Little Talks by
Beatrice Fairfax
Dear Miss Fairfax: I have been
reading your articles for some time,
hoping to find suggestions which
would help me solve a problem I find
most perplexing.
1 have been married two years and
was engaged for a year and a half,
which was the happiest time of my
life.
During my engagement I received
every possible attention, courtesy and
evidence of generosity. All of which
stopped with the last quarter of the
honeymoon.
My husband makes more now than
when we were married, but I have
actually had to sell my wedding!
presents to pay for necessary things,
like laundry work. He never takes
me to a theater or a "movie," never
has given me even a field flower, and
yet he is most lavish with his friends, i
I hear accounts of lunches down
town, poker parties with stag sup
pers. long motor trips given by my
husband to his friends and some
times their wives.
When I remonstrate he says these
are given for "business reasons" and
that he can't afford the extra ex
pense of taking me. I would go home
to my own people but there are two
unmarried girls at home and it does'
not seem quite fair to them.
I wish you would answer this let- I
tcr, as you don't know either of us,!
and a little impersonal advice would I
he very welcome. Yours sincerely, )
MARY G.
I am afraid, my dear Mary G.,!
>our husband is only one more illus-!
tration of that cynical joge regard-'
ing men of his type: "Why run when
you have caught the car?"
He has caught the car and he re
gards the transaction as finished. It
never occurs to him that he might,
lose what he took so much pains to |
acquire. Or that he has lost the)
best you have to give—your faith I
and respect.
No woman, no matter Jiow hard
she tries to be loyal, can idealize a
selfish. stingy man who indulges all |
his generous impulses away from!
home.
Something Wrong
There is something wrong with 1
him, some blight in his make-up, a;
dropped stitch in his knitting—to
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commandeer the national occupation
as a figure of speech.
From the days of the cave men
down to the present time it is the in
stinctive of normal man to do for his
own. The cave man went out and
slew a wild animal and brought
home the choicest portioons to his
cave-lady to cook.
The bunch of violets, the little
trinket, the.fun of being taken to a
theater or "movie" are all the de
veloped outcome of the cave man's
generosity. And if one of his de
scendants is wholly lacking in this
attribute, it might be to his wife's
advantage to know the reason.
If it is poverty, or the high cost of
living, that checks his liberal im
pulses, I have nothing but sympathy
for the cave man's many times re
moved great-grandson. Though it is
difficult to understand why anyone
short of an actual vagrant could not
afford an occasional "movie" or a
bunch of street flowers.
But when it is a case of such
ignoble meanness as my correspond
ent describes, where the wife Is
skimped to the last penny and
strangers are lavishly entertained, it
seems to me that the wife is justified
in calling in all her woman's wits to
deal with such a situation.
Two Courses Open
Two courses are open to the young
women who has written me. She can
get a position—fortunately not a
difficult thing these days—or she can
use her ingenuity to bring her hus
band to terms.
When there is no money forth
coming for the laundry, why not neg
lect to send it? A lack of clean linen
may perhaps be a more effectual ap
peal than either tears or entreaties.
A dialogue like this might be helpful:
| Husband —Mary, where are my
1 clean shirts?
Wife —There aren't any, John. I
had no money to pay the laundry.
In a somewhat simliar case the
i husband of a woman, who wrote me
several times, had a habit of doling
out pitifully small sums-for house
hold expenses. He would strip one
or two dollars from the outside of
his "wad" and, with all the anguish
he might have displayed in having
himself bodily skinned, present
them.
There was never money enough to
run the house and she (presumably)
made up the deficit from a small
Income which she was fortunate
enough to have. This continued untl
the wifely worm decided to turn.
And the next time her husband told
her he was bringing home friends to
dinner and accompanied the an
nouncement by layjng a couple of
dollars on the table, his wife took it, j
went to market and did not exceed j
the given sum. And the principal;
dish of that little dinner was beefj
liver.
Her penurious helpmeet could i
hardly wait till his friends —all offi-j
eers of the concern that employed i
! him—had gone before he demanded'
j an explanation.
He got it. His wife took out pen-]
I cil and paper and showed every
i penny duly accounted for; indeed,
she was fifteen cents short, and this
she contriuted. "But how did you J
manage so well before?"
"I didn't manage; I donated. Now
I am investing every penny I have]
in Liberty Bonds."
I wish I could report that an im-|
mediate conversation followed, but it
did not. The lady kept strictly with
| in the amount her husband gave, and
! the road to that gentleman's conver
j sion was via his stomach.
In time he grew weary of tripe,
liver and herring, and it nerved him
finally to strip his roll defeper than
the first outer cuticJe. At least he
! has this compensation for his suf-j
ferings; lie knows what provisions j
cast, he knows what it takes to run
a house.
Such cases are hard to under
stand. Why should a man seek to
humiliate the woman he has chosen
before all other women? Why will
he permit a niggardly impulse, be
queathed doubtless by some un
worthy ancestor, to triumph over
his better nature, his wife's affec-j
tion, the Very foundation of his
home? Why does the little power
derived from holding the purfee
strings compare with what he loses
in the way of loyalty, love and faith?
If a man of this type would only
pick out a riotous spendthrift of a
woman,tate could no longer bercall
cd blind. It Would be a triumph of i
the law of averages, a master stroke:
of circumstances. But, alas, too!
often it is 4he other way round, t The I
miser gets a thrifty manager and
the woman spendthrift gets an in-1
dulgent and generous husband.
Advice to the Lovelorn
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DEAR MISS FAIRFAX:
I am In love with a young man two
years my senior, employed in the
same office. However, I am aware of
his interest 4n a girl near his home,
and he makes no secret of the fact.
I don't think he is playing the game
fairly. H
It seems that he Is interested in
you—and yet you know of his inter
est in another girl. I wonder, dear,
are you playing the game quite fairly
and squarely, either by yourself, the
man or the other girl! The young
man fascinates you, you do not seek
to hide vour feelings, you are right in
the same office with him. To pro
pinquity you add admiration and emo
tional interest —this is likely enough
to get some response from any but
the strongest of men. The boy prob
ably does not want to hurt you. to
snub you. And yet he still makes it
evident that he cares for this other
girl. I think you ought to cease all
vour advances—for it was probably
you who instigated the invitation to
go out with him. it Is you who are
making his loyalty to his avowed
sweetheart difficult. Don't you see
that now? And don't you feel that if
any one Is "playing the game unfair
ly" it is you?
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NURSING AS A
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Nursing the Best Prepara
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By Jane A. Delano
Ireotor of -the Department of
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The trained nurse who marries
and gives up her professional work
for home and family life, finds that
her hospital training has given her
rich assets as a homemaker.
This is not only true in her knowl
edge of children and of dietetics and
of how to care for the sick, but in
her attitude toward housekeeping
and her attitude toward life. Her
understanding of the "why" of things
lifts the small, tedious things of
housekeeping, whether it be the
cleaning of a room or the sterilizing
of milk bottles, to a plane of inter
est and dignity. And her contact
with all kinds of people in the hos
pital, in their joys and their suffer
ing, broadening her sympathies and
her outlook, adds that much insight
and inspiration to her relation with
her children and her husband and
her community.
No woman is so well prepared to
meet the sudden emergencies of ac
cident or sickness that occur in ev
ery home as the woman who has had
the training of the nurse. In fact,
to every detail of the health, care of
her family and the hygienic care of
her house, the hospital training con
tributes something that is useful or
precious.
More and more the hospital train
ing is regarded as a splendid foun
dation for all kinds of public serv
ice in which women are engaged,
and more and more it w.ill.be delib
erately planned as a preparation also
for home -Hfe.
A greater number of young wom
en are entering training schools now
than ever before. This is naturally
true because of the war, but with
out doubt the training schools will
have to continue to enlarge their
facilities for students in the years
immediately following.
The American Red Cross, the
United States Army and Navy Nurse
Corps and the Council of National
Defense are all urging the young
women graduates of to-day to enter
schools for nurses.
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LIFE'S PROBLEMS
ARE DISCUSSED
By MRS. WILSON WOODROW
|
I have never been a father. Any
estimate of mine upon the ethics or
proper engagements of that condi
tion would of necessity be academic,
lacking in the flavor of personal ex
perience.
Consequently, when a woman
wrote me the other day for an opin
ion on her husband as a parent—she
had apparently no other ground of
complaint against him—l promptly
sought advice as from an expert of
one whom I have always considered
a shining success in that relation.
He read the leter over which I
handed to him, and smiled. "Fathers,
like poets, are born not made," he
said, "and the ideal material is often
denied the actual experience. Take
the two poets, Longfellow and James
Whitcomb Riley, for instance. Each
of them had an especial understand
ing of and an especial appeal to
childhood. As Riley says of Long
fellow:
" 'Awake, he loved their voices.
And wove them into his rhyme;
And the music of their laughter
Was with him all the time.'
"And it was as true of the man
who wrote the lines as of him about
whom they were written. They both
spoke the language of childhood.
They both knew and could express
the heart and the mind of the chlltl.
They both were adored by children.
Yet Riley was a bachelor his whole
life long.
"The reason then why so many
men fail at the job," he went on
"is because they have not the na
tural gift of fatherhood, and either
will not or don't know how to cul
tivate it. Most men who marry ex
pect to have children, and are full
of theories and plans as to the rais
ing of them, but when the child ac
tually arrives, and they find all their
ideas and suggestions overruled at
first by feminine authority, and later
by the self-willed, autocratic mite
itself which they are proposing to
train, they speedily become discour
aged.
"As a matter of fact," he said
soberly, "they are essaying the hard
est, most thankless task in the world
with practically no schooling or
preparation for it. The father, as
most househoulds are constituted, is
the source of supply. His time, his
energy, his whole mind must be giv
en up to his business. His brief hours
at home, when he is tired out and his
mind engrossed with business
problems, hardly give him an oppor
tunity to become acquainted 'with
his children, much less to establish
that rapprochement and spirit of
mutual understanding which is the
ideal relationship between parent
and child.
"He, too, is unfairly made the po-
lice power of the family, at once the
tribunal and the officer of correction.
'l'll tell your father on you when
he comes home,' is a threat constant
ly held over the child, and although
he may doubt the justice of the com
plaint and may believe the testimony
against the offender garbled, he dare
not for the sake of domestic peace
fail to inflict punishment. Thus he
is made a bugbear to his children,
and they learn to regard him with
a rankling sense of injustice.
"In short, he sees himself slav
ing his life away for the benefit of
offspring who take it as a matter
of course, and give him neither
thanks nor consideration in return.
His heart may yearn toward them,
but between them and him there is
a great gulf fixed. He does not share
their interests, nor they his.
"He is thj 'Old Man'—an auto
crat to be wheedled or cajoled for
favors and to be more or less fear
ed, but never a comrade or pal. And
so the fatherhood which should be a
blessing to a man—the best enrich
ing influence of his life—becomes a
blight.
"The lady who writes to you says,"
he referred to the letter, "that her
husband is man in moderate cir
eumstncesfi of good habits and with
a kindly disposition, but that he
seems to lack a natural and proper
interest in his two children, one six
years old and the other eight. He
desires them to have every advan
tage nossible, and is In no way cross
or unkind, but he does not extend
the sympathy and companionship
that she thinks a father ought to
give. He never plays or frolics with
♦ hem in the home, and always ob
jects to taking them anywhere with
him on the plea that they would be
i too much bother.
"My advice to this wife and to all
wives," my friend paused thought
fully a moment, "would be constant
ly to hold up the absent husband
to the children as a model of all
the virtues and as a person to be
loved. Never let him be criticized or
called to account before them. Never
let them be threatened with him.
Paint him as all that is good and
noble and onerous. Make them love
him. And since love always begets
love, and there is nothing so irre
sistible as the love of a qhild, the,
hardest, most selfish or self-cen
tered man in the world can be made
into a real father.
"There was a letter published re
cently as an editorial in the Hearst
papers which I wish every father
and mother in the world could read.
It was from a father whose only son
had fulfilled his every hope and-Is
now a splendid boy of twenty-seven
fighting in France, and the writer
made it plain that this result had
been attained whdlly through an ab
solute loving co-operation between
himself and his wife.
"Then you consider," said I,
"that the making of good fathers
is a matter that is up to the
mothers?"
"I do," he answered. "Don't
you ?"
"Maybe, in some cases," I an
swered cautiously.
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