•* Wanted;-Creative Parenting You undoubtedly have read, or thumb is to give the child several beard many people talk about the possible alternatives, and then characteristics that are needed to encourage the the child to try the be a patent of a young child. The one solution that seems. best, list almost seems endless and one Many behavior problems can be wonders if afl of the desired quali- averted or diminished if the parent lies can be incorporated within thinks of an alternative or quickly one parent or even in one set of diverts the child’s attention. To do parents. I would like, however, to takes practice, but less time add one more characteristic. That a non-creative parent who is that the parent of the young spends time yelling and then child from toddlerhood on needs “cooling down.” to be creative. Another aspect of being a crea- Think for a moment about all ti ve parent involves coming up the many situations a young child with alternatives to handling a dis gets into that require a different cipline situation. Sometimes the way to do something. Being crea- old saying that we get into a rut is dvc means something quite diffe- more true than we would like to rent from being able to draw a pic- admit. In some homes the only ture or do finger-painting. A discipline or punishment that is parent can come up with several Biv® n is a threat. Threat after alternative ways of handling that threat but the situation gets worse. situation. Being a creative parent *•* other homes, physical punish mcjins that the parent can think menrseems to be the only punish and suggest various ways of doing tnent that is even given to the something or can change the child. child’s activity when a problem A parent who is trying to deve occurs. lop creativity will think about how f Several examples will help. Suppose Judy, age 18 months, refused to eat The creative parent instead of getting angry at the child will change the method of feeding or will place the food in a favorite container. Joey, age 3. is causing quite a disturbance, bothering everyone else in the flunily. A creative parent will involve Joey in something interesting-- will get him, for example, to place all the blocks in one comer of the box or line the Hocks end to end and make a highway. Or Andy, age 5, is very tired but won’t lie still to rest. The creative parent will quickly think up a sleep game tv play “how long you can be quiet” or begin a favo rite story or song. ' In each of these cases the non tifieative parent might yell or conti saHy repdftiand the child' Ind become very frustrated. In each of l|ese cases the non-creative parent tni|ht be tempted to give the child | spanking. But the key question to ask before yelling or getting upset with the child; Is there Mother way to handle this situa tion in a calmer manner? What eould I, as a parent, suggest that Andy or Joey or Judy do instead of what the child is presently doing? Sometimes a child will become frustrated when something he or the is doing doesn’t woik out The creative parent will think of sever al other ways the child might try to solve the problem. A good rule of BUY. SELL. IB APE OB RENT THROUGH (CLfISSIFIEP APS) Bfl LIVESTOCK WMeouipment CENTAUR FENCING SYSTEMS Th« Safety Coatad High Tensile Fence Alto available Board Fence & Fence Palming. 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One leads to another and another. Children can see through threats! When we yell, we get upset because the adrenalin or some other hormone gets very active in us and the child knows that whatever was done sure gets him attention! If we physically hit the child we are teaching the child that the way to control undesirable behavior is Uava Message at 261 Wolf Rock Rd.' 717-354-4374 Paradise, PA 17562 or Between 6:30 & 7:00 a.m. or p.m 717-442-8631 lA & J FENCING I AU Types Of Fencing * High Tensile * Post & Board * Split Rail * Cross Board * American Wire * Chain Link * Etc. We also do post driving MILK. IT'S FITNESS YOU CAN DRINK. to use physical force. Young children have a difficult time understanding why Mom or Dad can hit when they’re not allowed to hit. If a child experiences a parent hitting him or her, the child is learning lessons about the use of force and aggression. The point is-- to make our job a little easier maybe we as parents need to be a little more creative. 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