niggers and cotton, but . . now they are raising the devil." sir A Yankee boy had a whole Dutch cheese set. before him by a waggish friend who, however, gave him no knife; "This is a funny cheese, Uncle Joe, but a here shall ',cut it ?" "Oh," said the grinning friend, "cut it where you like." "Very well," said the Yankee, coolly putting it under his arm, "I'll cut it,at home." 40 . It is a very Singular thing, said a tuner's aftptentice to . his, master, that the less there is of a thing. the more theie flow can that be? eaid'the Why there's that bobtail coat —the less you make "the tail the more boir it is. • sir_ w hat are,the points of difference between the Prince of , Wales, - an or phan, a bald .head, and a gorilla t -Th• Prince is heir apparent,ran orphan has ne'er a parent, a bald head has no - hair apparent, and:a gorilla has a hairy pa. rent, - GirThe gentleman who returned his neighbor's borrowed umbrella was seen a day or two ago walking in company with the young lady who passed a look ing glass without taking a peep. It is believed they are engaged. sr At a fancy ball; in Paris a mar cbioness is describCd to appearing cov ered with ivy. The character she re presentsd is not stated, but we surmise it must Mast have been an old rain—her husband I Garldiss Young, the female Blondin, hiti broken one of her legs and it: can't be mended. She has danced through a good part of her life, and must hobble through the rest—like a good many oth. era. ir A marriage is noticed-in the Dux bury Times, in which the uithairii pair are unusually explicit in - etktiug their pbeitiou. They say "b"o:'earcll4.tin re ceptibrie, no weddingjoui." F far "I'll pay yobikt, ' t,v., , se I to,the blind van said tii , the ' r, rho , bad in vain attemped' to film or blindness. - ' ' fr.4 ` ' Aar The moon is fitiald - at, friit Ii made, of green cheese," ably inbabited. . The.best, preventive' of fitt,t, to bny.your clothes at, s -sloptkopt,i, eun ilidoCtosf f 6 1ViiVii 1 After nes w