—The Daily Collegian Monday, April li, 1987 Vera King Farris, president of Stockton State College in New Jersey, delivers the keynote address at the Second Annßal Women Working Conference held over the weekend. Standards of success differ between sexes, speaker says By KIRSTEN LEE SWARTZ Collegian Staff Writer Men and women face different standards of success, but women can overcome those obstacles if they appreciate the steps that make a person successful, the na ton's only black woman college president said Friday. Vera King Farris, president of Stockton State College in New Jer sey and keynote speaker for the Women's Alliance second annual Women Working Conference, said the socialization process plays a role how success is viewed for men and women. Farris said successful men are attractive to other members of society. "Most parents want their daughters to marry successful men. . . . 'What is it you intend to do, young man?' they ask." Yet successful women are still intimidating to men, Farris said, noting that parents do not usually approve of a career-orientated daughter-in-law because they wart 'her to have a family instead. She said women in the workplace are not only discriminated against in terms of salary, but also in terms of "perks" privileges, gains or profits. A man can receive tips at confer ences, dinners, ball games or rac quetball outings. But if a woman starts playing racquetball with her• male co-workers on a regular ba SWEAT SALE COUPON SWEAT SALE COUPON SWEAT SALE COUPON (BUY THE SET) 3 PCS., hooded sweatshirt, crew neck, pants REGULAR PRICE $43.85 **** SALE PRICE **** $29.95 0 PSU SEAL IMPRINT, SIZES AND QUANTITIES 0 LIMITED SWEAT SALE COUPON SWEAT SALE COUPON SWEAT SALE COUPON HOODED SWEATSHIRT, NAVY OR WHITE CREWNECK SWEATSHIRT SWEATPANTS sis, the wives of her colleagues don't like it, Farris said. She also said successful men and women must live up to different perceived roles. Women are judged on their achievments as wives and mothers and how well they balance these roles with their jobs, whereas a successful man ,is not seen as unsuccesful if he is not a good father or husband. Farris added that it would hurt her more if someone said she failed as a mother rather than as a col lege president. She noted that successful attire for women is more costly and goes out of style more quickly than fashions for men. A man needs only one or two suits, including a dark navy jacket, grey or tan pants, some shirts, ties and shoes, she said. These items are worn for both formal and informal occasions. "But for a woman, there is a great deal of tincertainty about what is acceptable," she said. "A woman can't wear her dark (busi ness) suit to a formal dinner or a cocktail party." At the audience's request, Farris also elaborated on power play, "the art of running over the opposi tion." Men, who are brought up to com pete, "have to prove themselves constantly," she said. "Women take agressive acts personally." Farris said the key to overcom ing such obstacles is to "appreciate Tenn State OooWore on campus owned & operated by the Pennsylvania State University (BUY THE PIECE) `Having your values and beliefs act as your driving force is liberating because you are responsible to the one person who knows you best.' Vera Farris, president of Stockton State College in New Jersey the steps involved in the process of success." "Success seems not to be so much an event as much as a proc ess," Farris said. "The process involves both ups and downs and you have to survive them both," she said. "Having your values and beliefs act as your driving force is liberating because you are responsible to the one per son who knows you best." She added, "Try to think of suc cess as a constant process of learn ing and doing." The conference , . held Friday and Saturday, attracted women from around the state as well as Univer sity students, faculty and staff members. REG. 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