Easing Separation Anxiety Separation anxiety strikes all children at various moments throughout their lifetime. Whether left in the care of a babysitter for a few hours, placed in a day care home or center for the day, or dropped off for a week at summer day camp, children of all ages experience feelings of loneliness and sad ness that can come when sepa rated from their loved ones for any given period of time. In fact, separation anxiety is a common occurrence in my household. It strikes my 20- month old son each time he experiences the departure of dad from his view. It’s a common phenomenon with my 3 1/2 year old daughter who clings to me on days that I must go to work. And I’m quite sure that it was the uneasy feeling of separation anxiety that even I experienced several weeks ago when my daughter left on a Friday evening to spend the night at Grandma’s house. 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Here are a few suggestions. 1. Prepare your child for the separation. Whenever possible, it’s almost always a good idea to prepare both parent and child for the separation that is to occur. If it’s a new babysitter that will be coming to the home, a few visits from the caretaker in advance can be very helpful in making everyone feel more com fortable. If it’s a birthday party, overnight sleepover, hospital stay, or other event in which parent and child will be separat ed, an actual “walk-through” (ie visiting the hospital) or play-by play description of the event can prove helpful in easing chil dren’s fears. 2. Send a familiar reminder of home or family. When separated from a loved one, a familiar reminder of home or family can bring great com fort to a child. Perhaps it’s a snapshot of the family together, a favorite stuffed animal, or a comfortable pillow with all the of home. When children are away from home for the first time, parents may even try ■> ' ''' ,"S ✓ V ■■■ ia* There will be a hay wagon in front of the store loaded with close-outs and specials from all over the store. We clean out the corners, the attic, and the basement. Some as much as 80% off recording a message for their child to be played at bedtime. The comfort of a parents voice may be just the right thing to bring a smile to a lonely face. 3. Say goodbye. When leaving their child with a babysitter or at child care, some parents think that “sneak ing out” of their child’s sight when leaving is the best way to avoid any unnecessary sadness. In fact, doing so may be more likely to provoke a child’s future distrust of their parent. A better approach is to make a point of saying goodbye. Having a set pattern, such as walking to the door together, waving good-bye at the window, or exchanging hugs gives a child a sense of con trol and comfort when it comes time to separate. 4. Listen and acknowledge your child’s feelings. By listening to and acknowl edging their child’s feelings, par ents can offer much comfort and reassurance. Works such as “I know it’s hard to say goodbye” show empathy and understand ing. Talking about feelings that your child might experience while away from you can also prove helpful, as well as dis cussing what a child can do about these feelings (ie. share them with a camp counselor, write in a journal, call home, get involved in a fun activity with other children.) When children are encour aged to share their feelings about separation openly with parents, they learn how to work through difficult feelings while gaining an increased sense of confidence in themselves. Chances are good that they can then move towards greater inde pendence in the future. TO SCHOO|, _ Friday, July 3|. so; ten's. 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