84-Lancaster Farming, Saturday, November 1,2003 Family Living Focus by Denise H. Continenza j Lehigh County I Cooperative Extension * Rx For Report Card Anxiety Report card time is just around the comer once again for most students. And for many of them, this is a time of high anxiety. This excessive worrying may stem from a fear the child has of what his or her parents might do when they see the grades, but often this anxiety is self-imposed. What is a parent to do with a child who is a perfectionist? First Art And Farming Cross Paths SCHAEFERSTOWN (Lebanon Co.) Art and farming cross paths at artist Judy Eberly’s farm, Juben Hill Llamas. A painter for most of her life, Judy began exploring the fiber arts with her llama wool and makes clothing and sculpture from this unique resource. Get a unique chance to meet Judy and her gentle llamas during the Art Studio Tour taking place on Saturday, Nov. 8,10 a.m.-5 p.m. and Sunday, Nov. 9, noon-5 p.m. Judy is one of over 26 central Pennsylvania artists opening their studio doors for the tour. This popular event gives residents and visitors alike a chance to interact with art that they can love for themselves or as a truly unique gift. Judy and her husband have had Juben Hill Llamas for 14 years, starting their herd soon after they retired. “I just always loved the way they look ed,” said Judy, “so elegant and regal.” About 10 years ago Judy began collecting their fiber for yam. She dis covered felting about S years ago and became part of the Llama and Fiber Friends, (LAFF), a group of fetters from around central Pennsylvania. She makes clothing, hats, gloves, slippers, masks, and even pictures of felt. Within the last two years she started making figures. LAFF members have even collaborated in April 2003 on a special sunflower motif felt chair, do nated to the American Lung Association of York Co. LAFF members will be demonstrating at Judy’s studio during the Art Studio Tour. “The Art Studio Tour is such a wonderful opportunity for people to get out there and see what’s happening (in the arts) and to look to see what they like,” stated Eberly. Artist Judy Eberly works on a painting in her Schaefferstown studio. of all, parents need to distinguish between a high achiever and a perfectionist. Does your child set reasonable goals that are achieva ble, or are they beyond reach and reason? Does your child enjoy what he is doing or he is he solely focused on an absolutely perfect product? Does your child bounce back from failure and try again, or does she wallow in disappoint ment? Some of the other participating artists stretch the use of their materials in new and exciting ways, while others start with smooth and famil iar traditional forms and allow that to be its own subtle expression. Sylvia Lehman creates bas kets that display an unending variety of shapes, all inspired by other non-typical or found mater ials, such as paper or metal, which she incorpo rates into her compositions. Woodturner Bill Hacked creates simple forms with clean lines and a soothing feel from rough raw logs that he has stacked right outside of his studio. Brochures with maps include directions to each tour stop and brief descriptions of the art ist’s work. They are available by calling (717) 832-2182 or by visiting www.art-studio tour.com. Does she have a level of anxi ety that energizes her to try her hardest, or is she consumed with fear of failure? Does your child react to crit icism fairly positively, seeing it as a learning opportunity, or does he become defensive, expressing feelings of being a total failure? Parents of over-achievers have an added task on their list of things to do for their child. If you feel that your child falls into the perfectionist category, re port card time can be a great op portunity for you to assist your child in becoming a healthy achiever instead of a perfection seeker. When the report card envelope reaches your door, whether you child is a perfectionist or not, here are some strategies for using the report card as a way to talk about goals, accomplishments, and disappointments: Begin by focusing on the [“ positives. Talk about the A’s and B’s before the C’s Over 80 Stoves & Fireplaces On Display 1060 Division Highway 322 East, Ephrala, PA 17522 1 Block Eist of Rt. 222 (717) 733-4973 800-642-0310 www.bowmansstove.com Mon., Tuts., Wad. 10 to 6; Thors., Fri. 10 to 8; Sal. 10 to 4 and D’s. Read the positive teach er commentary. Stay calm when talking about the grades that* your child feels are not so good. Ask him how he feels about the mark he received. Use empathy and understanding. Let your child know that aim ing for 100 percent is a great goal, but is often not achievable all at once. Sometimes a goal is first reached at 80 percent, then 90 percent. Explain that lower grades allow for improvement. Set a reasonable goal for the next marking period. Together take a look at the total picture. What else has your child been doing and doing well? It may not be reasonable to ex pect straight A’s during football season or spring play practice. Success does not only mean high grades in school. Talk about Powered |/ 1 Backpack I Glasses & Tools SOQQ 9 5 £.99 SRP Chain Saws —!2B9» n Available at these servicing dealers Abbottstown Ephrata Ronks MESSICK’S WES STAUFFER a & B SALES 7481 Lincoln Hwy. 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