MB all ike Ruvdki IjjPpf 0 MAKING THE MOST OF, f\ OUR CHILDREN V A Series of Plain Talks to Parents - W|P' ** Ray C. Bry, A.8., ||Sw a * xx President of the Parents Association. (Copyrighted. 1918, by The Parents Association, Inc.) Tt would soem at first thought that any home affording protection and supplying good things to eat an% wear ought to satisfy a boy. And yet, when we come to ponder the question, we realize that these conditions alone are not the only fac tors determining happiness by any means. A boy nYUst have sympathy, he must have encouragement, ho must have some one to appreciate 1 him. Otherwise, he will not be satis- j fied. Thousands of children to-day who are given adequate shelter and phys- i leal nourishment are far from satis- I fied with the home environment. ] Children not satisfied at home, na-| turally will go elsewhere, and so we I have problems of keeping children j interested in their homes. To take a simple case, one mother j writes: "Wyi you please tell me what to do with a boy ten years old who won't stay home? All he thinks of is going. When he finishes his break fast, if I don't keep close watch on him, he is gone. We get him every thing he needs, but he likes to roa< all over town." Your boy thinks he gets more pleasure in going away from home than he does at home. That is the : principal cause of his .wanting to got all the time. Therefore, it would bo I a* good thing for you to learn what j he does away from home that is so fasei/ating. Does he fly kites? Make it a point to talk to hint and his playmates in a friendly way. When you discover what Interests him most, perhaps you could introduce something of a like nature at home, which in connection with your own encouragement and friendly co-oper atipn would keep him at home in a most natural way. He should devote at let%t a part of each day to certain regular duties— not merely for the sake of things ac complished, but for his own good. The performance of duty is whole some. Get him to make you some flower boxes or something of that kind which requires the use of tools and thus you will have an excellent opportunity to approve him on his ability and industriousness. Show some enthusiasm. Don't merely say, "That's right." Open up a bit. Laugh ,-y.vith him, show some real life. Ad 'mire his work. Make lots of sugges-[ tions, all tending to make him like the work. At first it is advisable not to mention points that could have been improved but put all your at tention on the good points. Instead of keeping such close watch on this boy after breakfast to keep him from running off, change your plan a little. For example, ar range to have him speak to you be fore leaving the premises. Have him tell you also where he is going. Then, when you know this, you can grant him the privilege or not Just as you see fit, and under this arrangement you will have more control than un der your present plan. Some time, just aftor you have been having a good time with him or have shown him some appreci- ( atod consideration and he is in the | best spirits, talk to him somewhat j in this fashion: "Harold, I have a 1 new plan that I want you to help j me carry out. If anyone should come J hero to see you and couldn't stay i long, and you did not happen to • be home, I would want, to know ex- J actly where to find you so that you j and the visitor could get to see each other. Then, too, I might want you : to do something for mo or I might want you to go some place with me ! and I wou>d want to know Just whero you were. So starting with to-morrow morning, I shall usk you to come to me to-morrow before leaving the yard still, and tell me whero you are going. "You chn re member this, can't you?" When trying to gain control of a boy who is out of control, don't try U> go too fast. Bring him back into control gradually. Gain one little point at a time and be absolutely I firm. Don't argue with him. Simply tell him in a calm way what you' DON'T STARVE THE KIDDIES I The growing bodies of children need food | that builds muscle, bone and brain and is easily digested. Donf allow your food- | i saving to deprive the kiddies of need: • m led nourishment. When you give them wheat food be sure if is the whole wheat || Shredded Wheat I is the whole wheat prepared in a digestible I t fbrm.ltis ready. ARTIE CHOKE ZJME bEHT Ob A in THE CORNER THAT FAMIkT IT MUVT BE O O,NN ER ALL THE X-J CARD t>TATiM£4 THE.V v/ILU le* mS' TMEAN'S 0 , FRENCH FOR''DON'T HAVE BEEN *ICK - &E"AT HOME" ON MEVT rfc*V\ * gV TO ART &ILU, JliU/ W AT LAyr J 7 MONDAY N ' ' "\ ' - ~- - j!! LITTLE TALKS BY ' BE A TRICE FAIRFAX I Were you disappointed when tho baby came? Had you longed intensely for a son, and did it seem as though the whole performance had fallen rather flat when* they told you that the baby was only a girl? Did the baby's father very much want a boy to "carry on the family name"—though perhaps you never cured so much for the nanfe yourself —and were all the grandparents and lesser relatives for once in solid agreement that the situation abso lutely demanded a boy-baby? Tho disappointment didn't last long, of course. Babies can usually be depended on to conquer their own domestic territory within a week, and I suppose yours wasn't an exception. And now that you are so thoroughly reconciled to her sex, and are con vinced that you wouldn't have her different in the minutest point, and the relatives are outdoing each other in fatuous ecstasy, don't you some times wonder why you were so very sure you wanted a boy, and why everybody else, concerned and un concerned, held precisely the same view ? Aren't you even the least little bit ashamed of that* inhospitality of yours, so far as daughters were con cerned? And aren't you, as a mat ter of fact, trying hard to forget that you ever had any such feeling? Prejudice Against Girls The truth is, of course, that you weren't responsible for that .preju dice that flickered in you before your baby's birth. It was a purely traditional flicker, a race flicker, and hadn't anything to do with you at all. People have felt that way about babies for such untold ages that it isn't surprising that you shared the feeling for a little while. The desire for sons? Why, it's as old as the Iworfd. Whereas the desire for a daughter is something nobody ever dreamed of feeling or expressing until very recent times. There's nothing mysterious about it. As long as people valued and re spected men a great deal more than women, a boy baby was naturally a great deal more important and de sirable than a girl baby And I sup pose you realize that I am putting tho case very mildly. Histotians tell us that many ancient peoples thought it no crime' to expose girl babies to a cruel death. For that matter, they're doing it still. Girl babies are still allowed to die both in China and in India. The native religions sanc tion it, and I suppose there's nothing for the agonized mothers to do but submit. In fact, we are told that in no eastern country, even to-day does a girl baby meet any but a grudging welcome. Snubbed at the entrance to life, she is rigidly kept "in her place" evet afterward. The Jewish religion doesn't allow a single candle to be lighted at the birth of a girl, though there is a welcoming blaze when a boy is born. ' It has been a man's world, hasn't It? But it's so much less so nowa days, in our western countries at least, that no mother need any longer lament slliat she has brought a girl baby into existence. Every day that passes in this swiftly moving age brings a higher valuation of women —gives women a better chance and a bigger one. The world has rhapsodized about i women for some centuries and stopped at that. Now it's gotten to the point of taking women seriously, , of acknowledging its need of them, • of slowly unfastening every rusty, , long-locked door of opportunity. New Life For Women It's a wonderful age for a girl baby ; to be born into. Just think of the . heritage awaiting that tiny, warm, , rosy creature in your lap. Consider i the privilege you've had in Introduc ing her to a society that is making itself over to fit her as fast as it can. Lift ought to be a glorious, trium phant adventure for her from start ; tor finish. Don't you see there's noth ing to regret in her not being a boy? Aren't yqu even thoroughly glad she is a girl? When she's older you can teach her what a thrilling thing it is to be a girl in her age of the world. You can make her understand what it is that a woman's treasure-box has really come to hold. | "And what does it hold? Why, life ' first of course. Girls are allowed to grow up instead of being left [ nakqd on a rock to die. Then the chance to learn. This Idea of sending girls to school is a : very modern thing. And the choice of work. The time has almost come when a woman can follow any occu pation she pleases. Then, a self respecting status in love and mar riage, whlcfei is very modern, too. And, finally—citizenship. ! You can tell that amazed little ■ daughter of yours how things havcj 1 changed since your own childhood, i even shough you're only a scant short I generation older than she. And you ■ can make her long to be a worth - while woman, now that she finds she ; has such a precious treasure-box to ' dip into. ' And you can set her dreaming as ■ to what the world will be like when 1 It has plunged ahead for another " twenty-five years and the touch of ' women's hands can clearly be seen in the actual shaping of the condi- I tions we'll all be living under. "Only a Girl," Hut — 1 Perhaps you had not realized all i this before. Perhaps you hadn't ■ come to see what a responsibility • you have on your hands, even though • thfe baby is "only a girl." 1 For you'll have to fit her to lead t her life intelligently, in the world <■ that is and the world that Is to be. ■ it Isn't as if she were destined for 1 that "sheltered and protected" exist -1 enee we've all heard so much about ■ —which simply meant that slio re mained all hdb life under some man's t personal control—first her father's and then her husband's, for your i baby will grow up to be just as free i. as her brother. : And don't ever make the mistake i of thinking that those things the • doctor tells you about—fresh air and i sleep and fqod and clothing—aren't s Important. It's your affair to see , that trie little creature grows up s healthy and strong, and you'll, find that to do this is a pretty steady and t exacting Job and you'll need all the ■ wise help you can get. t For in the world that's coming the - half-well woman, the woman whose I mother didn't wisely guard her in t fancy, isn't going to be able to get . her share or to give her share. It i won't do for that baby of yours to 1 have "nerves" or a bad digestion. When you think that she's some day t probably going to be a mother and a homemaker and an active citizen and the folloater of some useful oc cupation outside her home, you'll see that-sho needs all the health you can start her out with. Do take it seriously, this being the mother of a girl-baby. Do regard it as the most deliciously real and excit ing responsibility you have ever had or can have. Ex-Kaiser Better; Spends Time Reading Letters Anterongen, Holland, Dec. 26. William Hohenzollern's health shows a marked Improvement but he is still compelled to exercUe the greatest precautions owing to the penetrating and damp cold weather. Since Sat urday the former emperor has not left his suite of apartments in Amer ongen castle, but has been able to Join the members of his retinue at all meals. He occupies other periods of the day in reading hundreds of letters reaching him from all parts of the world. Several days during his Ill ness . the former emperor saw only his wife and his Immediate attend ants. , Professor Dies on Train Platform in New Jersey Princeton, N. J., Dec, 26.—William Anderson Hervey, professor of Ger man at Columbia University died on tht platform at Princeton Junction while waiting for a train to-night. He had been spending the day vij ltlng In Princeton and loft the town apparently In good health. He was about sixty years ol£ . , " When a Girl Marries" By ANN LISLE! A New, Romantic Serial Dealing With the Absorbing Problems of a Girl Wife CHAPTER LXXVIII. "Anne's father! Oh, I am so glad to meet you!" cried Phoebe, coloring softly as she "spoke. "Pleased to make your acquaint ance, Miss," Father Andrew replied u little awkwardly. 1 understood just how troubled his honest soul must he. livvy had given him every reason to believe that she was Neal's sweetheart. So what was the other girl doing with the ring lie had given Neal's mother? Shy little Phoebe froze under his keen eyes. She had seen them rest on her ring. Undoubtedly Neal had told her that this was his father's betrothal ring and in his father's coldness there was nothing for Phoebe to read but grave disapproval. As we went across the lobby to meet Virginia. Phoebe clung to me—word less, frightened. And Evvy stayed close at Father Andrew's side, fairly flaunting her friendliness with him. Virginia treated liis father gra ciously enough, but to Evvy, Virginia was ice. What she thought of me for permitting this encounter I could guess. Still, for the time, Father An drew's geniality promised to thaw ice and freezing temperatures. "Now let's get a fine table where we can see all the folks and show ourselves off to 'em, too, he said, heartily, with the truly American hu mor that pokes fun shyly at Itself. "Then we'll order the hangup sup per 1 was telling you about, Miss Ma son—oyster stew and cold boiled liam and greens and all the trimmings." "Don't forget the apple sauce," laughed Evelyn. But when it came to the actual or | dering of the dinner. Father turned [to Jim with the innate sweetness that is sometimes better than mere "manners;" "Son—you know what your sisters like. So you order the repast; and if you give us plenty of oysters and soup and chicken and vegetables, Miss Mason and I won't complain at all. But this is a hungry man's dinner and rThe PRESIDENT'S Historic Armistice I 1 Address— " I fiEfi I# 4 BPf ■ *—* - " E In Photogravuer, 11x14, Ready to Frame m *" 1 ' ' 0 I FREE Next Sunday | is December 29th, with || I The PHILADELHPIA I I RECORD I '■BF* Father's first party so be real lav- I tsh." \ Then, while Jim was busy with the dinner cards. Father • turned and spoke gently almost pleadingly i whether tb Phoebe or Evvy 1 couldn't tell: "I'd like to drink my boy's health. I take it you folks are all his friends I and wish him well. If there's nny j Ncal has hurt—l hope they'll forgive i him now—and join me in hoping my I boy makes a fine soldier." ! It was Virginia who replied and graciously, too: "Mr. Hyland, there's none of us who doesn't wish Neal the best of luck. There's some sweet cider here that would be splendid, if you'll let me suggest it"— "You do me proud, madame," re plied Father Andrew with the fine, old-fashioned courtesy that makes mo proud of him even when he's saying "ain't," and using the wrong knife or fork. "And cider's the tipple I'm most at hjjme with." We drank the toast standing. As Phoebe lifted her glass the hand that bore the circlet shook, and the amber liquid spilled down the front of her pretty blue Georgette dress. She lifted miserable eyes to Virgiania —and Virginia* leaning forward, her eyes narrowing tensely, looked bard at Phoebe's hand. But she said noth ing. Kvlyn's eyes followed Virginia's. I would have given a great deal to read • the expression hidden behind her low ered lids. After that, the dinner progressed I smoothly enough, until suddenly < Father Andrew, leaning across the ! table, addressed Virginia, for whom he seemed to have a grave regard and ? respect. In each hand he had an im- I r pletuent of eating a knife crutched j I /in one, in the other a fork. Virginia i returned his- regard pleasantly I enough but I wondered if she was 1 1 too much of n snob to see how won- derfully fine and true my dear adopt- i ed father was. " Mrs. Dalton, you've been living here quite a while, I take It think 1 I'd like It fob a few days?" Father | Andrew asked. "Think an old coun tryman would be in place here?" "Nonesense, father, Jim forestall ed Virginia's reply. You're coming to us. There's Neal's empty bed —just crying to you to occupy it." "No, 1 aint, Jim. Birds in their nests don't want any foreign fowl roosting with them. You're married, too, Mrs. Dalton now you want to make this brother of yours realize that young beginners dop't do well to take in too many guests even the in-law's. If you and your hus band had started that way you'l have come a cropper sure—wouldn't you?" Virginia's face paled. "I sometimes think Jim and Anne have too many 'in-laws,' as you call them," she said smoothly. "I'm sure you can get room here. And to save us both the embarrussment of hearing him mentioned again, please let me inform you -that my husband and I—? did er come a cropper. Now— For Acid Stomach, Indigestion, Gas % Instant Relief Tvlien your meals sour and upset tin • stomach—lndigestion Pain stops at once I UPSET? 'DIAPEPSIN T PE? • ' 'tpi IK you'll excuse me l've Rn imporb nn theater engagement, and I'll havt to run along. Come Phoebe." They saitl their brief good-bye* I Then .iiin rose to escort them to theil taxi, and as Father Arjdrew gaset /lfter their retreating figures he mut tered sadly: "Barbara-Anne. I'm afraid you'vt got too many folks for your ln-lawi ull righty. And I'm not so sure l'yi | done you any good with your .hug. band's family." , >' "Anybody who knew gold,, from tin sel would value you, Father Andrew dear," 1 declared. /" Then Evvy, leaning up close to him purred innocently: i "How would yod like to have twt of your childreri married into thai nice, cqrdial, loving atmosphere?" RKDR ARREST V. S. OONSUIi Odessa, Dec. 26.—The Bolshevik! have • arrested American 1 Coneu Treadwell at Tashkent, Russiai Turjtestan, according to a wirelesi message received here. 7