Deworea fan, Bellefonte, Pa., December 4, 1925. EE —— LIFE. To the preacher life's a sermon, To the joker it’s a jest. To the miser life is money, To the loafer life is rest, To the lawyer life’s a trial, To the poet life’s a song, To the doctor life’s a patient ‘Who needs treatment right along. To the soldier life’s a battle, To the teacher life's a school. Life’s a good thing to the grafter, It’s a failure to the fool. To the man upon the engine Life’s the making of a grade, Life’s a gamble to the gambler, To the merchant life is trade. Life is but a long vacation To the man who loves his work. Life's an everlasting effort To shun duty to the shirk. To the earnest Christian worker Life’s a story ever new. Life’s just what we try to make it. Brother, what is life to you? —H. M. C,, U. S. Naval Hospital. Wash- ington, D. C. LOVE AND MARRIAGE. By L. A. Miller. As I removed my pencil from the back of my ear, I hesitated for a mo- ment as to which of these popular top- ics I would write about. After a little hesitation I concluded I would select the one that would appeal most forci- bly to the women. I figured that now, since the women are made equals to the men in the political sense—know- ing full well that women read much more now than heretofore, and owing to the fact that they are, as a rule, partial to your journal on account of its rigid cleanliness, and its abhor- rance to sensations and scandals, I concluded that “Love and Marriage” would fill the bill to the satisfaction of There is no word in the human lan- guage more beautiful or more sacred than the word “Love;” and there is none which is used with more vague- ness of connotation, or more profane- ly, to denote the thing that every pure and noble heart would most abhor. In the first place, love, if it is to be conducive to the social end must not be what is called “romantic.” A great deal of the disappointment of mar- riage may be attributed to false ex- pectations founded upon the romantic idea of love; the false idealization of the beloved person. To attribute the affection to the object of love is char- acteristic of the romantic idea. A ro- mantic girl says, “my love is the type of all chivalry; he is endowed with all noble qualities; there is no fault in him.” And the romantic lover says his maiden “is a goddess; I worship the ground on which she travels.” The idea of romantic love is the ex- cessive magnifying of persons, and it is inspired by the desire of each to en- joy the perfection of the other. It may be asked: But why should not this be accounted an amiable and venial fault, if fault it be? Why should we not, in the period of youth, indulge ourselves in delusions and dreams? Why should we not invest one another with this starry mantle? The answer is, because it is false; and falsehood, especially in the fun- damental relations of life, are sure to exact its penalties and to bring reac- tion in after years. There are some persons, especially women, who have the art of obstinately adhering to their delusions in defiance of their bet- ter knowledge. But in general, when it appears that the ideal has feet of clay. Then one of two things must hap- pen; either the marriage continues in- tact while love is dead, supported by the force of custom or by fear of ex- posure, and becomes a sort of lack- lustre fellowship; a pveary chain that is dragged to the end with what pa- tience one can command; or else, in bolder and more reckless natures, the desire to meet the embodiment of one’s ideal somewhere, persists, and the attempt is made to find outside of marriage, in unwholesome and illicit ways the satisfaction which the mar- riage relation fails to bring; for these reasons a romantic life cannot be the true love. Again, there should be a warning against an idea which is very com- mon at present, under the influence of the college education of girls, and of the emancipation of women—the idea that in the relation between the sexes, every attempt should be made to ig- nore sex difference, and that men and women should meet just as men meet with men, on the basis of comrade- ship. This idea, I believe, like that of ro- mantic love, a pernicious one. In the first place, if it is encouraged before marriage, it is likely to conduce to tragedies. Nature may be ignored, but cannot, after all, be annulled. The attraction between the opposite sexes is different from that between mem- bers of the same sex, and so it often happens that between those who have affected to deal with one another sim- ply as good comrades, there suddenly comes an inrush of passion for which they were not prepared, and which is all the more violent because they were not on their guard. And if it be en- couraged after marriage, it leads to still worse consequences because the idea of mere comradeship is obnoxious and antagonistic to the idea of mar- riage. Such a thing as a permanent comradeship cannot be imposed. In the very nature of comradeship is im- plied the possibility of separation. There is no comrade to whom I feel myself so pledged as to be inseparably connected. Comradeship depends on free choice, and free choice can be an- nulled. I may be the comrade of some one in matters of business, then we are held together so long as our business interests combine us. I may be his comrade in some literary or scientific ursuit. I may be his comrade on a ourney; and at the end of the jour- ney, we may shake hands and part The Best Gift of All— : Christmas Seals i, ~ “Ep A Prescription tor Health | — forever. There is nothing permanent in the idea of comradeship. But the idea of marriage is differ- ent. He who enters into marriage gives up a part of his liberty. Mar- riage is not comraderie. The very es- cence of it is a permanent bond. Sex attraction exists in the lower animal world; in a sense, it is the basest and most repulsive instinct which we know. How does it happen, then, in the human world, that it is not oniy dignified and exalted, but even trans- formed into its opposite, so that what on the animal level is most despicable, becomes most honorable and most pure. It is not just the permanence of the marriage relation that makes the difference! It is not because of that interweaving of mind and heart which is only possible on the basis of permanence. I have often said that marriage seems to me to be the epitome of all other fine relations. There is a cer- tain element of brotherliness in it as between the married pair; there is a certainly fatherly attitude; there is a certain motherly brooding on the par: of the wife over her husband; there is friendship, and an element of com- radeship; and there is always some- thing infinitely more—what is that in- finitely more? It is something pres- ent in no other human relation. It is just the feeling that, as between hus- band and wife, there shall be a total blending of mind with mind and heart with heart; that they shall touch not merely at one point, as friends and companions do, but they shall touch at all points; that they cannot endure separation. Emerson said he could well afford to have his friend Carlysle, live on the other side of the water—he did not need his presence; but true husband and wife cannot live one on this side of the water and the other on the oth- er side. They are moved to have all in common; to live under the same roof, to break bread together, to suf- fer with each other, to rejoice togeth- er, to con life’s lessons together; to wish to confer perpetual benefit each on the other. They are not romantic enthusiasts, neither are they without he poetic rapture in each other’s re- ation. The true cure of marriage differs from romantic love in this; that the romantic lover sees perfection, con- trary to facts, and attributes a present perfection to the other; the real lover is he who sees a certain excellence, a certain charm—ywithout the attraction of that there will be no approach—but beyond that, sees the possibility of greater excellence and perfection which is not yet, but which shall be developed through mutual help. ° One cannot think of marriage with- out the children. And it is in relation to the children that the task of realiz- ing the excellence which has not yet appeared, is best achieved. The child- ren, for instance, if they are to be well brought up, and well guided, must reverence their parents. The quality of reverence is indispensable. But if they are to reverence them, then par- ents must become worthy of their reverence; and so this need of the children is the challenge which helps, and spurs on the parent to become worthy of reverence. Our children turn to us for knowledge. If we are to impart that knowledge we must have it; we cannot afford to be idlers and triflers. Of course we cannot give them all the instructions they require. We send them to schools or engage tutors for them, but we must give them the inflatus of knowledge. They must not look upon us as ignorant persons. They must realize that in some field we too are competent. They must get the atmosphere of superior experience and knowledge from us. Furthermore the children depend upon us for example. Children are often passionate. irritable, violent. How far reaching is ous example! What a challenge then to us to be- come self-controlled and severe for their sake! The lights and shadows from our countenance fall into their life. Let us remember, no matter what happens to us, no matter what grief gnaws at our heart, no matter what loss we may sustain, what we owe to the little ones; and let us try to achieve serenity, patience, and res- ignation; so that the light of our ountenance may illumine their life, and the shadows of our countenance may not darken it. The presence of children become the great stimulus to the growth and development of per- fections which are as yet but latent in the husband and wife. The child needs father and mother; the child needs the father’s masculine influence, and the mother’s feminine influence always together, the two streams uniting to pour their fructifying in- fluence through the child’s life into the life of humanity. Christmas Caroling to be Organized in 2,000 Cities. The revival of the old-times, Old World custom of Christmas Eve car- oling has made such rapid progress in the United States during the past decade, according to the statistics of the Nantional Bureau for the Ad- vancement of Music, that it will be organized in probably more than 2,000 towns and cities this year, many of which are already recruiting and re- hearsing their singers. One of the interesting later devel- opments of the movement has been its spread into the rural communities, with the carolers conveyed by auto, or when there is snow on the ground, by sleigh, from village to village. In North Dakota the State University at Grand Forks, through its extension division, is giving impetus to this activity for the coming Christmas. For those who wish to organize car- oling groups there is considerable in- formation and assistance available, which may be obtained by writing to the National Bureau for the Advance- ment of Music at 45 West 45th Street, New York, and which is free upon re- quest in” single copies. ‘It includes the general descriptive booklet, “Christ- mas Eve Caroling Being Revived,” outlining the methods adopted in places of various size, a survey list- ing the 1,285 towns and cities, reports of whose caroling activity had been received up to last year, and a paper pattern of the hood and cape costume which is being widely used by the itin- erant bands, and which adds so much to the color and picturesqueness of the scene. Those who organize the groups are most frequently school teachers, music teachers, Sunday school super- intendents, club leaders and individ- uals generally who enjoy working with young people and helping them to serve their community. JACKSONVILLE. The funeral of Mr. Shamp, on Mon- day morning, was well attended. The hunters have gone to the moun- tains and our town is rather quiet. Miss Viola Korman, of near Curtin, spent Thanksgiving and the week-end at the Harry Hoy home. The stork stopped at the Luther Fisher home, last Monday evening, and left a nine pound baby boy. Mrs. Merrill Walker and children, of Howard, were guests over Thanks- giving at the E. R. Lucas home. Mrs. William Weaver, Miss Pearl Weaver, Mrs. Mary Dietz and daugh- ter Josephine were Lock Haven shop- pers on Wednesday. : New License Tags for Coming Year. Pennsylvania’s 1926 motor vehicle license plate, with its gold back- ground and blue figures will stand alone among the color combinations adopted by the various States for their automobile licenses next year. The colors are not duplicated by any other State from which plates have been re- ceived by the registration bureau. Ben. G. Eynon, registrar said. The colors are a reversal of those for this year when the background was blue and the figures gold. ———— A reemeee— What Causes Colds? The time-honored notion that colds are for the most part caused by in- clement weather is ridiculed in a bulletin issued by the United States Public Health Service. Cold in the head, says the bulletin, is unquestionably the consequence of | over-fatigue, which exposes the sys- | tem to the bacilli float constantly about. The majority of colds are “caught” during the months when lit- tle outdoor exercise is taken. Someone Must Worry. Doctor—You have nervous dyspep- sia, same as Brown had. His was caused by worrying over his grocery bill. I directed him to stop worrying. Stranger—Yes, and now he’s cured, I've got it. I’m his grocer. | [ EE — I —— ——Senator Borah is too peaceful gi for this world. He wouldn’t fight any- body for anything. ——Subscribe for the “Watchman.” 2 Choose the Right. Store Chr 1Istmas for your Christmas i your Christmas worries will be over. The Fauble Store is a Real Christmas Store Everything for Men and Boys. The most wonderful assort- ment of Useful Gifts ever shown in any Bellefonte store. We have worked and planned for months, until now we can safely say—if it’s for Man or Boy, it’s here. NECKWEAR NIGHT SHIRTS TRAVELING BAGS HANDKERCHIEFS PAJAMAS SUIT CASES HOSIERY MUFFLERS UNDERWEAR GLOVES BELTS GOLF STICKS SWEATERS BATH ROBES LUMBER JACKS SUITS OVERCOATS RAIN COATS HATS SHOES SHIRTS IN FACT EVERYTHING THAT MEN WEAR Necessities and luxuries in all the Newest Creations. We will not only please you, but you will be surprised at the Large Assortment, the Moderate Prices and the High Quality of our Christmas Merchandise. Come early—com- pare ours with others, and we feel sure you will Make Our Store your Christmas Store We Want you to Buy--but we Want you to Just Look First A. FAUBLE Gifts for Women et’s all get together to make this the happiest Christmas ever for our wives, mothers, sisters, and everybody’s sisters. It’s just a matter of knowing what they like. There are some things we can be pretty certain will delight any woman. A few of these are mentioned here. Many other wonderful suggestions will be found in the store. Lingerie—possesses that charm which delights her intimate hours. Neckwear—she never can have an over-supply of this accessory. Gloves—make the smart, serviceable and acceptable gift. Furs—appeal to the woman’s inherent love for all things beautiful. Evening Scarfs—in gorgeous colors and designs are charming gifts. Hand-bags—leather or beaded—help her to attain the latest chic. Comfy Lounging Robe or Negligee Whether you desire the warm Corduroy Robe, or the beauti- ful Comfy Quilted Satin Robe, or the dainty Crepe-de-Chine Negligee—we have them all. HAZEL & COMPANY See TEN
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