Taking Time by Rebecca Escott This past year has been an incredible adventure for me. My husband and I became parents of a wonderful little girl in March 1997, and for the last year we have been scrambling to acquire the skill we need to care for her. Businesses often employ the concept of "Just in time” training. Well we are doing "Just in time" parent education. Of course, we did have advan tages over some new parents. Our combined families include 12 nieces and nephews, a mater nity nurse, a parenting educator (me), siblings, friends, and co workers who were willing to pro vide advice when needed and a home library filled with refer ences. We are fortunate. With all that in place, we still feel like we're floundering some times. For that reason, I have become a real follower of the Missouri motto - Show me! Here I am.’ Parent educator, assertive woman. Capable, right? I was so grateful when the pediatric nurse at the hospi tal reviewed with me the way to change a newborn's diaper. 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