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% or for worse.
words of the marriage cere-
mony seriously: “for better
When marri-
Wis hard, you don’t give up.”
He thinks a lot of young
; . couples figure, that, well, if
things don’t work out, “they
can always get a divorce.”
In other words, marriage
is just “for better,” but not
“for worse.”
Rhonda, Michele, & Steve Proctor
In September of 1969
Steve Proctor entered the
St. Clair County Commun-
ity College in Michigan as
one of eight male students
of nursing in a class other-
wise composed of some
seventy girls.
Met in nursing school
Out of all those girls in
his nursing classes, there
was one who almost im-
mediately caught his eye,
but she seemed to be en-
grossed with another girl and
two fellows from her home
town. Just by chance one
time, Steve and the attrac-
tive girl, whose name was
Rhonda, were paired off
to take each other’s blood
pressure. (They didn’t tell
the Bulletin whether their
blood pressure was up that
first time they got acquaint-
ed.)
Later, they worked to-
gether in obstetrics and the
nursery. The more they
talked to each other, the
more they found they had
similar ideas and points of
view.
But Steve was a little
shy about asking Rhonda
for a date, and Rhonda was
confiding to a friend that
she “knew” he was going
to ask her out, but wonder-
ed just when he’d get a-
round to it.
It took about a month
until Steve asked Rhonda
to go to a football game
with him.
From then on they start-
ed to see each other regular-
ly. Rhonda was impressed
by the respect Steve showed
her in little ways, like open-
ing doors for her, walking
on the outside of the side-
walk, and coming to the
door for her.
One night Steve brought
his guitar along and played
and sang on a balcony ad-
joining Rhonda’s apartment.
She listened and was moved.
Shared a religious faith
They were also discover-
ing that they shared a strong
religious faith, a belief that
the relationship between a
man and a woman was a
part of their relationship
to God. Together, they
were active in a local church
youth group.
Steve took Rhonda home
to meet his family, and they
took her in as one of their
own immediately. Steve
has five borthers and sisters,
one of whom was adopted,
but his family had also raised
ten foster children. It was a
household where newcom-
ers were made welcome.
Rhonda wds most welcome.
It was clear now that
Steve and Rhonda were for
each other for keeps. Steve’s
father said to him that if he
ever had an argument with
Rhonda not to bother com-
ing to him about it, because
Steve’s father would assume
it would be Steve’s fault.
Steve gave Rhonda an
engagement ring on her
birthday in June, 1970, nine
months after they had met.
They were married in Feb-
ruary, 1971.
Administrator at Schock
Presbyterian Home
In the summer of 1971
Steve was appointed admini-
strator at Schock Presby-
terian Home in Mount Joy.
They moved here and lived
for six months in Manheim.
Then they moved into a
big old white farmhouse
near Route 441 and Cole-
brook Road. In August,
1972 their daughter, Mich-
ele, was born.
This May, Steve will grad-
uate in business administra-
tion from Elizabethtown
College. He has been at-
tending school at night since
he came here, getting more
training for his career in
health care administration.
He is scheduled to become
administrator at a new Pres-
byterian home being con-
structed at Oxford. Pa.
“For better or worse”
The Proctors don’t claim
to have a perfect marriage.
They admit to having argu-
ments, Rhonda doesn’t
think a marriage can be
good without some argu-
ments. But when they have
disagreements, “We turn to
our faith, and we pray about
it. . .He doesn’t give in, and
I don’t give in, all the time.
We discuss it.”
Steve says that he feels a
lot of people don’t take the
The Proctors have had a
_ lot of tough financial times
| since they were married. A
lot of couples break up ove.
arguments about the check-
book. It would never occur
to either of the Proctors
1 not to trust the other com-
| pletely with the checkbook.
Rhonda quotes the Gos-
pels, “not to worry about
what we will wear and what.
we will eat.” She thinks
that when money was very
short, somehow, ‘‘miracu-
lously,” they managed.
Communication
“Two become one” in
marriage, which means to
the Proctors that nothing is
hidden from the other. They
believe in absolutely free
communication with each
other about any concerns.
Rhonda asks, “If you
can’t be open with your
husband - who can you be
open with?”
~ The Proctors feel that
marriage has changed since
a generation or two ago,
when many husbands and
wives had an ‘““‘unspoken re-
lationship with each other.”
They feel that problems
must be brought out in the
open, discussed, and solved.
Otherwise, the problems can
grow big over the years,
build up, and destroy a
marriage.
Rhonda says that she
feels that the husband is,
fundamentally, ‘“the head
of the household.”
But Steve quickly adds,
“But the husband must
never take advantage of that
fact.”
In their living room a
family Bible is open to the
13th chpater of FirstCorin-
thians: *. . .Love will never
come to an end. ..”
——r
Bruce Sutter
February 26, 1975
Fob 2 >
Bruce Sutter left Sun.
for Cubs training camp
Last Sunday Bruce Sut-
ter of Mount Joy flew to
Scottsdale, Arizona, to be-
gin spring training as a pit-
cher with the Chicago Cubs.
After three years with
teams in the Cubs system,
Bruce gets his big chance
with the Cubs, the first
Mount Joy resident on a
major league ball team since
Bob Sprout.
It only took Bruce three
years to move up to the
big-time. He made the move
despite a bad elbow nerve
in his throwing arm and a
torn cartilage in his knee.
Dr. Charles R. Winter of
Lancaster relocated the
nerve so that it doesn’t
bother Bruce’s throwing. Dr.
Winter also took care of the
cartilage.
Bruce can’t throw the
fast ball anymore, which
used to whizz past batters
when he pitched for Done-
gal High School and won
the County Championship
against Garden Spot with a
three-hitter. Loss of the
fast ball doesn’t bother
Bruce, however, who has
Letters to Editor
Dear Editor:
As you know the May-
town Youth Organization
has not disbanded, but will
continue to sponsor recrea-
tion for the youth of East
Donegal Township.
The MYO would like to
thank the East Donegal
Township Jaycees for the
campaign they put on to
get the people - members
and parents - to come out
to our February meeting.
We would also like to
thank the “Susquehanna
Bulletin” for all the publi-
city you gave to the MYO.
The articles in the paper be-
came the “talk of the town”
and stirred up enough inter-
est to get at least some of
the people involved. So,
thank you, “Susquehanna
Bulletin” and East Donegal
Twp. Jaycees, for caring
and keeping us, the MYO, a
going concern.
We will be holding elec-
tions at our next meeting,
March 24, 7:30 p.m. at the
former Legion home in May-
town. All members are in-
vited to attend.
The MYO will hold base-
ball registration on March
10 from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.
at the Legion home. This is
for boys and girls, ages 8 to
15. New children are asked
to bring a birth certificate
and all children are asked
to bring a parent to the
sign-up.
The alternate registration
date will be Saturday, March
15 from 10:00 a.m. to 12
noon.
Thank you, once again,
for all the help you have
been to the Maytown Youth
Organization.
Sincerely,
Pauline Henry
Publicity Chairman
MYO
been perfecting his sinker
and slider. ‘Fast balls can
be hit too,” he says.
Bruce told the Bulletin
he learned to play ball from
his father, Howard H. Sut-
ter. He played in the mid-
get midgets in Mount Joy.
In high school he learned
a lot, he says, from the late
Don Staley and Al Brooks.
They taught him “every as-
pect of the game.” They
taught him how to set up a
batter and keep him off bal-
ance. They also taught him
“respect,” Bruce states.
Bruce felt confident the
day before he left for Ari-
zona. He has learned a lot
in his three years in the
minor leagues. “Mostly con-
trol and keeping the ball
down,” he says.
Although Bruce has been
playing with some losing
teams in the last few years,
his earned run averages have
been phenomenal. This fall
his E.R.A. was an incredible
82.
It was those low E.R.A.’s
that brought him up to the
majors in such a short time.
DID YOU HEAR...
Don Witman, DHS senior,
has been selected to repre-
sent Lancaster County in
the 1975 National Music
Education Convention in
April. Don will be singing
in Eastern Seaboard States
Chorus. He is the son of
Mr. and Mrs. S. Martin Wit-
man of R. D. 1, Marietta.
DID YOU HEAR...
William A. (“Tex”) Lan-
dis has received a certificate
of merit from the National
Merit Scholarship Qualifying
Test. He is one of less than
one-half of one percent of
all high school seniors in
the United States to qualify.
Tex is the son of Dr. and
Mrs. William B. Landis of
Marietta.