7nmmrrgmstj?''?-iftTiiiM-imimKymmKis.wrmm e,Tr ? '.iB"y wwti WMmvTWTammrwmm.mMVFxr.r tr ss i .; jf&st i n ! .. n .mb iii i i , :? aiu-ui PM.,nnii1r.v2ntir'jmmi;jrKmrir was nil rtv.inu.ri M!aivB.w".jr.J-T j' s-s'i r i,kipkwti w '. vj yf frfu jT- rF ttyii m iiiiw t r ' rv r- ;. . i i hiihi'ihimm i .mi - . ,t . , ,A .m , , ,,, f -L "f .. fr,WWHCTi 1 ' 11 1 1 . , 1 -. , -1 ' 4 '& , L OVE DEEPL Y, AVOID RELATIVES, At P mVICE OF DIVORCE JUDGE TO NEW1YWED& ' -'ieJ: mm- - ' M .- imm.- .mmi . v j MARRY YOUNG mm 'WiSftSBm IF ft'.V - r if tpcage Jurist Who Hqs Unraveled 6500 y Matrimonial Tangles Says Mutual 'J-4 jTrarV W Goe Cooking Are Essen i .s tial te Marital Happiness "PODGE MOTHER-IN-LAW, ?' LIVE YOUR OWN LIVES," JUDGE SABATH URGES J4 J 'ft I Prohibition Has Worked Ne Improve ment in the Nermal Married State, Believes Man Who Has Made" Trial . Divorce " an Accepted Institution , : ., , FYOU had listened te 6500 divorce cases during two years could you fail te be ether than a miiegamlst? If you had sat en the court bench and heard dinned in your ears the continual woeful recital of wrecked homes, wouldn't you be something of cynic concerning 'wedlock?. Superior Court Judge Jeseph Sabath, of Chicago, is neither a cynic nor a misogamist. He is a marriage booster. And it is Judge Sabath who, during the last two years, has established a record by hearing these 6500 divorce cases. "" . ( Ner is Judge Sabath averse te divorce. He is in favor of it He is mere- in favor, however,, of whaf he terms a "trial divorce," wherein, by a certain twist in forensic procedure, he can put married couples en parole until' they have had tittle te smooth out the kinks in their marital rela tionships. Reconciliation is Judge Sabath's biggest work. Couple after couple have walked into his court with hatred in their hearts for each ether, and gene out arm in arm. Seme have been divorced and then, en the anniver sary of their divorce, have called en Judge Sabath and been remarried by him. But the tragic scenes enacted before him, the unhappy men and women who have poured their tales into v his sympathetic cars, have brought a nervous breakdown upon Judge Sabath. And still it has net lhattercd his faith in marriage. "I began te worry se ever recon recen recon ciliateons," said the Judge, seen in lis sick room, "that I could stand it no longer. I was getting a wrong point of view en divorce. I knew It Is a,g6ed thing, for there are three parties te a divorce the man and woman and the community." " Then the Judge gave this charac teristic statement:. ( , "Tell the young folk net te fear marriage. If a' youth has a steady jebljmd a. loyal sweetheart he should marry. The couple should then live alone, away from parents and rela tives, and fight their own battles. They will be happy." Judge Sabath has lived the kind of life he urges ethers te live. He was married at eighteen without any alluring prospects. "Even with my unfertunate and one-sided viewpoint," continued Judge Satiath, "I would be foolish te decry mnrriage. There are really few divorces in relation te the pop ulation of this country. Every credit man in a store knows that the big majority of the people are honest. I knew that the big majority of the people in the United States are fine and wholesome. Wave of Divorce After Impulsive War Weddings "There have been mere divorces during the last two years thtn pre viously. It is the reaction te war hysteria. Girls married uniforms. Men married girls they had known only a short time. The day of reck oning came with peace-time. The glamour were off. "1 find nmny of these unfortunate yeiniR jieople In my court. New when r I get both hides In the court, I take thn rnnn and woman into my chamber. nut let me nd.l here, thut there iire many divorce eases In which only oho s,e uppcars. The ether stays, n, Mj lug: 'Let him or her have n meiec. I won't fight.' The one ap pellant cots n divorce' by default. 'They are unfortunate; I can't reach win. nut n,en tluv come together, I knew ! imvn. wine chance. I tnlk te lnn. I try te get te the bottom of nflr gilcvanecs. sometimes- s.nr.iii.ir HI) things, when I finally make them Wl me. what the trouble Ik. the thing " W. When they lmc told it in erds they see hew trivial It is in "lotion te n life of happiness. "I cannot nay what I suggest for "ceneliing estranged couples. All n"m.in nature 1h different. I huvc te U different means. Sometimes I have te meit te foolish n() Hy measures, Y foellMi ami as sy as the petty dif ificni' which have arisen between jlir two. Fer some of thee things te weine known outside of my chamber would make me appear foolish but tnfJ work. "However, the main thing is te nkc ihem tell you what the trouble is. bemetlmcs (,ey haven't even given it n.v (onm.icrailen. It In n rcvelntlen e them te see in such a way just what dlided their home. Thm. .... ..,-.. ""n Rind te forget everything and go -ak together. And they don't forget Here .ludgc Sabath waved te n corner of the loom, which was literally filled "lth new era. "OeuplcH I have brought back to te ther have bent me these flowers," he Uh a pleased smile. nn he continued : . 'Beinellmes'after a len talk I fall "65 of All Divorces Are the Fault of the Husband' Sctjs Judge Sabath, after ex amining mere than 6500 suits for permanent separation. "The majority of the eases are desertion and cruelty," he de clares. "The men see ether wom en who make a fuss ever them, and they lese their heads and leave their wives. "The ether woman may be a little batter dressed; she may be a little younger." te get te thp bottom of the trouble, neth sides are sulky, stubborn, tie I i-ay te them, ' am going te give jeu a trial divorce, Come back here In six weeks from this date and we will see what can be done toward a permanent decree.' "They go away te live apart during that, time. I mnke It plain te them that they cannot see each ether. If they diil they would be in contempt of court. What I really de Is te contlnue the cn'-e for n time. That Is my method of granting a trial divorce. Divorces Often Averted by the Lapse of Time "In nearly every case when the couple meet In my chambers after the six weeks they are ready te start life ever again. They have been alone, have had an opportunity te get a perspec tive en their life together, and they have found the basic trouble. "I strlke the case from the records, and another divorce Is averted. "There are some cafees where I refuse te nrant a divorce unless under the most serious circumstances. That is when there arc children. This becomes a ter rible matter fee a judge. It Is often hard te decide which parent is entitled te the custody of the children. "When children become the wards of the court thep arc placed at a dis advantage. They are handicapped In the beginning of life. I have a whole string of little ones who are wards of my court, and I call en them new and then and send them tejs and try te re place their parents." It might be added that each Christ inas, Judge Sabath carries the Yuletide spirit !e every child whose parents have been legally separated by him. "In the case of children, divorces ere serious even when you can con scientieusly place them In custody of one of the parents. Among their little friends they are jeered with 'Their father und mother, are divorced. They fight.' "Little children take these things te heart. Kven when the childien are In the custody of the court I de net ghc up hope of a reconciliation. It is true that these little hands can join together the. elder hands." Judge Sabnth says that 0.1 per cent of the divorces arc the fault of the husbands. "The majority of the cases arc de sertien and cruelty," he declared. "The men sec ether women who make a fuss ever them and they lese their heads and leave their wives. The ether woman may be a little better dressed; she may be a little younger. Dutu of the Wife te Dress Attractively ".Sometimes you might figure these cases out and ray that it was the fault of the when. They should net allow themselves te grew old, or te become untidy in their dress. "On the ether hand, I think that the husband should encourage his wife te dress as he wants her te. He should show her' a little affection and be will Judge Jeseph Sabath, Chicago Municipal Court, whose work in hearing 6500 divorce cases has resulted in an unusually deep in sight into marital difficulties be assured of affection In return. There is no woman, except in rare Instances, who does net want affection from her husband and who will be content with out this affection. "And she will always return the affection." Judge Sabath seizes en all oppor tunities te effect reconciliation. Fer instance, the day before Christmas last year seven couples who came te his court for divorce found the spark of love rekindled and left arm In arm. And te another couple, already di vorced but Involved in an alimony dis pute, came a mutual Inclination of forgiveness, a plen te dine together Christmas and a premise of auether ihancc. "That's a big baby for your wife te be holding. Suppose you take her," the Judge suggested te Jeseph Svech, who was being sued by his wife, Evu. The tiny arms about the father's neck did It that and Judge Sabath and Christmas time. Svach looked at his wife. She smiled. And there wasn't any divorce in the Svach family. And se it went with six ether couples. At the end of his 'day Judge Subath smiled. "It's easy te reconcile people this time of jcar," he said. Then, just as he was going te ad journ, Jehn Dal! was haled before the judge. Ills divorced wife, l.adenne, had had him arrested for failure te pay back alimony. But Jehn had n grievance. Last year, he said, he scut hei u turkey for Christmas, but it fulled te bring nu Invitation te dine. Judge Sabath suggested that Jehn provide another turkey this year und that Ladenne invite him te share it with their two children. They left the courtroom nnd later were completely reconciled. Perhaps Ladenne Knew hew te cook, but there are some wives who coma before the judge who de net. In one day recently two men asked for di vorce because of their wives' peer cook ing. "If people only knew hew imper tant geed cooking is in the life of the happy home, mere attention would be paid te the culinary education of our daughters," remarked the Judge. Came Elmer Kittcll, who said te the Judge : "Your honor, I hnven't been vll fed since I wns married. I seem te ent enough, but the feed is cooked se ban that It doesn't de me nny geed. All my wife can cook is hard-boiled eggs." The second man te complain that day of his wife's cooking was Jehn Ling ner. Jehn said he was "about te Jump off the pier" if ever again he had te eat any fried feed. His life, he Feld, was one fried meal after another, from Geed Breakfasts Happy Marriages "If people only knew hew im portant geed cooking is in the life of the happy home, mere at tention would be paid te the culi nary education of our daugh ters," says Judge Sabath. Many of the divorce actions brought before him are based en the husband's plaint that his wife's cooking is ruining his di gestion. "Cooking is becoming a neg lected art," says the Judge, "and men with indigestion find every thing wrong about the home. "A wife must realize that a geed breakfast is one of the most important factors te the happily married couple." ViiBvt ' ' iiiBy Judge sabath with Edwin W. Hurry and Elizabeth Gates, whom he remarried en the anniversary of their divorce for Newly Married Couples ilM ''98Hh I. Marry young. II. Knoie each ether well before marriage. III. Have children or adept them. ' l. Move away from each ether's family. V. Realize the responsibility of marriage relation bear and forbear. VI. Wives must cook well if they would keep their husbands. VII. Husbands should confide their business affairs te their wives, and the wives should take an interest in them. VIII. Wives must be neat. If their husbands like the latest styles, rouge, bobbed hair, etc., the wives should govern themselves accordingly. IX. Husbands sheidd see that their wives get plenty of entertainment. They should take them te movies, for auto rides, walks and swims, or whatever the wife likes. X. there has been a quarrel, kiss and make up before going te sleep. Never let such feelings last ever night. Sunday te Saturday, and thtec times a day. "Can't your wife cook as well us your mother used te?" the Judge quer ied. "Judge, I haven't seen n wife that could cook as geed as her mother," vouchsafed Lingner. nnd although his statement was rather bread, the Judge nodded in confirmation. "Cooking is becoming n neglected art, and men with indigestion ln.d everything wrong about the home," sajs the Judge. Before a meeting of the eman a Protective League, Judge Sabath later outlined his views en the subject. He advocated eighth-grade public sihoel classes in matrimony, nivl trial d!eices, "Such a course would teach the most Important lcsen a child could have." Mild the Judge. "Beys and girls to gether should be taught the necessary caution In selecting a life mute and uueting the problems of marriage. "It is the duty of the State, which must eventually suffer from marital difficulties, te provide this education. "There lias been tee muen or n ten dency te treat the divorce court as a vnudcvlllc show. Instead, It is the stage where tremendous tragedies are enacted. Of the (WOO cases I have tried few of the principals showed that mar ring had been seriously considered, "Beth husband and wife must re member thjs in the nervous dayi fol lowing mairittge, thnt the well-meant ndvlce of parents and relatives may be the wrong thing te guide them, "Then a wife must realUe that a geed breakfast is one of the most Important fuuteis te the happily married couple. She can learn this at school. And it should be taught her. "Anether thing is that the wife should net be afraid of the big things in life U, .gAur.n.tL.w , w.ri'.i.Jji!L'il. Passion, death, love, sacrifice, toil and parenthood. "The husband should be made te as sume the responsibilities of the home beyond merely financing it. The wife should net tasn her husband by idle flirtations. The woman who marries n Jealous husband is building her house en shifting sands and she must build a mere secure foundation." Mether-in-Law Ne Joke Jeke She Breeds Discord In advice te young married couples te get away from their parents, the Judge said: "The mother. In.lnMv nh.i. .11 1. ... merely a stage joke. She is n realltv. She generally has mere old-fashioned ideas about r.ijsiiig chlldran und doing tiings than the young wife. Times change, but the mother-in-law seldom changes with them. "A young wife or young mother can pncrrtly work out her own problems best if let alone. She generally doesn't icsent. her own mother telling her how hew how te de things, because she gees ahead r.nd does them her own way. Ht the husband' mother! That's different "Then the wife's mother can prove nn..'itnn.t t0 ,hc V0,lnB husband. 'The father-in-law, en the ether hand, generally sits back and says nothing. ou see, he has his mind en Mis business; nnd ether things, nnd such family trltlcs-the little things ' 5, V. . "! -:'"--i,ver oetner nini." Hut the Jiidgn does net nlunvs take the jeung woman s part. "Thprh fu nn iinnpniniiL bnf..i ... ewiiul premature adulthood," he hs "Oirls don't want te be called girls I hey want te be called women from the time they cut their second teeth. They want te dress like grown-up ladles befere they are fairly out of their teens. 'There is only one-way te curb this ridiculous and dangerous tendency f jtyt, rjEtiEHIHCkkBnnHSIkBr js v N .HJlBi. CMKFa.V jk. WJ4&mkt BiWFJB Hk MsswB9mm3lsBMHfsMktsm Judge Sabath with his mother, Mrs. Barbara Sabath. and his wife. youthful marriages, followed his own doctrine by innrease imhii.. n.i. ...,... t ..t? contiel, the only real restraint, comes best through schooling. . Under modern lmndip.Mns nnlilin schools (le ieie than the public can, brew arc taking the place of the sa- ni r,1!1, MiHM.'rliiB the dim-.loon. s fficient ft ffr1!!neu,Hn,;'C,'nS,,il,V "'J.'he V"1 IP-us era of this schools te attack the inorninc-Bleri' Schools ttl ntlnitb l... ..t.... .1 . philosophy that is new tilling our young I'll, inc. "The school must curb this unnatural and often disastrous ambition of chil dien If It can be done. Courts can sometimes mend brenks. but It Is better for the community if the breaks necr occur, and schools are the hope of these who want te see this fever of forced growth cooled." Dry Laws Have Net Changed aiarrtca Lite, He Says The dn laws lun-e fiilleil in Imii. mnr.."1'',''reaklng two years was that of rlcd life, the Judge says. "I have seen ...j ...i.. v.t.t.i ... iimiiiui irinllOUS since the parage of the prohibition amemlii.cnt." Out of tiOOO cases, Judge Sabath .,., ....-n. n.,,.,,,1 I ..-I. ..I ..,.., snowed that women Had tiled H."0 bill anil men TWO. The charges In the bill ivfw .llvlrln.1 ns fnltmvu nn..ni..t.... I.7P. .i'iiilti ifs'1 ...Ice... ,.)... .u.r and drunkmness, liei. He showed that this was net n deciease in bills charging drunkenness. "I cannot say prohibition has been I ?JnCat. foc.ier'n doing away with, "eXS: licll'iK as ever. Moonshine, nml home- ills as nvi.r. Mnnnsl.i.. n...i I. ....,. M i . I " i"'"' ., :"'. " "" . Uh 7: Mm. i.... i i .- .. ... the same small amount Yucr te their wives," Judge Sabath said that a man making a goeil salary need net turn it all eer te his wife. But the overage man, the laboring man, the clerk and theso whose salaries are just about enough te meet the expenses should give his money te his wife, as women arc known ,ier ineir pruueut management. I The most sensational dherce case l Judge Snbu li Ims h. nulled In hit iim- lsV ""iw ' M't' ami Stanley MlUJ I His Beliefs Jarricd While Yeung . this case get elitliely tee much .Itv. " sul, I iim .liiitun sni!li .r . nft.ild that it will lmc a bad cf- lect. OiIum muitf? unmet mm t.i .. emulate the actions of Peggy Jey re. They may be misled by the way the newspapers pleyed up the affair." -.u..iin iiwjvil '! 1"S lllialll. Judge hahath Is fifty-two, He came ..'u...iwn ni.iiif uirce nines as uc was employed in arleus Indus much money us fermeily. but tinned i tries, making his own way through the Sntm hill, ill llltiniint ...nt. ... tt...lH ..V.n f. 1.1. ...... 11..A ..t 1 T.. 1 . 7 t( .t -v' .A The Judge, who is an advocate of marrying nt 18 te the Tnited States at the age of J -'" ?', f1' -H I"- ?10 l,n!,k,,BC cy and ?l from New erk J Chicago. He married thice jenra ,ulcr. uh lfe wnil alM fOIelsn-bernf "I bclke that a fellow should marry ;. ' " : . . . . . lu VK- ,,u "": ..Mr t mi ii(,u iiui-Kt; et 1.UU-, .in UI1I1C, 1MIJ flu, ('111, iinn I ..... Ul.1 ...,.. ferrcd m him the degiec of master of law. He has presided ever every branch of the Chicago Municipal Court system, and as Judge has heard 80, 000 cases, He has three children, all married. His eldest son, Albert Sabath, who was "I'atty" Arbuckle's Eastern icprcscn tattle ilurlii'.' I lie receur Irinl Is lv.rr,.H from his courtieom. "He fnlinet try his cases before me." sins' die .f ndiri. Ml., i i .... -I..' i.." ti " " "" ! ci-r iicrr. Judge Sabath has four grandchil dren. He has six brothers In Chicago und four sisters, nil married. "They all married young hut Con Cen gresMniin A. J. Sabath, who waited longer than the iest," said the Judge. Judge Sabath has seen all the trage dies' of life unfold before Mm, u. ti.. courtroom. nn. Biniiwi irageuies e u nrH broken Iieiiich," vaU tin. Judg.'. "But 1 .PI, -. A ., UIUIV: IIIIIIIUN, SUKI lC JUIUC "flu tell the young peepl te marry j-eun'," 1 iMSje. a l -. J . 11 ki I a 31 iLi tjA
Significant historical Pennsylvania newspapers