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0 MAKING THE MOST OF, f\
OUR CHILDREN V
A Series of Plain Talks to
Parents -
W|P' ** Ray C. Bry, A.8., ||Sw
a * xx President of the Parents Association.
(Copyrighted. 1918, by The Parents Association, Inc.)
Tt would soem at first thought
that any home affording protection
and supplying good things to eat an%
wear ought to satisfy a boy.
And yet, when we come to ponder
the question, we realize that these
conditions alone are not the only fac
tors determining happiness by any
means. A boy nYUst have sympathy,
he must have encouragement, ho
must have some one to appreciate 1
him. Otherwise, he will not be satis- j
fied.
Thousands of children to-day who
are given adequate shelter and phys- i
leal nourishment are far from satis- I
fied with the home environment. ]
Children not satisfied at home, na-|
turally will go elsewhere, and so we I
have problems of keeping children j
interested in their homes.
To take a simple case, one mother j
writes:
"Wyi you please tell me what to
do with a boy ten years old who
won't stay home? All he thinks of is
going. When he finishes his break
fast, if I don't keep close watch on
him, he is gone. We get him every
thing he needs, but he likes to roa<
all over town."
Your boy thinks he gets more
pleasure in going away from home
than he does at home. That is the :
principal cause of his .wanting to got
all the time. Therefore, it would bo I
a* good thing for you to learn what j
he does away from home that is so
fasei/ating. Does he fly kites? Make
it a point to talk to hint and his
playmates in a friendly way. When
you discover what Interests him
most, perhaps you could introduce
something of a like nature at home,
which in connection with your own
encouragement and friendly co-oper
atipn would keep him at home in a
most natural way.
He should devote at let%t a part of
each day to certain regular duties—
not merely for the sake of things ac
complished, but for his own good.
The performance of duty is whole
some. Get him to make you some
flower boxes or something of that
kind which requires the use of tools
and thus you will have an excellent
opportunity to approve him on his
ability and industriousness. Show
some enthusiasm. Don't merely say,
"That's right." Open up a bit. Laugh
,-y.vith him, show some real life. Ad
'mire his work. Make lots of sugges-[
tions, all tending to make him like
the work. At first it is advisable not
to mention points that could have
been improved but put all your at
tention on the good points.
Instead of keeping such close
watch on this boy after breakfast to
keep him from running off, change
your plan a little. For example, ar
range to have him speak to you be
fore leaving the premises. Have him
tell you also where he is going. Then,
when you know this, you can grant
him the privilege or not Just as you
see fit, and under this arrangement
you will have more control than un
der your present plan.
Some time, just aftor you have
been having a good time with him
or have shown him some appreci- (
atod consideration and he is in the |
best spirits, talk to him somewhat j
in this fashion: "Harold, I have a 1
new plan that I want you to help j
me carry out. If anyone should come J
hero to see you and couldn't stay i
long, and you did not happen to •
be home, I would want, to know ex- J
actly where to find you so that you j
and the visitor could get to see each
other. Then, too, I might want you :
to do something for mo or I might
want you to go some place with me !
and I wou>d want to know Just
whero you were. So starting with
to-morrow morning, I shall usk you
to come to me to-morrow before
leaving the yard still, and tell me
whero you are going. "You chn re
member this, can't you?"
When trying to gain control of a
boy who is out of control, don't try
U> go too fast. Bring him back into
control gradually. Gain one little
point at a time and be absolutely I
firm. Don't argue with him. Simply
tell him in a calm way what you'
DON'T STARVE THE KIDDIES I
The growing bodies of children need food |
that builds muscle, bone and brain and is
easily digested. Donf allow your food- |
i saving to deprive the kiddies of need: • m
led nourishment. When you give them
wheat food be sure if is the whole wheat ||
Shredded Wheat I
is the whole wheat prepared in a digestible I t
fbrm.ltis ready<oked,ready-toserve and requires Ml
no sugar Serve it with hot milk and a dash of salt J
THURSDAY EVENING, ' HAKMSBURG IfiKV DECEMBER 26, 1918. "
want. If he forgets or for any rea
son tiji/a to obey, treat him friendly
and Ift the proper time announce to
him again deliberately what you ex
pect.
So many parents make the mis
take of finding fault and giving the ,
boy the idea that he Is hopeless and j
that they do not understand him. i
The better way is to approve all, !,
points in the boy that are at all l
j praiseworthy, to show him that he is
! appreciated, that his nature and
|needs aro understood perfectly and
finally to expect confidently right
I conduct on his part.
| A boy treated in the manner pre
i scribed not only will be satisfied with
I his home but his conduct generally
1 satisfying to his parents.
Actor Folk Celebrate
Holiday With Hard Work
Among those who are unfortunate
enough to be away from their homes
on Christmas Day are the actor folk,
in fact, Christmas to them means a
day of extra work. But the vaude-.
ville folks who were playing the first
three days of the week at the Ma
jestic were not permitted to lose sight
of the merry side of the holiday. On
Christmas Eve the stage of the Ma-
I jestic Theater, following the last per-
I formance, was converted into a large
dining hall, and with Wilmer ailh Vin
| cent as the host, the performers and
all of the firm's local employes started
in to eat and make merry.
There were almost 100 persons pres
ent when Caterer Frank Davenport
began to serve the Christmas Eve
| lunch. Fifteen of these people were
actors and actresses appearing at the
theater; the remainder being made up
of the many employes of Wilmer and
Vinuccnt Theater Company at the Ma
jestic. Orpheum and Colonial theaters.
Everybody who is in any way associ
ated with the Filmer and Vincent pay
roll in Harrisburg was invited, and al
most everybody responded.
It was a night when the actors and
actresses were shown that all of the
talent in the world does not travel
on the stage, for of the eighty or more
employes of the various theaters there
were many who sang or in some other
manner entertained the crowd. Harry
Beck, the popular property man at
the Majestic, made such a hit with
his songs that three of the acts ap
pearing on the bill immediately made
him offers to go on the road with
them.
Then the professional performers
. repaid the compliment by singing
[ some songs and doing other things in
the line of entertainment that were
not In their regular acts. The Misses
Pdula and DeNprl sang several duets,
Martin and Webb put over some com
edy numbers, the children of the Capps
Family demonstrated their veratility,
j Oscar Stamm, the strong boy from
Uncle Sam's Navy, did his bit, and the
monkeys on the bill went through
some new stunts.
Wednesday afternoon the entire
company from the Majestic went to
the Almshouse and presented their
show.
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State Buildings
Washington, Dec. 26. —Secretary of
the Treasury Glass, yesterday recom-
I mended to Congress that the sundry
I civil bill for 1920 carry $4,227,500 for
j the completion of post offices and
| public buildings, work on which was
' suspended during the war period.
! Among the Pennsylvania projects
! for which appropriations are suggest
: ed are:
Donora, $51,700; Franklin, $11,000:
! Lewistown $46,500; Lock Haven, $52,-
000; McKees Rocks, $14,50(1: Oly
phant,, $41,500: Phoenixville, $38,000,
'
College, $10,000; Sunbury, $15,000;
Tamaqua, $38,000; Waynesboro,
$5,000.
GEN. RHODES IS BETTER
Paris, Dec. 26.—The condition of
Major General Charles D. Rhodes,
head of the American armistice com
mission, who was injured in a fall
from an aeroplane, near Paris on
Monday, continued to show improve
1' ment yesterday. Unless unfortunate .
complications occur his complete re- j
covery may be expected shortly.
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LITTLE TALKS BY
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Were you disappointed when tho
baby came?
Had you longed intensely for a
son, and did it seem as though the
whole performance had fallen rather
flat when* they told you that the
baby was only a girl?
Did the baby's father very much
want a boy to "carry on the family
name"—though perhaps you never
cured so much for the nanfe yourself
—and were all the grandparents and
lesser relatives for once in solid
agreement that the situation abso
lutely demanded a boy-baby?
Tho disappointment didn't last
long, of course. Babies can usually
be depended on to conquer their own
domestic territory within a week, and
I suppose yours wasn't an exception.
And now that you are so thoroughly
reconciled to her sex, and are con
vinced that you wouldn't have her
different in the minutest point, and
the relatives are outdoing each other
in fatuous ecstasy, don't you some
times wonder why you were so very
sure you wanted a boy, and why
everybody else, concerned and un
concerned, held precisely the same
view ?
Aren't you even the least little bit
ashamed of that* inhospitality of
yours, so far as daughters were con
cerned? And aren't you, as a mat
ter of fact, trying hard to forget
that you ever had any such feeling?
Prejudice Against Girls
The truth is, of course, that you
weren't responsible for that .preju
dice that flickered in you before
your baby's birth. It was a purely
traditional flicker, a race flicker, and
hadn't anything to do with you at
all. People have felt that way about
babies for such untold ages that it
isn't surprising that you shared the
feeling for a little while. The desire
for sons? Why, it's as old as the
Iworfd. Whereas the desire for a
daughter is something nobody ever
dreamed of feeling or expressing
until very recent times.
There's nothing mysterious about
it. As long as people valued and re
spected men a great deal more than
women, a boy baby was naturally a
great deal more important and de
sirable than a girl baby And I sup
pose you realize that I am putting
tho case very mildly. Histotians tell
us that many ancient peoples thought
it no crime' to expose girl babies to a
cruel death. For that matter, they're
doing it still. Girl babies are still
allowed to die both in China and
in India. The native religions sanc
tion it, and I suppose there's nothing
for the agonized mothers to do but
submit.
In fact, we are told that in no
eastern country, even to-day does a
girl baby meet any but a grudging
welcome. Snubbed at the entrance
to life, she is rigidly kept "in her
place" evet afterward. The Jewish
religion doesn't allow a single candle
to be lighted at the birth of a girl,
though there is a welcoming blaze
when a boy is born. '
It has been a man's world, hasn't
It? But it's so much less so nowa
days, in our western countries at
least, that no mother need any longer
lament slliat she has brought a girl
baby into existence. Every day that
passes in this swiftly moving age
brings a higher valuation of women
—gives women a better chance and
a bigger one.
The world has rhapsodized about
i women for some centuries and
stopped at that. Now it's gotten to
the point of taking women seriously,
, of acknowledging its need of them,
• of slowly unfastening every rusty,
, long-locked door of opportunity.
New Life For Women
It's a wonderful age for a girl baby
; to be born into. Just think of the
. heritage awaiting that tiny, warm,
, rosy creature in your lap. Consider
i the privilege you've had in Introduc
ing her to a society that is making
itself over to fit her as fast as it can.
Lift ought to be a glorious, trium
phant adventure for her from start
; tor finish. Don't you see there's noth
ing to regret in her not being a boy?
Aren't yqu even thoroughly glad she
is a girl?
When she's older you can teach
her what a thrilling thing it is to
be a girl in her age of the world.
You can make her understand what
it is that a woman's treasure-box has
really come to hold.
| "And what does it hold? Why, life
' first of course. Girls are allowed
to grow up instead of being left
[ nakqd on a rock to die.
Then the chance to learn. This
Idea of sending girls to school is a
: very modern thing. And the choice
of work. The time has almost come
when a woman can follow any occu
pation she pleases. Then, a self
respecting status in love and mar
riage, whlcfei is very modern, too.
And, finally—citizenship.
! You can tell that amazed little
■ daughter of yours how things havcj
1 changed since your own childhood, i
even shough you're only a scant short
I generation older than she. And you
■ can make her long to be a worth
- while woman, now that she finds she
; has such a precious treasure-box to
' dip into.
' And you can set her dreaming as
■ to what the world will be like when
1 It has plunged ahead for another
" twenty-five years and the touch of
' women's hands can clearly be seen
in the actual shaping of the condi-
I tions we'll all be living under.
"Only a Girl," Hut —
1 Perhaps you had not realized all
i this before. Perhaps you hadn't
■ come to see what a responsibility
• you have on your hands, even though
• thfe baby is "only a girl."
1 For you'll have to fit her to lead
t her life intelligently, in the world
<■ that is and the world that Is to be.
■ it Isn't as if she were destined for
1 that "sheltered and protected" exist
-1 enee we've all heard so much about
■ —which simply meant that slio re
mained all hdb life under some man's
t personal control—first her father's
and then her husband's, for your
i baby will grow up to be just as free
i. as her brother.
: And don't ever make the mistake
i of thinking that those things the
• doctor tells you about—fresh air and
i sleep and fqod and clothing—aren't
s Important. It's your affair to see
, that trie little creature grows up
s healthy and strong, and you'll, find
that to do this is a pretty steady and
t exacting Job and you'll need all the
■ wise help you can get.
t For in the world that's coming the
- half-well woman, the woman whose
I mother didn't wisely guard her in
t fancy, isn't going to be able to get
. her share or to give her share. It
i won't do for that baby of yours to
1 have "nerves" or a bad digestion.
When you think that she's some day
t probably going to be a mother and
a homemaker and an active citizen
and the folloater of some useful oc
cupation outside her home, you'll
see that-sho needs all the health you
can start her out with.
Do take it seriously, this being the
mother of a girl-baby. Do regard it
as the most deliciously real and excit
ing responsibility you have ever had
or can have.
Ex-Kaiser Better; Spends
Time Reading Letters
Anterongen, Holland, Dec. 26.
William Hohenzollern's health shows
a marked Improvement but he is still
compelled to exercUe the greatest
precautions owing to the penetrating
and damp cold weather. Since Sat
urday the former emperor has not
left his suite of apartments in Amer
ongen castle, but has been able to
Join the members of his retinue at
all meals.
He occupies other periods of the
day in reading hundreds of letters
reaching him from all parts of the
world. Several days during his Ill
ness . the former emperor saw only
his wife and his Immediate attend
ants. ,
Professor Dies on Train
Platform in New Jersey
Princeton, N. J., Dec, 26.—William
Anderson Hervey, professor of Ger
man at Columbia University died on
tht platform at Princeton Junction
while waiting for a train to-night.
He had been spending the day vij
ltlng In Princeton and loft the town
apparently In good health. He was
about sixty years ol£ . ,
" When a Girl Marries"
By ANN LISLE!
A New, Romantic Serial Dealing With the Absorbing
Problems of a Girl Wife
CHAPTER LXXVIII.
"Anne's father! Oh, I am so glad
to meet you!" cried Phoebe, coloring
softly as she "spoke.
"Pleased to make your acquaint
ance, Miss," Father Andrew replied u
little awkwardly.
1 understood just how troubled his
honest soul must he. livvy had given
him every reason to believe that she
was Neal's sweetheart. So what was
the other girl doing with the ring lie
had given Neal's mother?
Shy little Phoebe froze under his
keen eyes. She had seen them rest
on her ring. Undoubtedly Neal had
told her that this was his father's
betrothal ring and in his father's
coldness there was nothing for
Phoebe to read but grave disapproval.
As we went across the lobby to meet
Virginia. Phoebe clung to me—word
less, frightened. And Evvy stayed
close at Father Andrew's side, fairly
flaunting her friendliness with him.
Virginia treated liis father gra
ciously enough, but to Evvy, Virginia
was ice. What she thought of me
for permitting this encounter I could
guess. Still, for the time, Father An
drew's geniality promised to thaw ice
and freezing temperatures.
"Now let's get a fine table where
we can see all the folks and show
ourselves off to 'em, too, he said,
heartily, with the truly American hu
mor that pokes fun shyly at Itself.
"Then we'll order the hangup sup
per 1 was telling you about, Miss Ma
son—oyster stew and cold boiled liam
and greens and all the trimmings."
"Don't forget the apple sauce,"
laughed Evelyn.
But when it came to the actual or
| dering of the dinner. Father turned
[to Jim with the innate sweetness
that is sometimes better than mere
"manners;"
"Son—you know what your sisters
like. So you order the repast; and if
you give us plenty of oysters and
soup and chicken and vegetables, Miss
Mason and I won't complain at all.
But this is a hungry man's dinner and
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I tsh." \
Then, while Jim was busy with the
dinner cards. Father • turned and
spoke gently almost pleadingly i
whether tb Phoebe or Evvy 1 couldn't
tell:
"I'd like to drink my boy's health.
I take it you folks are all his friends
I and wish him well. If there's nny
j Ncal has hurt—l hope they'll forgive
i him now—and join me in hoping my
I boy makes a fine soldier."
! It was Virginia who replied and
graciously, too:
"Mr. Hyland, there's none of us
who doesn't wish Neal the best of
luck. There's some sweet cider here
that would be splendid, if you'll let
me suggest it"—
"You do me proud, madame," re
plied Father Andrew with the fine,
old-fashioned courtesy that makes mo
proud of him even when he's saying
"ain't," and using the wrong knife or
fork. "And cider's the tipple I'm
most at hjjme with."
We drank the toast standing. As
Phoebe lifted her glass the hand
that bore the circlet shook, and the
amber liquid spilled down the front
of her pretty blue Georgette dress.
She lifted miserable eyes to Virgiania
—and Virginia* leaning forward, her
eyes narrowing tensely, looked bard
at Phoebe's hand. But she said noth
ing.
Kvlyn's eyes followed Virginia's. I
would have given a great deal to read
• the expression hidden behind her low
ered lids.
After that, the dinner progressed
I smoothly enough, until suddenly
< Father Andrew, leaning across the
! table, addressed Virginia, for whom
he seemed to have a grave regard and
? respect. In each hand he had an im- I
r pletuent of eating a knife crutched j
I /in one, in the other a fork. Virginia
i returned his- regard pleasantly I
enough but I wondered if she was 1
1 too much of n snob to see how won-
derfully fine and true my dear adopt- i
ed father was.
" Mrs. Dalton, you've been living
here quite a while, I take It think 1
I'd like It fob a few days?" Father |
Andrew asked. "Think an old coun
tryman would be in place here?"
"Nonesense, father, Jim forestall
ed Virginia's reply. You're coming
to us. There's Neal's empty bed —just
crying to you to occupy it."
"No, 1 aint, Jim. Birds in their
nests don't want any foreign fowl
roosting with them. You're married,
too, Mrs. Dalton now you want to
make this brother of yours realize
that young beginners dop't do well
to take in too many guests even
the in-law's. If you and your hus
band had started that way you'l have
come a cropper sure—wouldn't you?"
Virginia's face paled.
"I sometimes think Jim and Anne
have too many 'in-laws,' as you call
them," she said smoothly. "I'm sure
you can get room here. And to save
us both the embarrussment of hearing
him mentioned again, please let me
inform you -that my husband and I—?
did er come a cropper. Now—
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IK you'll excuse me l've Rn imporb
nn theater engagement, and I'll havt
to run along. Come Phoebe."
They saitl their brief good-bye*
I Then .iiin rose to escort them to theil
taxi, and as Father Arjdrew gaset
/lfter their retreating figures he mut
tered sadly:
"Barbara-Anne. I'm afraid you'vt
got too many folks for your ln-lawi
ull righty. And I'm not so sure l'yi
| done you any good with your .hug.
band's family." , >'
"Anybody who knew gold,, from tin
sel would value you, Father Andrew
dear," 1 declared. /"
Then Evvy, leaning up close to him
purred innocently: i
"How would yod like to have twt
of your childreri married into thai
nice, cqrdial, loving atmosphere?"
RKDR ARREST V. S. OONSUIi
Odessa, Dec. 26.—The Bolshevik!
have • arrested American 1 Coneu
Treadwell at Tashkent, Russiai
Turjtestan, according to a wirelesi
message received here.
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