Tips To Tone Up Listening We know about heart trans plants, liver transplants, kidney transplants, but what about an idea transplant. Idea transplant is the simple definition of “com munication.” Two persons one a speaker and the other a listener trans plant an idea from one to the other. Have you ever thought of communication in that manner? In a typical day, most people send from 300 to 1,000 verbal messages. That’s a lot of speak ing and listening. The biggest problem in communicating is that most people spend more time speaking than listening. In William Shakespeare’s “Ham let,” Polonius cautions people to stop talking, “Give every man thine ear, but few thy voice.” *f* i* Furniture Shopping Got you Spooked? Check Out Our Hauntingly Low <#/ SOFA and LOVESEAT \ / WBNQ BACK~CHAIR~ \ / SECTIONAL \3f | Dealer fljPMf lHWf| Refusal • Reg. ReTfs?9oiBo | Our Price •$600.95. Closeout $679.95 I Nowg> s 499°i SLEIGH BED \ w/Rails & Nightstand . 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For purchases with a check, bring FINANCING • Cash A Carry drivers license and phone numbers AVAILABLE VNot responsible for typographical errors We reserve the right to substitute gift items^ How often do you say, “You don’t understand.” What is needed is time and a chance to listen, reflect, speak, and listen again. Just like an artist takes time to paint a masterpiece, a good listener takes time to com municate effectively. If you are pressed for time, be honest. Tell the speaker. Sched ule a time when both parties can talk. “Give me 10 minutes to fin ish washing the dishes and we can talk.” Then devote your at tention to the conversation. A good listener asks questions. The questions start with “how,” “what if,” “why,” and “tell me about.” These words and phrases evoke detailed responses that are open ended. They open the con versation to further development. After asking a question, a listener gives the speaker time to frame the response. Good listeners are slow to speak and quick to listen. When questions begin with “did you,” “are you,” “can you,” it requires only a one word responses such as “yes” or “no.” Elverson Fire Company Fall Antiques Show And Sale ELVERSON (Chester Co.) On Nov. 17 and 18, Elverson Fire Company will conduct its 64th semi-annual Antique Show and Sale. The show is hosted by the fire company for the benefit of the New Engine Fund. This year’s show includes 44 dealers displaying fine country furniture, primitives, American folk art, quilts, linens, baskets, tools, toys, dolls, pewter and more. 0», SUSi 'UKIL'.NN.i V UINTING i » f * • Wedding Invitations • Brochures * • Business Cards • Sale Cards ’ • Catalogs '■ • Newsletters • Newspapers k ! Arl Haas , ' One East Main Street t , P.O. Box 527, Ephrata, PA 17522 i i 717-733-6397 • Fax 717-733-6058 [| Lancaster Farming, Saturday, October 27, 2001-B5 Little or no is shared. Closed ended questions sound accusatory. It is like going on a very long fact finding mis sion. Hold your temper. Angry feel ings get in the way of listening. Anger takes over listening. It clouds the communication. Just as an artist puts down his or her brush when emotions take over, a good listener asks for a break. Take a break. Have a glass of water. Do something else. Again, be honest. Admit your anger. Admit that you can’t commit yourself to listening and be angry at the same time. Angry speakers use emotionally charged words. Angry listeners feel the emotions and hear the emotionally charged words and not the true message. Step away. Move back when the anger subsides. Finally, ask yourself: “Would I listen to me right now?” Nature gives people two ears but only one mouth. This is a gentle hint that people should listen more than they talk. Listen more. You don’t know what you are miss ing. Admission is $3.50. The show is open 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. on Sat urday and 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Sunday. 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