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What Dose It Take to Be Popular?
BT HLLA WHEKLEU WILCOX
I. To t>e poputar in
.the world of art is.
| according to the can
ions of the "high
brow critic," to be a
dweller outside of
the inner sanctuary.
Yet thf Sermon on
the Mount Is popular.
ses all the qualities
of real greatness
must be popular,
even though things
which possess no
qualities of greatness
may he widely popu
Simplicity and Sym
W eilgen lo All
The large majority of people may
like something mediocre, and only few
may like something which contains
many of the elements of greatness
something too fine for the masses to
comprehend—but that which possesses
ALL the elements of greatness must
reach and grip the whole race. For,
among those elements, simplicity and
sympathy must be counted, those opon
fng wedges to all minds.
The human being who Is popular Is
sometimes accused of being ail things
to all men, and there Is a cant phrase
much in vogue among the unpopular
about "caring only for a few people and
being cared for bv only a few." And
this serves frequently as an easv excuse
for the unpopularity of the dull or the
To be a popular individual In anv
community of self-respecting and mor
ally disposed cltlijons, and to grow in
popularity with acquaintance and time,
rails for nobility of character, purity of
purpose and kindness of heart.
It calls also for tact. Tor discretion,
for. good Judgment, for unselfishness,
for generosity, for amiability and the
power to bring out the best in others.
It calls for a heart big enough to re
joice In the achievements of others. It
calls for the elimination of all Jealousy
all tendencies to gossip, all impulses to
be indolent, or Indifferent, or self-cen
Their Married Life
By MABEL HERBERT URNER
"It's almost Indecent for her to take
rooms at the same hotel," declared
• 'arrie vindictively. "It was bad
enough for her to stay at the hos
pital—but now to follow him back to
"But Bob's far from well yet," pro
tested Helen. "And he wants her
with him every minute. After all. if
they're to be married in June, does it
make so much difference?"
"The whole thing's inexcusable. No
one ever heard of a girl going to live
at the hotel with the man she's en
gaged to. But you sent for her—
you're the cause of all this 'melo
dramatic' reunion, so I suppose this
sort of thing appeals to you."
"I don't know what you mean by
'this sort of thing,' Carrie. But if
l.ouise wants to stay a week longer
while Bob is convalescing, I don't
see that it makes so very much dif
ference at what hotel she stays. Tf
it's more convenient for her to oe
there why shouldn't she?"
"Oh, it's hopeless to talk to you. I
might have known 1 was wasting my
time coming here. You always had
• itieer ideas about conventions. Now
if there's a scandal in the family,
we'll have you to thank for it."
Carrie's brief call was most dis
quieting. When she left. Helen's re
si ..tment was mingled with anxious
That the whole family blamed her
bitterly for having sent t'or Louise
Helen knew. They refused to attrib
ute Bob's recovery to Louise's pres
ence, but violently opposed the re
newed engagement. And now they
were scandalized at the thought of
her taking rooms at the same hotel.
So scathing hail been Carrie's de
nunciation of this plan, that although
Helen had already given it her entire
approval, she now began lo waver.
After all il might cause some un
She determined to talk it over with
Louise thai afternoon. They were
to meet at Bob's rooms to have them
in readiness, for he was leaving the
Helen in Doubt
But knowing Louise's inflexibility
where he was concerned, Helen
doubted if any arguments as to the
"conventions" would influence her.
Their appointment was for 3. and
they met in the reception hall of
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times, but many approach the experi
ence with an organism unfitted for the
trial of strength, and when it is over
her system has received a shock from
which it is hard to recover. Following
right upon this comes the nervous strain
of caring for the child, and a distinct
change in the mother results.
There is nothing more charming than
e happy and healthy mother of children,
and indeed child-birth under the right
conditions need be no hazard to health or
beauty. The unexplainable thing is
that, with all the evidence of shattered
jierves and broken health resulting from
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TUESDAY EVENING, &ARRJSBURG TELEGRAPH APRIL 28, 1914.
Therefore, It would seem that ati am
bition to be popular Is at tbe same
time an ambition to become a worth
while individual and a practical Chris
The man who nets out to be a groat
discoverer in science, or a great creator
in the world of art, inav not have the
time to become a popular man In Ills
own social circle. But, if he is de
oidedly unpopular, he Is sure to lack
some of the large elements of charac
ter which are necessary to bring him
to the summit of the heights he seeks.
Unless he is liked and respected by
those who know him best something Is
amiss with the man.
There is a cheap and temporary popu
larity which comes from the ability to
amuse others, from the nropenslt-- to
be generous to the limit of extrava
gance. and to be ever ready with un
meaning (lattery, but the reign of these
social leaders and lions is always brief.
Sincerity and tact are two qualities
which make for lasting popularity.
Sinoerity in thought and purpose, tact
In the application of that virtue.
The tactful- person knows when and
how to be silent.
Many sincere Individuals think a bru
tal expression of the most unpleasant
and disagreeable opinions is an evidence
of their sincerity. But the tactful man
or woman knows when to speak and
when to be still and how to change a
topic of conversation when some one
has trodden on dclicHte ground.
Women Should I.earn tlie Art of
The woman who desires to he popu
lar should first of all learn the charm
which lies In listening well; and she
should cultivate the art of drawing
others out, of makhig' those with whom
she is thrown shine to their best ad
If a man talks well lead him to con
verse: if lie sings well induce him to
sing; and to bring forth the most at
tractive qualities and accomplishments
of her women friends is a sure way for
any woman to take a long step' for
ward on the oad to popularity.
Such a woman, possessing no marked
accomplishments herself, and without
beauty or great mental gifts, stands a
the hotel. Helen got the keys from
the clerk, and they went up to Bob's
rooms on the seventh floor.
The blinds were drawn and the
place was close and musty from hav
ing been shut up for several weeks.
Helen raised the windows, while
Louise glanced around with a look
of rapt wonder.
How often I've tried to picture his
rooms—wondering what they' would
look like. It's hard to realize that
I m really here!"
"I know," mused Helen. "I used to
wonder about Warren's room and all
his things. I suppose every woman
idealizes the surroundings of the man
Louise glanced at some books on
the center table, then went over to
the chiffonier in the alcove dressing
room. Lovingly she touched the
brushs and trinkets that lay thero,
as though a-thrill with the intimacy
of it all.
On the bed there were two large
bundles of laundry which Helen now
um\ rapped, handing the list to Louise.
I don't suppose he ever cheeked
off his laundry in his life—but we
will. Six shirty, eight collars, two
pajamas, three pair socks, seven
handkerchiefs, two suits of under
Louise, with tense interest, marked
them off the list, and then helped to
put them away in the chiffonier
She lingered yearningly over each
garment. Ruttons were off, button
holes torn—all the ravages of the
modern "hand laundry" 011 the de
fenseless bachelor's clothes.
Iconise IS !la|>|)y
"I 11 have time to mend them all
up in the week I'm here," joyously.
"Oh, it's so wonderful that I should
be here—doing this! Think how ut
terly wretched I was two weeks ago!
Helen, the whole world's changed in
the last ten days!"
"I know, dear. And oh, 1 want it
to stay changed! I want you to be
tranquilly, restfully happy now
without any more misunderstand
"Do you know," dreamily, "one of
the first things lie said, as soon as
the doctor let him talk, was that he
was willing to concede everything
rather than lose me again. Oh, he
needs me so! He makes me feel that
he needs me! And he's very gentle
now—very different from the old
A moment's silence. Then Helen
drew Louise down beside her 011 the
couch with an earnest:
"Dear, this is hard to say—but I
feel so responsible for it all—that
there's something I must speak to
Louise looked at her wonderingly.
"It's about your staying here in
this hotel for a week or so. I've
been thinking it over and I'm—l'm
not sure that It will be wise."
Helen hesitated. "Well, Carrie
cam" to see me this morning. She
thinks it would be very indiscreet—
that it would cause comment."
"Carrie!" with scornful impatience.
"Oh, I know Carrie hates me—she has
all along. She's hardly spoken to me
at the hospital, but I've been so happy
I haven't cared. You don't think I
mind what SHE says?"
"But. Louise, she may be right—it
may cause comment."
"What if it does?" proudly. "If a
few gossipy people wish to miscon
strue things they can. Do you think
that would Influence me—now?"
Helen was pulling thoughtfully at
the tassel on the corner of a sofa pil
low Somehow the arguments she
hail meant to advance seemed sud
denly inadequate. And yet there was
still the feeling that it would not be
best for Louise to so defy conven
A Bold Plan
"Do you know," Louise started up,
walked to the window and back
again. "1 may not take other rooms—
I may stay right in these! I may
marry Bob at the hospital to-morrow
—and come here—as his wife."
"Oh, I know his whole family
would be up in arms! They'd want
|all the red tape and conventions of a
formal wedding. But I'm not con
sidering his family—l'm considering
Bob and myself."
"But Boh," faltered Helen. "I al
ways thought he was so very con
servative? I'd Imagine he'd want a
very conventional wedding."
"He does. He hasn't even sug
gested this," flushing slightly. "I
haven't either, yet but 1 think I
shall. I'm not going to risk any more
separations—l've suffered too much."
"I know, oh, I know," murmured
Helen, drawing Louise's hand into
"You don't know," bitterly, "you
CAN'T know what I went through in
those three months at Palm Beach!
I tried to force myself to mingle with
other people, to accept attentions
from other men —anything to forget!
• far better chance of becoming popular
I than the self-conscious venus. or the
prodigy of brilliant attainments, who
| only, enjoys herself when occupying the
j center of the social stago and basking
| in the glare of the spotlight.
Unselfishness, then. Is the keynote to
I popularity, as It is the key to the
I highest moral worth. But this unself
j ishness must be mingled with good
! sense, with tact, with delicacy and rc-
I tinement. in order to serve as an aid
Without these Ingredients unselflsh-
I ness and generosity sometimes become
obtrusive, officious! and offensive.
The most perfect type of popular
woman Is she who can shine like the
sun when sunshine is needed; yet who,
like that orb, does not always shine,
but retires behind the clouds and calls
attention to the brilliancy of the stars
and the moon. One who can be enter
taining. or amusing, or instructive, as
occasion demands, but who can always
put herself in the background in order
to exhibit the. graces and charms of
others, and who Is ever ready to rejoice
in another's success without any be
littling clause affixed to praise.
One who can be tolerant of the ideas
and opinions of others, while holding
entirely opposite ones; and who knows
how to hold fast to her own ideals
while understanding how others may
fail to do so.
The popular woman has quick percep
tions. and. however great her vogue,
she is never blinded by conceit to such
an extent that she falls to perceive her
own faults or neglects correcting them
once she sees them.
That which she finds disagreeable in
others she decides to avoid doing her
Seek In He n Henrflt nnd n Comfort to
And those graces and qualities which
appeal to her in others she cultivates.
To seek popularity for the sake of
being popular means the undermining
To seek it through a desire to be a
benefit, a pleasure and a comfort to
humanity means the building of char
Vet there tvasn't a moment that my
thoughts were away from him!
"I. tried to deceive myself into
thinking I was brave and strong
and 'fiercely proud 1 ! Yes, that's the
phrase 1 kept always before tin
'fiercely proud'! That's what he once
said of me, and I was trying to live
tip to it. But all the time I was
secretly longing for some excuse to
come back. 'Fiercely proud'." scorn
tii 1 ly. "I know now, where Bob was
concerned. I never had any real pride.
It was only a cheap imitation."
"Louise, don't! You're not fair to
"I'm at least truthful —I haven't
been before. What you thought was
pride and strength was really only a
great bluff—and I couldn't have kept
jit up! If Bob hadn't been sick, if
you hadn't wired for me—oh, I'd have
come back anyway! I couldn't have
stayed away much longer."
Just as Strong
Helen shook her head. "You say
that now—but you wouldn't have come
back. I know you wouldn't. You're
nervous and unstrung from being
there at the hospital, but I know
you're just as strong as you ever
"I'm strong enough not to let a
few meaningless conventions stand
between us now. I'll marry Bob and
come here, or I'll come here without
marrying him," recklessly. "But I'm
going to stay with him until he's
well. Do you think, after those
irtonths of anguish, that I'd care
what anyone 'says'? You can't suffer
like that, you can't want any one us
much as I wanted Bob—without be
coming intolerant of most conven
"Vet Bob is the narrowest, most
conventional of men! I know, be
cause in those things he's so much
like Warren. Don't, Louise: don't let
him see this phase of you—l'm afraid
he wouldn't understand."
"Perhaps not. Most women are at
heart much more unconventional
than men. You know that's true,"
defiantly. "You know that every
woman has reckless, desperate moods
when she's capable of any unconven
"Yes, I do know that," admitted
Helen. "But I've never dared let
Warren see me in those moods."
"Well, I shan't be so cautious,"
passionately. "To-morrow I'll give
Bob a fine exhibition of a tempera
mental woman! Of one thing I'm
determined," Louise caught her
breath, "nothing is going to separate
us now! Not even if it means defy
ing all the conventions —and the
whole Curtis family!"
County Medical to Hold
Four May Meetings
! The May bulletin of meetings of the
Dauphin County Medical Society and
the Harrisburg Academy of Medicine
indicate that four meetings will take
place next month. The council of the
Academy will meet May 1; the board
|of governors of the Medical Society
will meet May 26. On Tuesday, May
5, the Medical Society will hear a tri
part program to include papers by Dr.
<'. K. L. Keene on "Scarlet Fever and
Its Meaning." I>r. Raunlck will dis
cuss quarantine: Dr. Farnsler will talk
on "Throat and Ear Complications."
On May 29 the Academy will bear a
paper by Dr. .lessc L. Lcnker on "The
Diagnosis of Heart Disease Due to
Arterlosclersosis, Rheumatism and
Entertainment by Class
of Penbrook U. B. Church
f. Special to The Telegraph
Penbrook, Pa., April 28.—Class No. 8
of the United Brethren Church will
hold a musical and literary entertain
ment in the auditorium of the church
on Thursday night. The class is taught
by Miss Belle Spangler and the pro
ceeds will be turned over to the build
ing fund of the church. The following
program will be rendered: Invocation,
the Rev. H. M. Miller; song, "Blossom
Bells," Class No. 2; reading, selected,
Miss Ethel Valentine; piano trio. Miss
Ruth Hoover, Miss Helen Aungst and
Miss Frances Booscr; sketch, "Other
People's Children;" vo''al solo. Miss
Marguerite SheafTer; reading, "Moth
er's Fool." Miss Bessie Montgomery;
piano duet. Misses Ethel Valentine and
Stella Balsbaugh: address, Professor
O. E. Good: sketch, "Hood Maxims:"
reading. Miss Mary Herman; piano
solo, Talitlia Shope: sketch, "The
Three Wishes;" octette, "Nightingale
and Rose," Miss Jane Kline, Miss Mae
lloofnagle, Miss Ruth Nissley, Miss
Belle Spangler. Leon Carman, Arthur
Aungst. Charles Walters and Emmitt
A MUSICAL TREAT
Through the courtesy of the Thos.
A. Edison Co. the public will be af
forded the opportunity of hearing Mr.
Edison's latest invention, the Edison
Diamond Disc Phonograph at which he
has worked thirty-five years to perfect.
Technical high school auditorium
Thursday evening April 30 at 8 p. m.
Admission by ticket only. Tickets may
be secured free of charge at the J. H.
Troup Music House, IF. South Market
MEXICAN FEDERALS !
CROSS U. S. BORDER
[Continued from First Page.]
statement to-day as to what proposals
the United States would submit as a
basis for mediation. It was announced
that nothing would he said that might
in any way embarrass the mediator*.
At the regular Cabinet meeting at 11
o'closk the formulation of the Ameri
can proposals to the mediators was •
subject of consideration.
Fletcher Within His
Rights, London's Belief'
By Associated Press
l.ondnn, April 2X.—The seizure yes
terday by Rear Admiral Fletcher of
the property. British owned Terminal
Company at Vera Cruz is accepted by
the Hritlsh Foreign Office as quite
within the Admiral's rights, officials
here regard the Admiral's action as
coming within the ordinary routine of
such circumstances. It was stated to
day that If the Terminal Company
presented* a claim to the British For
eign Office it will be forwarded to
Washington in the ordinary course.
British Royal Marines
Rescue Eight Americans
By Associated Press
Washington, D. C., April 28.—Ad
m'-al Mayo reported that Admiral
Cradock of the British cruiser Hermi
one had dispatched Major Clark and a
detachment of British royal marines
forty miles inland from Tampico to
rescue eight Americans at Orange Hill
and was expected back to-night. The
Hermione sent thirteen refugees
aboard the Des Moines to-day.
Admiral Badger reported that it
would be inadvisable to send an Amer
ican ship to the Yucatan district, "as it
might start anti-American demonstra
In regard to the reports from Tam
pico that American < itlzens there were
indignant because of the departure of
the American battleships from the
r'ver, Secretary of the Na-\y Daniels
said to-day that this action had been
taken after Admiral Cradock had In
formed Admiral Mayo that he would
undertake to receive Americans from
Tampico aboard the Hermione and
transfer them to the Des Moines up
on the American vessels taking a
position at sea. This arrangement, it
was thought, Mr. Daniels said, would
make anti-American demonstrations in
Tampico less likely.
"I will go in and bring the refugees
to you," the British admiral was re
ported to have said to Admiral Mayo.
United States Does Not
Own Embassy in Mexico
By Associated Press
Washington, D. C., April 28.
Should anti-American demonstrations
develop an attack on the American
Embassy in Mexico City, the offenders
will be injuring Mexican property and
not American. The United States does
not own the Embassy building in the
Mexican capital and its lease runs out
June 1, next.
Grey Hopes Mediation
Plan Will Be Successful
By Associated Press
London, April 28.—"The trouble in
Mexico is one of grave concern to the
British government on account of tho
large British commercial interests in
volved. and we. of course, are ready
to encourage and further in any way
we can any proposals for mediation
which will have the effect of bringing
the trouble to an end."
This statement was made by Sir Ed
ward Grey, the British foreign secre
tary, in tho House of Commons to
day when he formally announced that
the United States had accepted the
proffered mediation of Argentina, Bra
zil and Chile. He did not mention the
reports that the European powers
were bringing pressure to bear on
General Huerta to accede to the de
mands of the United States.
Federals Attempt to
Combine With Rebels
Washington, D. C., April 28.—Hear
Admiral Mayo, at Tampico, reported
to-day that the federal forces there
are making further overtures to the
Constitutionalists for a combination
against the United States. He said the
Constitutionalists are still firing.
Refugees Say Huerta
Will Soon Vacate Chair
Vera Cruz, April 28.—That V'ictorl
uno lluertn will voluntarily abdicate
or will be forced out within a few days
is the belief of American refugees who
arrived on a special train from the
capital this afternoon.
Federico Gamboa, former minister
of foreign affairs, once governor of
Yucatan and candidate of the Catholic
party against Huerta, is named by the
anti-Huerta group as the man to sup
According to the refugees, anti-
Huerta sentiment has so crystallized av
the capital that on Saturday the con
spirators made an attempt to oust the
dictator, but failed.
Kngland, Germany and France rec
ognized the Huerta government long
ago, so that they wer«Mn a position to
give their counsels without arousing
the dictator's suspicion and resent
Industrial safety fofrncd the topic
which engrossed a roomful of
Bell Telephone employees in the
Board of Trade building last
night. James B. Douglas, man
ager of the claim department of
the United Gas Improvement com
pany, Philadelphia, offered the chief
entertainment. His address on safety
in modern industrial methods was em
bellished with many lantern slides Il
lustrating his points. In the discus
sion which followed Mr. Douglas' lec
ture Inspector Palmer of the depart
ment of Labor and Industry showed
that the number of accidents through
out the state has been greatly de
creased since the insistan'ce on safety
first principals on railroads and in in
dustries. Other speakers were: G. T.
Eldridge and G. M. Cole, Harrisburg
Gas Company; H. F. Hope, and A.
Shultz of the Bell's plant department,
this city; B. C. Jutten of the A. T. and
T.. Philadelphia; H. W. Springer,
plant supervisor of the Bell company
at Altoona and R. O. Demming, plant
supervisor at Williamsport.
CANVASS FOII DIRECTORY
Canvassers for Boyd's 1914 Harris
burg directory are at work and the
new and enlarged edition Is expected
to be issued from the press sometime
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W ILL OBSERVE MEMORIAL DAY
ißlain, Pa., April 28.—Memorial
Day, Saturday. May 30, will be ob
served here with special exercises. The
services will be in charge of the Junior
I Order United American Mechanics,
| Blain Council, No. 583. The Blaln
Cornet Band will furnish the music
and a parade will form at 1 o'clock.
The Rev. B. H. Hart, pastor of the
Fifth Street Methodist Church, Har
risburg, a former Perry eountian, will
deliver the memorial address.
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No Votes For Women!
You Are Cordially Invited
to Attend the Sessions of
Pennsylvania Anti-Suffrage Convention
Y. M. C. A. HALL
Thursday, April 30th, 1914
Afternoon 2:30 Evening 8:15 H
Addresses by Able Speakers at Both Sessions
C»al Is Cheapest and Best Now
To buy coal now Is to buy It at the cheapest price for which it can
be obtained during; the year. And then you gain in quality, too, for the
coal sent from the mines at this time of the year may be thoroughly
screened before delivery, a difficult matter in cold weather when frost
will cause the dirt to cling to the coal. So to buy Montgomery coal
! now is to buy the best quality of the beat coal at the loweat prices.
Place your order.
J. B. MONTGOMERY
Both Phones Third and Chestnut Streets
TO HOLD MERCHANTS SMOKEI'
An interesting program has b\M
arranged for the smoker by the re
tail merchants branch of the Harris
burg Chamber of Commerce to-mor
row night. A humorous talk will b«
given by A. A. Aal, of Reading. Thf
smoker will be held in (he rooms o1
the Chamber of Commerce in the Kun