8 "SX2oMen r^rJnreß^s What Dose It Take to Be Popular? BT HLLA WHEKLEU WILCOX I. To t>e poputar in .the world of art is. | according to the can ions of the "high brow critic," to be a dweller outside of the inner sanctuary. Yet thf Sermon on the Mount Is popular. Whatever posses ses all the qualities of real greatness must be popular, even though things which possess no qualities of greatness may he widely popu lar also. Simplicity and Sym pathy Opi-nlng W eilgen lo All Minds. The large majority of people may like something mediocre, and only few may like something which contains many of the elements of greatness something too fine for the masses to comprehend—but that which possesses ALL the elements of greatness must reach and grip the whole race. For, among those elements, simplicity and sympathy must be counted, those opon fng wedges to all minds. The human being who Is popular Is sometimes accused of being ail things to all men, and there Is a cant phrase much in vogue among the unpopular about "caring only for a few people and being cared for bv only a few." And this serves frequently as an easv excuse for the unpopularity of the dull or the disagreeable. To be a popular individual In anv community of self-respecting and mor ally disposed cltlijons, and to grow in popularity with acquaintance and time, rails for nobility of character, purity of purpose and kindness of heart. It calls also for tact. Tor discretion, for. good Judgment, for unselfishness, for generosity, for amiability and the power to bring out the best in others. It calls for a heart big enough to re joice In the achievements of others. It calls for the elimination of all Jealousy all tendencies to gossip, all impulses to be indolent, or Indifferent, or self-cen tered. Their Married Life By MABEL HERBERT URNER "It's almost Indecent for her to take rooms at the same hotel," declared • 'arrie vindictively. "It was bad enough for her to stay at the hos pital—but now to follow him back to the hotel," "But Bob's far from well yet," pro tested Helen. "And he wants her with him every minute. After all. if they're to be married in June, does it make so much difference?" "The whole thing's inexcusable. No one ever heard of a girl going to live at the hotel with the man she's en gaged to. But you sent for her— you're the cause of all this 'melo dramatic' reunion, so I suppose this sort of thing appeals to you." "I don't know what you mean by 'this sort of thing,' Carrie. But if l.ouise wants to stay a week longer while Bob is convalescing, I don't see that it makes so very much dif ference at what hotel she stays. Tf it's more convenient for her to oe there why shouldn't she?" "Oh, it's hopeless to talk to you. I might have known 1 was wasting my time coming here. You always had • itieer ideas about conventions. Now if there's a scandal in the family, we'll have you to thank for it." Carrie's brief call was most dis quieting. When she left. Helen's re si ..tment was mingled with anxious concern. That the whole family blamed her bitterly for having sent t'or Louise Helen knew. They refused to attrib ute Bob's recovery to Louise's pres ence, but violently opposed the re newed engagement. And now they were scandalized at the thought of her taking rooms at the same hotel. So scathing hail been Carrie's de nunciation of this plan, that although Helen had already given it her entire approval, she now began lo waver. After all il might cause some un favorable comment. She determined to talk it over with Louise thai afternoon. They were to meet at Bob's rooms to have them in readiness, for he was leaving the hospital to-morrow. Helen in Doubt But knowing Louise's inflexibility where he was concerned, Helen doubted if any arguments as to the "conventions" would influence her. Their appointment was for 3. and they met in the reception hall of THE CHARM OF MOTHERHOOD Enhanced By Perfect Physi cal Health. The experience of Motherhood la a try ing one to most women and marks dis tinctly an epoch in their lives. Not one woman in a hundred ia prepared or un derstands how,to properly care for her self. Of course nearly every woman nowadays has medical treatment atsuch times, but many approach the experi ence with an organism unfitted for the trial of strength, and when it is over her system has received a shock from which it is hard to recover. Following right upon this comes the nervous strain of caring for the child, and a distinct change in the mother results. There is nothing more charming than e happy and healthy mother of children, and indeed child-birth under the right conditions need be no hazard to health or beauty. The unexplainable thing is that, with all the evidence of shattered jierves and broken health resulting from an unprepared condition, and with am ple time in which to prepare, women ■will persist in going blindly to the trial. Every woman at this time should rely upon Lydia E. Pinkham's Vegetable Compound, a most valuable tonic and invigorator of the femala organism. In many homes once childless there //)/ jyfil ' \ are now children be- Wf wT A cause of the fact // iR if that Lydia E. Pink- II y I ham's Vegetable V* - * IL Compound makes v\\ L)/j) women normal, J]ft healthy and strong, If yon want special advice write to Lydia E. Plnkham Medicine Co. (contl* dential) Ljnn, Mass. Tonr letter will be opened, read and answered by a woman aud held hi strict confidence. TUESDAY EVENING, &ARRJSBURG TELEGRAPH APRIL 28, 1914. Therefore, It would seem that ati am bition to be popular Is at tbe same time an ambition to become a worth while individual and a practical Chris tian. The man who nets out to be a groat discoverer in science, or a great creator in the world of art, inav not have the time to become a popular man In Ills own social circle. But, if he is de oidedly unpopular, he Is sure to lack some of the large elements of charac ter which are necessary to bring him to the summit of the heights he seeks. Unless he is liked and respected by those who know him best something Is amiss with the man. There is a cheap and temporary popu larity which comes from the ability to amuse others, from the nropenslt-- to be generous to the limit of extrava gance. and to be ever ready with un meaning (lattery, but the reign of these social leaders and lions is always brief. Sincerity and tact are two qualities which make for lasting popularity. Sinoerity in thought and purpose, tact In the application of that virtue. The tactful- person knows when and how to be silent. Many sincere Individuals think a bru tal expression of the most unpleasant and disagreeable opinions is an evidence of their sincerity. But the tactful man or woman knows when to speak and when to be still and how to change a topic of conversation when some one has trodden on dclicHte ground. Women Should I.earn tlie Art of listening Well. The woman who desires to he popu lar should first of all learn the charm which lies In listening well; and she should cultivate the art of drawing others out, of makhig' those with whom she is thrown shine to their best ad vantage. If a man talks well lead him to con verse: if lie sings well induce him to sing; and to bring forth the most at tractive qualities and accomplishments of her women friends is a sure way for any woman to take a long step' for ward on the oad to popularity. Such a woman, possessing no marked accomplishments herself, and without beauty or great mental gifts, stands a the hotel. Helen got the keys from the clerk, and they went up to Bob's rooms on the seventh floor. The blinds were drawn and the place was close and musty from hav ing been shut up for several weeks. Helen raised the windows, while Louise glanced around with a look of rapt wonder. How often I've tried to picture his rooms—wondering what they' would look like. It's hard to realize that I m really here!" "I know," mused Helen. "I used to wonder about Warren's room and all his things. I suppose every woman idealizes the surroundings of the man she loves." Louise glanced at some books on the center table, then went over to the chiffonier in the alcove dressing room. Lovingly she touched the brushs and trinkets that lay thero, as though a-thrill with the intimacy of it all. On the bed there were two large bundles of laundry which Helen now um\ rapped, handing the list to Louise. I don't suppose he ever cheeked off his laundry in his life—but we will. Six shirty, eight collars, two pajamas, three pair socks, seven handkerchiefs, two suits of under wear." Louise, with tense interest, marked them off the list, and then helped to put them away in the chiffonier drawers. She lingered yearningly over each garment. Ruttons were off, button holes torn—all the ravages of the modern "hand laundry" 011 the de fenseless bachelor's clothes. Iconise IS !la|>|)y "I 11 have time to mend them all up in the week I'm here," joyously. "Oh, it's so wonderful that I should be here—doing this! Think how ut terly wretched I was two weeks ago! Helen, the whole world's changed in the last ten days!" "I know, dear. And oh, 1 want it to stay changed! I want you to be tranquilly, restfully happy now without any more misunderstand ings!" "Do you know," dreamily, "one of the first things lie said, as soon as the doctor let him talk, was that he was willing to concede everything rather than lose me again. Oh, he needs me so! He makes me feel that he needs me! And he's very gentle now—very different from the old dominating Bob." A moment's silence. Then Helen drew Louise down beside her 011 the couch with an earnest: "Dear, this is hard to say—but I feel so responsible for it all—that there's something I must speak to you about." Louise looked at her wonderingly. "It's about your staying here in this hotel for a week or so. I've been thinking it over and I'm—l'm not sure that It will be wise." "Why?" quickly. Helen hesitated. "Well, Carrie cam" to see me this morning. She thinks it would be very indiscreet— that it would cause comment." "Carrie!" with scornful impatience. "Oh, I know Carrie hates me—she has all along. She's hardly spoken to me at the hospital, but I've been so happy I haven't cared. You don't think I mind what SHE says?" "But. Louise, she may be right—it may cause comment." "What if it does?" proudly. "If a few gossipy people wish to miscon strue things they can. Do you think that would Influence me—now?" Helen was pulling thoughtfully at the tassel on the corner of a sofa pil low Somehow the arguments she hail meant to advance seemed sud denly inadequate. And yet there was still the feeling that it would not be best for Louise to so defy conven tions. A Bold Plan "Do you know," Louise started up, walked to the window and back again. "1 may not take other rooms— I may stay right in these! I may marry Bob at the hospital to-morrow —and come here—as his wife." "Louise!" "Oh, I know his whole family would be up in arms! They'd want |all the red tape and conventions of a formal wedding. But I'm not con sidering his family—l'm considering Bob and myself." "But Boh," faltered Helen. "I al ways thought he was so very con servative? I'd Imagine he'd want a very conventional wedding." "He does. He hasn't even sug gested this," flushing slightly. "I haven't either, yet but 1 think I shall. I'm not going to risk any more separations—l've suffered too much." "I know, oh, I know," murmured Helen, drawing Louise's hand into hers. "You don't know," bitterly, "you CAN'T know what I went through in those three months at Palm Beach! I tried to force myself to mingle with other people, to accept attentions from other men —anything to forget! • far better chance of becoming popular I than the self-conscious venus. or the prodigy of brilliant attainments, who | only, enjoys herself when occupying the j center of the social stago and basking | in the glare of the spotlight. Unselfishness, then. Is the keynote to I popularity, as It is the key to the I highest moral worth. But this unself j ishness must be mingled with good ! sense, with tact, with delicacy and rc- I tinement. in order to serve as an aid to popularity. Without these Ingredients unselflsh- I ness and generosity sometimes become obtrusive, officious! and offensive. The most perfect type of popular woman Is she who can shine like the sun when sunshine is needed; yet who, like that orb, does not always shine, but retires behind the clouds and calls attention to the brilliancy of the stars and the moon. One who can be enter taining. or amusing, or instructive, as occasion demands, but who can always put herself in the background in order to exhibit the. graces and charms of others, and who Is ever ready to rejoice in another's success without any be littling clause affixed to praise. One who can be tolerant of the ideas and opinions of others, while holding entirely opposite ones; and who knows how to hold fast to her own ideals while understanding how others may fail to do so. The popular woman has quick percep tions. and. however great her vogue, she is never blinded by conceit to such an extent that she falls to perceive her own faults or neglects correcting them once she sees them. That which she finds disagreeable in others she decides to avoid doing her self. Seek In He n Henrflt nnd n Comfort to III! inanity. And those graces and qualities which appeal to her in others she cultivates. To seek popularity for the sake of being popular means the undermining of character. To seek it through a desire to be a benefit, a pleasure and a comfort to humanity means the building of char acter. Vet there tvasn't a moment that my thoughts were away from him! "I. tried to deceive myself into thinking I was brave and strong and 'fiercely proud 1 ! Yes, that's the phrase 1 kept always before tin 'fiercely proud'! That's what he once said of me, and I was trying to live tip to it. But all the time I was secretly longing for some excuse to come back. 'Fiercely proud'." scorn tii 1 ly. "I know now, where Bob was concerned. I never had any real pride. It was only a cheap imitation." "Louise, don't! You're not fair to yourself." "I'm at least truthful —I haven't been before. What you thought was pride and strength was really only a great bluff—and I couldn't have kept jit up! If Bob hadn't been sick, if you hadn't wired for me—oh, I'd have come back anyway! I couldn't have stayed away much longer." Just as Strong Helen shook her head. "You say that now—but you wouldn't have come back. I know you wouldn't. You're nervous and unstrung from being there at the hospital, but I know you're just as strong as you ever I were." "I'm strong enough not to let a few meaningless conventions stand between us now. I'll marry Bob and come here, or I'll come here without marrying him," recklessly. "But I'm going to stay with him until he's well. Do you think, after those irtonths of anguish, that I'd care what anyone 'says'? You can't suffer like that, you can't want any one us much as I wanted Bob—without be coming intolerant of most conven tions." "Vet Bob is the narrowest, most conventional of men! I know, be cause in those things he's so much like Warren. Don't, Louise: don't let him see this phase of you—l'm afraid he wouldn't understand." "Perhaps not. Most women are at heart much more unconventional than men. You know that's true," defiantly. "You know that every woman has reckless, desperate moods when she's capable of any unconven tionality." "Yes, I do know that," admitted Helen. "But I've never dared let Warren see me in those moods." "Well, I shan't be so cautious," passionately. "To-morrow I'll give Bob a fine exhibition of a tempera mental woman! Of one thing I'm determined," Louise caught her breath, "nothing is going to separate us now! Not even if it means defy ing all the conventions —and the whole Curtis family!" County Medical to Hold Four May Meetings ! The May bulletin of meetings of the Dauphin County Medical Society and the Harrisburg Academy of Medicine indicate that four meetings will take place next month. The council of the Academy will meet May 1; the board |of governors of the Medical Society will meet May 26. On Tuesday, May 5, the Medical Society will hear a tri part program to include papers by Dr. <'. K. L. Keene on "Scarlet Fever and Its Meaning." I>r. Raunlck will dis cuss quarantine: Dr. Farnsler will talk on "Throat and Ear Complications." On May 29 the Academy will bear a paper by Dr. .lessc L. Lcnker on "The Diagnosis of Heart Disease Due to Arterlosclersosis, Rheumatism and Syphilis." Entertainment by Class of Penbrook U. B. Church f. Special to The Telegraph Penbrook, Pa., April 28.—Class No. 8 of the United Brethren Church will hold a musical and literary entertain ment in the auditorium of the church on Thursday night. The class is taught by Miss Belle Spangler and the pro ceeds will be turned over to the build ing fund of the church. The following program will be rendered: Invocation, the Rev. H. M. Miller; song, "Blossom Bells," Class No. 2; reading, selected, Miss Ethel Valentine; piano trio. Miss Ruth Hoover, Miss Helen Aungst and Miss Frances Booscr; sketch, "Other People's Children;" vo''al solo. Miss Marguerite SheafTer; reading, "Moth er's Fool." Miss Bessie Montgomery; piano duet. Misses Ethel Valentine and Stella Balsbaugh: address, Professor O. E. Good: sketch, "Hood Maxims:" reading. Miss Mary Herman; piano solo, Talitlia Shope: sketch, "The Three Wishes;" octette, "Nightingale and Rose," Miss Jane Kline, Miss Mae lloofnagle, Miss Ruth Nissley, Miss Belle Spangler. Leon Carman, Arthur Aungst. Charles Walters and Emmitt A MUSICAL TREAT Through the courtesy of the Thos. A. Edison Co. the public will be af forded the opportunity of hearing Mr. Edison's latest invention, the Edison Diamond Disc Phonograph at which he has worked thirty-five years to perfect. Technical high school auditorium Thursday evening April 30 at 8 p. m. Admission by ticket only. Tickets may be secured free of charge at the J. H. Troup Music House, IF. South Market Square.—Advertisement. , MEXICAN FEDERALS ! CROSS U. S. BORDER [Continued from First Page.] statement to-day as to what proposals the United States would submit as a basis for mediation. It was announced that nothing would he said that might in any way embarrass the mediator*. At the regular Cabinet meeting at 11 o'closk the formulation of the Ameri can proposals to the mediators was • subject of consideration. Fletcher Within His Rights, London's Belief' By Associated Press l.ondnn, April 2X.—The seizure yes terday by Rear Admiral Fletcher of the property. British owned Terminal Company at Vera Cruz is accepted by the Hritlsh Foreign Office as quite within the Admiral's rights, officials here regard the Admiral's action as coming within the ordinary routine of such circumstances. It was stated to day that If the Terminal Company presented* a claim to the British For eign Office it will be forwarded to Washington in the ordinary course. British Royal Marines Rescue Eight Americans By Associated Press Washington, D. C., April 28.—Ad m'-al Mayo reported that Admiral Cradock of the British cruiser Hermi one had dispatched Major Clark and a detachment of British royal marines forty miles inland from Tampico to rescue eight Americans at Orange Hill and was expected back to-night. The Hermione sent thirteen refugees aboard the Des Moines to-day. Admiral Badger reported that it would be inadvisable to send an Amer ican ship to the Yucatan district, "as it might start anti-American demonstra tions." In regard to the reports from Tam pico that American < itlzens there were indignant because of the departure of the American battleships from the r'ver, Secretary of the Na-\y Daniels said to-day that this action had been taken after Admiral Cradock had In formed Admiral Mayo that he would undertake to receive Americans from Tampico aboard the Hermione and transfer them to the Des Moines up on the American vessels taking a position at sea. This arrangement, it was thought, Mr. Daniels said, would make anti-American demonstrations in Tampico less likely. "I will go in and bring the refugees to you," the British admiral was re ported to have said to Admiral Mayo. United States Does Not Own Embassy in Mexico By Associated Press Washington, D. C., April 28. Should anti-American demonstrations develop an attack on the American Embassy in Mexico City, the offenders will be injuring Mexican property and not American. The United States does not own the Embassy building in the Mexican capital and its lease runs out June 1, next. Grey Hopes Mediation Plan Will Be Successful By Associated Press London, April 28.—"The trouble in Mexico is one of grave concern to the British government on account of tho large British commercial interests in volved. and we. of course, are ready to encourage and further in any way we can any proposals for mediation which will have the effect of bringing the trouble to an end." This statement was made by Sir Ed ward Grey, the British foreign secre tary, in tho House of Commons to day when he formally announced that the United States had accepted the proffered mediation of Argentina, Bra zil and Chile. He did not mention the reports that the European powers were bringing pressure to bear on General Huerta to accede to the de mands of the United States. Federals Attempt to Combine With Rebels Washington, D. C., April 28.—Hear Admiral Mayo, at Tampico, reported to-day that the federal forces there are making further overtures to the Constitutionalists for a combination against the United States. He said the Constitutionalists are still firing. Refugees Say Huerta Will Soon Vacate Chair Vera Cruz, April 28.—That V'ictorl uno lluertn will voluntarily abdicate or will be forced out within a few days is the belief of American refugees who arrived on a special train from the capital this afternoon. Federico Gamboa, former minister of foreign affairs, once governor of Yucatan and candidate of the Catholic party against Huerta, is named by the anti-Huerta group as the man to sup plant him. According to the refugees, anti- Huerta sentiment has so crystallized av the capital that on Saturday the con spirators made an attempt to oust the dictator, but failed. Kngland, Germany and France rec ognized the Huerta government long ago, so that they wer«Mn a position to give their counsels without arousing the dictator's suspicion and resent ment. Safety Requirements Reducing Accidents Industrial safety fofrncd the topic which engrossed a roomful of Bell Telephone employees in the Board of Trade building last night. James B. Douglas, man ager of the claim department of the United Gas Improvement com pany, Philadelphia, offered the chief entertainment. His address on safety in modern industrial methods was em bellished with many lantern slides Il lustrating his points. In the discus sion which followed Mr. Douglas' lec ture Inspector Palmer of the depart ment of Labor and Industry showed that the number of accidents through out the state has been greatly de creased since the insistan'ce on safety first principals on railroads and in in dustries. Other speakers were: G. T. Eldridge and G. M. Cole, Harrisburg Gas Company; H. F. Hope, and A. Shultz of the Bell's plant department, this city; B. C. Jutten of the A. T. and T.. Philadelphia; H. W. Springer, plant supervisor of the Bell company at Altoona and R. O. Demming, plant supervisor at Williamsport. CANVASS FOII DIRECTORY Canvassers for Boyd's 1914 Harris burg directory are at work and the new and enlarged edition Is expected to be issued from the press sometime iiii Juuu. I Prices FOR SALE BY II DIVES, POMEROY ALL THE SMALL BOYS ! LOOK LIKE DUTCHMEN: 5237 Boy's Suit, 4 to 8 yean. WITH LONG OR SHORT SLEEVES. Bowman's sell May Manton Patterns. Famous French Recipe For Gray or Faded Hair | Just a few applications of this fa mous French prescription and you will hnve what no other preparation will Hive: a lovely, even shade of dark, lustrous hair. Furthermore, no one can ever tell that It has been applied, for It con tains no dye or lead or any other In jurious ingredients, A large 7-ounce liottle of this old and thoroughly reliable French recipe can be secured all ready for use for a small sum at any well-stocked drug store. Ask for EoMay's Cream of Sage and Quinine, you can get a large bottle for 50 cent*. Frank J. Alt house, Bowman, Mell & Co., J. Nelson Clark, Wrn. Deiss, Eckels Bros., C. M. Forney, Chas. T. George, George A. Gorgas, John W. Hay, Kennedy Bros., George E. Potts and T. A. Thorley can supply LeMay's Cream of Bage and Quinine. —Advertisement. Healthy Sanitary x Jiii, ■*»- ■ fectan*. Heals glll» ® or e ». I Odor la Burns, 81nk «. Tol * Br ul a es, \\» pJJ lets, ete. Wo un ds, Leaves 00 Outs, etc. lICET ITTODAo ODOR. Any Druggist. Grocer or Dept. Store W ILL OBSERVE MEMORIAL DAY ißlain, Pa., April 28.—Memorial Day, Saturday. May 30, will be ob served here with special exercises. The services will be in charge of the Junior I Order United American Mechanics, | Blain Council, No. 583. The Blaln Cornet Band will furnish the music and a parade will form at 1 o'clock. The Rev. B. H. Hart, pastor of the Fifth Street Methodist Church, Har risburg, a former Perry eountian, will deliver the memorial address. j The broiling pan is easily cleaned with hot water and J GOLD DUST Makes every kitchen utensil clean and sanitary. 5c and larger package*. /jPW\ ITHCWK. FA IRRANK COMPANY! CHICAGO !\ : I "Lm* ih» GOLD OUST TWINS do your work" No Votes For Women! You Are Cordially Invited to Attend the Sessions of Pennsylvania Anti-Suffrage Convention Y. M. C. A. HALL Thursday, April 30th, 1914 Afternoon 2:30 Evening 8:15 H Addresses by Able Speakers at Both Sessions C»al Is Cheapest and Best Now To buy coal now Is to buy It at the cheapest price for which it can be obtained during; the year. And then you gain in quality, too, for the coal sent from the mines at this time of the year may be thoroughly screened before delivery, a difficult matter in cold weather when frost will cause the dirt to cling to the coal. So to buy Montgomery coal ! now is to buy the best quality of the beat coal at the loweat prices. Place your order. J. B. MONTGOMERY Both Phones Third and Chestnut Streets TO HOLD MERCHANTS SMOKEI' An interesting program has b\M arranged for the smoker by the re tail merchants branch of the Harris burg Chamber of Commerce to-mor row night. A humorous talk will b« given by A. A. Aal, of Reading. Thf smoker will be held in (he rooms o1 the Chamber of Commerce in the Kun kel building.