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Taking Time by Rebecca Escott Catch Them Doing It Right! Back-tp-school time can be a tough time for children new teachers, new routines, new ex pectations, new friends (or estab lishing turf with old friends). This is an important time for parents to Recipe Topics If you have recipes for the topics listed below, please share them with us. We welcome your recipes, but ask that you include accurate measurements, a complete list of ingredients and clear instructions with each recipe you submit. Send your recipes to Lou Ann Good, Lancaster Farming, P.O. Box 609, Ephrata, PA 17522. Recipes should reach our office one week before publishing date listed below. September 18- Tomato Recipes 25 - Cooking with Apples 2 - Using Rice 9 - National Pork Month October r* r mSS SOFA AND LOVESEAT | Rag. Ret. $1,969.95 , Our Pries $829.95 1 * 2 Cash Pries $769.95 | Closeout •469 04 / nr HEADBOARD , AND TWO , NIGHTSTANDS, Rag. 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I would not become overly committed to external re ward systems because children may become dependent on the incentive to do the right thing. But, there are times and places when rewards work. lously. hi fact by the end of the hip, the kids were practically fall ing over themselves to be polite or helpful. She said it was one of the first trips that wasn’t filled with bickering. My child’s day care has another way of “catching them doing it right” The providers regularly praise the children for following directions, but if a child does something great under his own initiative, they will give them the special treat of getting a stamp on their hand. That’s a big deal to a two-year-old. One day my daught er got a dinosaur stamp on her hand when she picked up other kids’ toys without being asked. She was so proud when her teach er told me the reason she received a stamp. Reward systems are not the only way to “catch them doing it right” A spoken compliment can be just as meaningful as a treat When you see your son do something well, tell him. Be spe cific. Don’t just say. “1 was really proud of you tonight.” Say, “I not- got mi? Lancaster Farming, Saturday, September 11, 1999-B7 iced how you introduced the new guy in your class to all your friends. That’s really being car ing.” Describe exactly what you noticed. These specific descriptions help a child learn what is valued. “You really worked hard on your home work this evening. You struggled with that one math problem for 20 minutes until you came up with the correct answer.” *T noticed that you ignored your little sister when she was bugging you and calling you baby names. That takes self-control!” Catching your child doing it right can become a part of a bal anced parenting strategy that in cludes both praise for positive choices and consequences for in appropriate actions. And while you’re at it, don’t stop with your kids, catch others “doing it right” too your spouse, your mother-in-law, your neighbor, your pastor, your secre tary. A word of specific praise goes a long way in an environment that is too often critical and blam ing.