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Anniversary offers chance for reflection
By Casey McDermott
COLLEGIAN STAFF WRITER
LATROBE - .Joe Dado is the reason Jonathan “JJ” Hue
fell in love with football Saturdays at Beaver Stadium. He
was the one who invited Hue. who had never been to a
game before, to join him for the Indiana vs. Penn State
match in the fall of 2008.
Joe's the reason Susan Kuhn, his high school guidance
counselor, now drives her son to and from countless soccer
practices each week. He was the one who shared insight
gained from a life spent honing his passion for the sport
when she came to him with questions about which club
team would be best for her son.
Joe’s the reason his friend Mike Cook, his former
English teacher Jeff Duda and a handful of others at
Greater Latrobe Senior High School will chuckle each time
they see a can of white spray paint. He was the one who
came up with a senior prank that stumped administrators,
and even some of his closest friends, as the district tried to
figure out who was behind the drawings that showed up on
the school's football field one morning.
Joe’s also the reason two communities both in
Latrobe and at his new home at Penn State banded
together last September to mourn the loss of a friend, sob,
brother, student and teammate.
Today, he's the one whose even-keeled, quick-witted
demeanor and ineffaceable kindness still lives on in the
memories of those whose lives were touched by the 18-
year-old before his death.
“There wasn't one person teacher, student, coach,
anyone who would say anything bad about him,” Cook
(sophomore-biologv» said of his longtime friend Dado, as
Hue (sophomore-chemistry) nodded his head.
Both knew Dado as a classmate and teammate growing
up in Greater Latrobe School District, and made the tran
sition from their hometown east of Pittsburgh to State
College together last year.
In school, they said Dado was reserved, but that didn’t
mean he wouldn't crack a few jokes or try to liven things up
as he saw fit.
Dado was the type to be polite when you first met him,
Cook and Hue said, but as soon as he got comfortable with
you, his knack for sarcasm quickly came through.
“The thing I liked about him were the subtleties of some
of the things he picked on you." Cook said. “It would be the
smallest thing, but it would get under your skin."
And Duda said Dado's sardonic sense of humor wasn’t
just limited to his friends.
“Especially for me. someone who prides himself on sar
casm, I was impressed with his abilities," Duda said. “He
would smoke me."
But Dado was still far from a class clown, said his math
teacher, Cindy Pompelia.
She remembers Dado who had hopes of becoming an
engineer as a focused, mild-mannered student. In her
calculus class, she said Dado was a man of few words.
“He was just always kind of cool,” Pompelia said, imitat
ing Dado’s posture as she leaned back into her chair and
Cindy Pompelia, Dado's calculus teacher, and Jerry
Ferraro-, Dado's soccer coach, look at photos of his class.
"You were met by Joe’s eyes and smile before anything else always his
eyes, always his smile, and then his kindness."
surveyed the room. "He would come in after kicking all of
these amazing footballs the kids would all be joking
around about it and he would just smile."
That smile, said Dado's soccer coach of six y ears Jerry
Ferraro, was his trademark.
“You were met by Joe's eyes and smile before any thing
else always his eyes, always his smile, and then his kind
ness,” Ferraro said. “He maintained that innocence that
we have in elementary and junior high "
But those close to Dado said it wasn't just his personali
ty that set him apart. His abilities as an athlete, they said,
were unmatched not only for his physical talent but also for
the attitude he brought to each game.
Dado played soccer for most of his life. Ferraro said, and
was “unbelievably gifted” one of the top players the
coach had ever worked with.
But through his entire career, Ferraro said. Dado never
let pressure cloud his focus.
As a sophomore, Ferraro said Dado once scored a goal
with five seconds left in overtime just in time to secure
a win against one of Latrobe's biggest rivals.
He went on to lead as a soccer captain both his junior
and senior years at Latrobe no easy feat. Ferraro said.
“Joe’s leadership was unique to Joe: It was Do as I do."’
Ferraro said. “He did not make anyone feel inferior
through their ability or inability"
Cook said Dado was a key force behind Greater Latrobe
Senior High School’s student section, especially at basket
ball games.
Dado’s efforts to rally school spirit even included organ
izing a “Cereal Box Night" —one of several theme nights
held throughout the school’s basketball season. Cook said.
Under Dado’s guidance, he said, students lined the court
wearing cardboard “cereal boxes" they'd decorated with
the nicknames of their team’s top players, bearing titles
like “Campbell’s Loops" and "Apple Zachs.”
Dado’s friends said the student section was one of the
few times when their otherwise reserved friend would
break out of his shell.
But, Cook and Hue said, Dado's personality always
shone its strongest around his family.
Hue spent the weekend with the Dado family during his
high school visit to Penn State, and he said he'd never seen
his friend as talkative as he was when he was around his
sisters or parents.
Hue said Dado loved hanging out with his father, Joe.
mother, Denise, and sisters: Natalie, Nicole and Jennifer.
He’d even pass up the chance to hang out with his
friends on the weekends if his family was doing something
together, often telling Hue and others he was planning to
enjoy a dinner at home
“That is one of the closest-knit families I know," Hue
said.
When Dado began looking to college. Hue said he'd fre
quently joke that he wasn’t planning to apply to Penn State,
despite his family’s passion for the university.
But Kuhn said she heard a different sentiment when she
met with Dado to discuss his plans after high school. When
she asked him where he wanted to go, she said he made it
clear he wanted to keep his family’s ties to the blue and
white.
She said she jokingly asked Dado if he really wanted to
go to a school where his sisters would be so close bv only
to have him reply that yes, he did really want to attend
Penn State with his sisters.
“I go, “You don’t want to go there, do you?’ And he goes,
‘Yeah,’” Kuhn said. “He was so sincere, like, Yes, I love my
sisters’ and they loved him right back”
At about 7 p.m. on Sept. 21,2009, Ferraro received a text
message bearing the news of Dado’s death.
He said he turned to his cousin, a youth minister at
Charter Oak United Methodist Church in Latrobe, and
asked him to open the church’s doors to students as a
place to cope. Soon, by word of mouth. Dado’s peers start
ed pouring into the pews.
“The chapel in the back of the church filled with previous
boys’ soccer players, current boys’ soccer players, future
boys’ soccer players who saw their role model pass,”
Ferraro said.
In the coming days, Ferraro and the other teachers said
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the high school also became a place where students
both past and present turned to deal with the loss.
“To see the impact that it had on not only the students
that were here and the students who graduated, the
impact across the board even for teachers who didn’t
have him, it was...” Duda said, hesitating. "It was a wave.
It was like a tidal wave of depression, confusion and anger."
Kuhn said she immediately received visits from students
who graduated with Dado the past spring and were now
looking for a place to turn. The high school, she said, was
still “home" for Dado's graduating class many of whom
had barely settled into life at college when they heard
about their friend's death.
To Duda, coming back to the school was also the stu
dents' way of reconnecting with Dado one last time.
"They could meet here, they could walk down the halls,”
he said. "And the last time they were here, Joe was here.”
And in the months following Dado's death, Kuhn said the
support stayed strong.
In his memory, the Dado family established a memorial
scholarship at Latrobe High School given annually to one
male soccer player and one female soccer player.
The first two winners, Nathaniel Helfferich and Hilary
Bastin along with the other applicants knew this was
an application that needed to be taken seriously, Kuhn said.
"When I give scholarships out I say you have to write an
essay, kids walk away but with this one, it was typed,
they got it back promptly,” Kuhn said. “It just shows you
what the people thought of the family, and of Joe.”
Dado's burial fell on a night when the Latrobe boys’ soc
cer team found itself up against the same opponent Joe
had trounced with his last-minute goal years earlier.
Ferraro said he was at the game, accompanied by other
soccer alumni who were in the area to pay their respects.
For many past players in attendance, Ferraro said, the
match was a chance to reconnect with old friends as they
grieved the loss of a former teammate.
As the alumni watched together from the stands, the
game looked as though it would fall through for Latrobe
they were down 1-0, Ferraro said, and the clock was quick
ly winding down.
But then someone made a last-ditch pass to one of the
new players on the team, Ferraro said, who volleyed the
soccer ball through the air toward the goal.
With only a few seconds left, the ball hit the net. The
crowd of Joe’s former teammates erupted into cheers, and
Dado’s former coach said he couldn’t help but think of a
similar game-winning play he’d seen a few years earlier.
“I just had to laugh, it was totally his hand or foot, in
this case,” Ferraro said. “Joe, in my opinion, scored one
more goal that night.”
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