* * * fc «. 4 4 Family Living Focus by Yvonne M. Szpara Schuylkill County Extension Agent Family Stress Does your child stay with Grandma or perhaps go to some form of daycare while you are at work? Is it sometimes difficult to get the youngster to cooperate with you in getting into the car and then into their car-seat for the trip home? Here’s some food for thought about how to defuse this stress provoking situation. Cars seats and the need to obey child safety laws may be part of the 21st Century, but the parent/ child power struggle behind the issue has been around for ages. Think of the acronym C-A-R. It will remind you of three key words Change, Activity, and Re sistance. Children need help making transitions. When you want them to leave the caregiver and peace ably enter the car, this is a change and most children resist change. They are not skilled at envisioning the future and you can make the transition easier by helping them visualize the steps that are involved. 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Avoid the threat of starvation bring along some small nutritious snacks like fruit leather, juice packets, or rai sins to save the day. The final letter of C-A-R is re sistance. You want her/him to sit still and she/he is busy proving that you can’t make her do it. Frankly you can’t. Even if you do overpower the child and get them buckled into the seat, they will quickly learn to unbuckle themselves. What you can control is your own behavior. Decide what you will do. Explain your decision to the child. For example, you have decided that if she fails to coop erate, you will read a book until she tells you that she is ready to get buckled in. Count on getting the opportunity to put this plan into action. The first time or two, the child needs to check it out and see if you really mean what you say. When the child begins to struggle, you don’t. Open your book and read. Say nothing. Even if this take 10 or 15 min utes, it beats listening to his/her howls during the entire trip. 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The tie-stall bam is filled with S 6 milking cows and approxi mately 50 calves and heifers, all registered Holsteins. Potts’ own 257 acres and rent another 100 acres. Cora and mixed hay is grown on the farm. Don, Mary, Katie, Dru, and Delbert, all fami ly members work on the farm. They also have four part-time employees, Jason Atkinson, Josh Lodge, Donny VanKuren and Leslie Hawley. Mary lived on a farm in Springville when she was growing up. Mary has raised paint and quarter horses for the Each Phone 717-626-1164 - - -LancasterFarming, Saturday, October 25, 2003-B7 Dairy Princess Spotlights Sixth-Generation Farm past fourteen years. She is a lead er for the Sunny Mountain 4-H Club and has done a lot of work with handicapped children. Mary gave therapeutic riding lessons for several years. The Potts farm is a Pennsylva nia Century Farm. They have re ceived No Till Farmer of the Year and Young Farmer of the Year awards. The view across the road from the farm is Forest Lake. Like any family they enjoy playing in the lake. Therefore they try to have all the cows freshen before July or after August, this way they have a little extra time in the summer months to enjoy the lake. The Potts’ have put in a waste management system and concrete barnyard. They are very active with the Chesapeake Bay pro gram . Living by a lake there are a lot of regulations to follow. It is only natural for the Potts’ that they protect the environment so they have clean land, air and water to enjoy. They often give tours of the farm to the people that live in the cottages at the lake, and to school kids and handicapped children’s classes. Build On Failure EEESPORT (Berks Co.) Help kids build on failure. Help them to rebuild their feelings by reminding them that there will always be an other chance and that you will love them, no matter what. If you tie a child’s self esteem to their success, you are setting them up for unhappiness later in life. Having a loving, caring family is probably even more important for self-esteem than having a lifetime of successes.
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