Harrisburg telegraph. (Harrisburg, Pa.) 1879-1948, January 21, 1919, Page 5, Image 5

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    IMPS Readiivj all the RvwiKj flPjff
A Series of Plain Talks to
C. Beery, A.8., MA. r^SR'
Frcrident of the Parents Association. \^,
"Now, now, why Dorothy, I'm
shamed of you, is that the way I
old you to act in company?" Well,
The child looks up_ sheepishly,
uts a knuckle into her mouth and
urns her back. The mother has
ven her a lesson—an impressive j
jsson and ono from which tho bad .
isults will be hard to erase.
It so often happens that the very 1
arents who do not seem to know !
ow to give lessons that induce posl
ve, desired results are the ones |
ho succeed in making the most im- |
ressive lessons of the wrong kind. !
Than child training there is no !
ibject of greater importance and, i
ot unlike other important subjects, j
needs to be studied carefully by
lose who have charge of children.
One mother writes to me:
"What can I do to get my five- j
ear-old daughter to answer ques
ons that people ask her? I some
mes feel so ashamed of her and
et all the methods I have tried have
one her no good. In fact, she seems
lore backward now than ever."
You and others no doubt have
lught your daughter to bo back
ard but all unconsciously.
Here is the way It usually hap-
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r light brown, whichever shade you
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"It is safe, it does not rub off, is
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The Swift Dollar
for 1918
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The above diagram shows the distribution of he
average Swift dollar received from sales of beef, pork
and mutton, and their by-products, during 1918.
1919 Year Book of interesting and
instructive facts sent on request
' Address Swift & Company
Union Stock Yards, Chicago, Illinois
Swift & Company, U. S. A.
Harrisburg Local Branch, Seventh & North Streets
F. W. Covert, Manager
pens: some stranger wants to be
friendly with the child and asks
some questions. A perfectly natural
reserve in a child, who has not spe
cifically been taught to answer ques
tions asked by strangers, will cause
him to remain silent until the par
ent whom he trusts gives him some
intimation that it is proper to ans
But a parent, not understanding
this, often will do just the wrong
thing and ask the child why "he
doesn't talk. This not only seems
to center attention more denitely
upon the child (a thing bad in it
self in this particular situation) but
the question as to why the child
doesn't talk suggests that he was ex
pected to talk at first and didn't:
therefore, he takes it as fault-find
Bet us now strike the course of
the trouble. It is the fear in an
adult that his actions or words or
appearance will not meet with tho
approval of those whom he meets
that causes him to feel ill-at-ease in
the presence of other adults. And
so it is with the child. Any fault
finding when in front of others is de
cidedly wrong.
When a child has one experience
in a given situation that is painful
or unpleasant, he wants to avoid a
similar situation in the future. The
more often he has unpleasant ex
periences, the more inclined will he
be to sidestep the situations that
cause them.
Now that we thoroughly under
stand the situation, we can easily
see that tha desired attitude of open
ness and self-confidence can be se
cured by managing to make the
meeting of people a pleasant experi
ence. Instead of finding fault, ap
prove your child about something.
All childreh like approval and they
like the situations in which they are
If your child seems slow to ans
wer, take the attention more away
from him instead of putting more
on as is so often done. Answer the
question for the child in a naive
way using "w,e" and then quickly
change the subject.
If you want to get a response from
a child, ask about some concrete
action or thing which in itself is in
teresting to him. For example, ask
a boy something about his new air
gun, or ask a girl if she puts dolly
to sleep in her little bed. Then show
just a natural interest in the re
sponse and change the subject.
Manage your daughter as sug
gested and shd gradually will show
an improvement.
Bringing Up Father - 1 '- Copyright, 1918, International News Service -*- By Mel!anus
I--™"'l /-a. |ss'L |Tow r oi | n
" When a Girl "
A New, Romantic Serial Dealing With the" Absorbing
Problems of a Girl Wife
"Pat lunches here almost every day
—shall you mind if he walks in on
us?." asked Carlotta Sturges, wav
ing the waiter aside to serve our
chicken Clinsarge and artichoke.
"Is that why you brought me here
—to see how I'd take a meeting with
my—brother-ih-law?" I asked, won
dering if Carlotta meant to confide
in me after all.
But Carlotta only leaned across the
table and put her hand over mine.
"Anne Harrison," she said, "I liked
you from the first. And you stood by
me at the canteen the other day.
You're a thoroughbred. And if I can
ever do anything for you—why. name
it. But in the meantime I want you
to answer one question. Will you?"
"I'll try," I replied earnestly to
her earnestness.
"Well, now, it's this: Do you see,
any harm in my being friends with
Pat Dalton? He's married, I know,
but he isn't living with his wife.
Now, I don't see why he should be
cut off from friends and companions
while he's trying to find out what
Mrs. D. proposes to make of the
smashed-up bits ot their lives. Do
"Not when you put it that way," I
agreed unwillingly.
"How else can I put it?" cried
Carlotta, her eyes bright with tri
umph or some other even more stim
ulating feeling.
"Pat Dalton and Virginia are mar
ried. They're separated—that's true.
But perhaps they'll find each other
again. I think marriage is a—
permanent thing—not just what the
minister has said, but how people
have felt. That ought to be—
Carlotta narrowed her eyes and
tapped the fingers of one hand nerv
ously against the back of the other.
"Evidently you don't believe in di
vorce. Evidently you think—hope
even—that if no one." she hastily cor
rected herself, 'that If nothing comes
between Pat—and Virginia, they'll
find each other again instead of
something just as good.' That's it—
isn't it?"
"That's it." I agreed gravely, won
dering how she would take it.
She sat quite still and motionless j
for a moment, staring ahead of her !
with sphinx eyes. Then a glitter of
mischief came into them, and she
turned to me almost saucily.
"I warned you—but you didn't
hurry. Here comes Pat now. And
guess who's with him?."
Put before I could guess, a voice of
greeting sounded over my shoulder:
"Hel-10, Lady Tenant! So you've
found the best restaurant in town.
Patrick Kerence O'Maragh Dalton and
I drop in for a bite now and again—
and to-day I think we've found fine
company—unless you object to Dal
His voice was so unruffled—so as
sured—that only by affronting Pat
could I hope to rid myself of Tom
Mason's unwelcome company.
So all in the next minute our ta
ble was stretched to accommodate
four—and the men ordered cocktails,
in which Carlotta almost defiantly
joined them.
"This is a cosy little foursome,"
Tom Mason declared jovially after his
second drink. "Suppose you girls
fool round over your sweets a bit,
and then we'll take you.to a matinee
or for a spin up the road in Pat's
little new car."
Carlotta beamed and clapped her
"Oh. that'll be jolly—we'll go up
the road and have a dance and some
tea, and I promise to make the boys
drink tea too. Anne."
I vinced—as much at her Intimate
use of my name as at the situation.
"I couldn't." I said—and then re
peated In uninspired fashion—"l
"Why not?" asked Pat. a little belli
gerent. "You were happy enough
till I came—is It me you're after ob
jecting to, Mrs. Jimmie?"
"Oh. no—you know it isn't that,
that, didn't I have tea with you?" I
cried unguardedly, stupidly—and re
gretted on the very period to my
word that I hadn't bitten my tongue
out when I began the sentence.
"Tom and you—Pat and I. I chap
erone you, you chaperone me," laugh
ed Carlotta.
Tom Mason leaned forward. Inclin
ing his body toward me in the lit
tle intimate way he has of seem
ing to shut off the world and make
it a place with room in it for only
the two of us.
"A chaperone." he chuckled. "A
chaperone! But you can take tea
alone with this scamp of a Pat he
chaperone! That's more than your
husband had when I saw him and a
pretty little, snaky little Oriental
brunette Rneaking into the Old Hand
ley, when I stopped there for a cock
tail before I met Pat."
Carlotta snickered.
"There's something sacred about
marriage, Mrs. Jimmie. You said it.
Come on. be a good fellow. You
chaperone me—l chaperone you
and we beat the boys at their own
game." i
I rose, with sudden resolution that
brought the men to their feet.
"Didn't I tell you when we met
that I'd an engagement?" I asked, ly
ing by implication even while I stay
ed just within the truth. "Well. I'm
on my way to see Virginia. This was
a delicious luncheon. I hope my
Jimmie and his little secretary fared
half as well—they're so busy they
have to work even at mealtime."
"You're on your way to see
Jeanie?." murmured Pat Dalton, hold
ing my hand in his as if he meant
never to let it go.
Then he flung it from him —and
turned to the others:
"Well, that needn't- keep us from
spinning up the road—need it?"
But he didn't ofTer to take me to
my destination in the new car.
(To be continued.)
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taking a convenient little tablet four
times each day until your weight is
reduced to normal. That's all—Just
purchase a ease of Marmola Prescrip
tion Tablets from your druggist (or
if you prefer, send 75C to Marmola
Co., 864 Woodward Ave., Detroit,
Mich.) and follow directions. No
dieting, no exercise. Eat what you
want be as lazy as you like and
keep on getting slimmer. And the
best part of Marmola Prescription
Tablets Is their ljarmlessnes*. That
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Urge your skin to become fresher,
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Poslam Soap, medicated with, Poslam.
Much superstition in regard to
beauty is abroad in the world, I
mean the beauty of human beings.
And, above all, of course, the beauty
of women.
Beauty in women has been so
greatly praised that we have come
to overvalue it. Women themselves
believe it to be of great and serious
importance. Their eyes are continu
ally in search of it, in each other,
in the multitude about them. The
talk of beauty ip on their lips. And
when there's no trace of beauty
whatever, superstition and panic take
the field.
The beauty-cult has so obsessed
us that many women believe they
can only obtain success, happiness,
love, in proportion as they are beau
A frivolous young creature who
knows that she Is classified as a
"pretty girl" believes she has her
equipment for life. The poor child
is encouraged to think that by mere
ly exploiting her piquant profile or
her pink complexion she can secure
her share of the world's gifts with
out taking very much trouble to
develop any qualities she may have
of mind or character.
"While the girl who is frankly
without a trace of beauty under
stands even from a child that she
is almost unconquerably handi
capped. She finds the whole world
patiently, stupidly believing that a
woman must be beautiful to be j
loved, and that without love life is a
pretty poor thing, scarcely worth
If a girl who has had this sort of
training becomes melancholy, des
perate, without courage, who can
blame her? There's deep suffering
involved in believing that because
one was horn with a certain kind
of face one is forever nn outcast
i'rom all the joy and shining reality
of life. And it's a kind of suffer
ing that is pitifully frequent even
now, as I suppose it has been al
Heartbreaking letters come to me
from the victims of it. Girls who
have not beauty and who know thqy
haven't, and who weep through long
wakeful nights because they lack the
one precious thing that they believe
all women are hound to display up
on the highway of the world. Gljds
who cry but for some shred of com
fort for their blank comfortlessness.
It's all a silly superstition, anil a
wicked one. Wicked, because of the
suffering that it causes.
That beauty Is powerful cannot be
depled. But there are other forces
In the world than beauty.
A beautiful woman sometimes
seems a supremely conquering crea
ture. Yet sometlihes she has less
influence on the current of life about
her than a drawing that hangs on
the wall.
As to Beauty's lUvul
And most Interesting of all, the
woman who is frankly devoid of
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beauty, but who has something else
that counts, often far outdistances
the woman who depends wholly on
her exterior.
Don't let anyone persuade you
that the unbeautiful woman never
triumphs in life and love. She tri
umphs often. And her triumphs
are secure ones, because they don't
depend on light and shadow—that
Is, on the substance of illusion.
Look carefully and undcrstand
ingly about the world, you girls j
| who believe yourselves cursed by
straight, thin hair or by dull com
plexions or irregular features. Stop
listening to those too often repeated
tales .of the supremacy of beauty
and the tragedy of ugliness and see
what the facts are.
"You'll get a great deal of en
couragement from your investiga
tion and a truer idea of the really
important things.
Terhaps you'll even come to the
conclusion that beauty alone—
beauty in the sense of perfection of
line and color —doesn't attract very
forcibly nf.er all unless it's joined
with something else. Cold, passive
loveliness is sometimes let rather
severely alone.
Perhaps you'll find that the beau
tiful women who are powerful,
1 either in promoting happiness or
creating havoc have something else
after all besides radiant smiles and
shining eyes.
Perhaps it's piquancy, a kind of
bewitchment or diablerie, the kind
of thing that infatuates men, makes
thcip exquisitely miserable. Per
haps it's just a curve of the mouth
or a note in the voice or some
provoking little trick or subtlety of
Large Natures Attract
Or perhaps it's something very
much better than this. Perhaps it's
the influencu that's exhaled by a
really big nature and a thoroughly
warm heart. You'll find that the
woman who is not self-centered,
who has a heart big enough for a
host of friendships, and for tha
troubles likewise of people who are
not her friends, attracts love and
lovers even if she is totally unbeau
tiful. She has reality, you see, and
that is so much better than the
thin, monotonous skin-deep charm
of the merely pretty woman whose
eyes are always furtively seeking the
flattery of a mirror. •
Of perhnps it's some one definite
gift, like wit, or tact, or sweetness
of nature.
If you were just being born, and
your fairy godmother offered you
your choice of gifts, would you
choose beauty?
If you did you would make a
great mistake.
So if you have been living for
twenty years or so with the idea
that because you are not beautiful
or even pretty, your life is wasted.
I urge you to drop this totally false
idea and begin all over again.
Make the best you can of any
"good points" you have, and after
you have done that, try not to give
any more thought to that over-dis
cussed subject of beauty.
If you have real interests and real
friends, and health and energy, you
have the essentials for a happy life.
Don't give up all the fun you'll have
in living it just because you're self
, consciously and superstitiously
I aware that your nose Isn't straight.
Look at tongue! If feverish,
bilious, constipated,
take no chances.
"California Syrup of Figs" can't
harm tender stomach,
liver, bowels.
Don't scold your fretful, peevish
child. See If tonKUe is coated; this
is a sure sign Its little stomach, liver
and bowels are cloggod With sour
When listless, pale, feverish, full
of cold, breath bad, throat sore,
doesn't eat, sleep or act naturally,
has stomach-ache. Indigestion, di
arrhoea. give a teaspoonful of "Cali
fornia Syrup of Figs." and in a few
hours ail the foul waste, the sour.
bile and fermenting food passes out I
of the bowels and you have a well |
i and playful child again. Children
i love this harmless "fruit laxative,"
and mothers can' rest easy after
giving it, because it never fails to
make their little "insides" clean and
Keep It handy, Mother! A little
given to-day saves a sick child to
morrow, but get the genuine. Ask
your druggist for a bottle of "Cali
fornia Syrup of Figs," which has
directions for babies, children of all
ages and for grown-ups plainly on
the bottle. Remember there are
counterfeits sold here, so surely look
and see that yours is made by the
"California Fig Syrup Company."
Hand back with contempt any other i
Og syrup.
JANUARY 21, 1919.
Advice to the Lovelorn
How long Shall She Wait?
Dear Miss Fairfax:
I am a girl of twenty and care for
a young man. He| has asked me to
wait two and a half years for our
marriage, which I think is too long,
please advise me what to do.
D. S.
This would be a long engagement,
but perhaps it is not too long if the
wait is necessary and if you really
love each other. But I fear that no
| body who does not know all the clr
[ cumstances can profitably advise
I you in this matter. The best way
|is to talk it out thoroughly and
j frankly with tho young man him
self and arrive together at an agree
Is He Fascinated?
Dear Miss Fairfax:
I am very much in love with a
IWiimaceln Sale 1
The Sides & Sides Stock |
of Men's Furnishings §
which consists of the following lines: D
Finest silk, silk lisle and cotton 1
ss Very finest grades of exclusive jl
i silk neckwear — |L
|j Pure silk and fine madras shirts— 1:
1 Full dress shirts— Bi
m Vests for formal and informal
wear — - B:
1 Mufflers-pajamas,
robes, laundry bags— 1
I Summer and winter underwear— §1
B Flannel negligee shirts —
i Dress gloves, auto gloves, white |§
1 dress gloves— 1
W Collars, umbrellas and walking §j
| sticks— ||
The entire stock is being removed to |||
j k1 Kaufman's store and will be ready shortly a*
; is for the big sale —which will afford the men [II
; M of this town an opportunity to stock up at ||
||| prices for high class furnishings which will
bjj meet their fondest dreams. gj
1 Watch for the date — I
I Wait for the Sale 1
I Von want a diploma from thla achool aad a credential from
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young lady who says that I am
merely fascinated. Kindly explain
the difference between love and fas
cination. I think of her all day
long. G. C.
Isn't this young lady something of
a coquette? Still sho is right in
maintaining that love and fasclnat-,,.
tlon are not the same. One of the,"
differences between them ia that
fascination is transient. So if you
wait six months, you can surely tell
whether your feeling is really love
or not.
Every bit of dandruff disappears .
after one or two applications of Dan- .
derine rubbed well into the scalp
with the finger tips. Get a small
bottle of Danderlne at any drug
store for a few cents and save your
hair. After several applications you
can't find a particle of dandruff or
any falling hair, and the scalp will,
never itch.