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LEVI L. TATE, Editor.
VOL. 14.--NO. 6.
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ORIGINAL POETRY.
Written for the Columbia Democrat,
THE TIMS WHEN I WOULD DIE.
OY EMMV J, T .
01 lt mi di; in tits H'limivr time,
When th 3 aun it hi tins bright in a tunny cltine,
Aulgjatl) r-piiyr from oil tin iky,
Will waft ruy iouI to Ood on high.
Whin tlu gloomy Ito'ir of ni?ht hio fl.'J,
An I r-y-lain t d' hn peJ.
AtU musical bird at J soaring high,
U thsn li tlia tiinu wh:n I woulJ die.
01 lit mi di J In tin morning fair,
When tin fragrant flower j waft throajh the air.
Anl thihiitn of th luy b:i! bo spry,
01 then id llie limy w lien I wojU die.
D ar Mr tlier' lunJ will sootl sny head,
And hriKhMv inged ant. Id guar 1 uiy b id,
And mourning fnvnds arJ standm; by,
01 thsn Id the time that I would di.'.
And ihcN the Joy that I would meet,
When fuj to face, my brother greet,
And then with alt the an pel raise,
Our voicrg in a hymn of prime.
IF WE KNEW.
tY aCTII DFMTON,
If we knew the cjm and cross!
Crowding round our neighbor's way,
If we kniw tltj littlei loMca,
Horcly RruvoiH, day by day.
Wo it J wti tht'ii sn uitcn chi le him
Tor hi lack of thrill and gain
LfiviM on hit h'.irt a nh.i Inw,
Leaving on our lives a nuin f
If w knew the clouds a!inc u,
Held by gsntt-j bk'f nugs tlirc,
Would wu turn away nil trembling,
In our blind an 1 w.ak despair?
Would w i-hrink from little shadow,
l.)ing o.i the uivy prasd,
WbiUt 'tisonl) birds of IMcn,
Just In uwrc) flying pint f
If tvrknew tin nb-nt story,
Uuivtriug t branch th En-art of pain,
Would our woiiianhool dare dnam Hum
Hack to haunt of limit ugdiii I
Mfj lm ttiiny n UngL-d crowing ;
Joy Inth miny a lir.'nk of nm j
Ait 1 til j ch Jtkf , tjar vi aalud, dtJ whit-st;
Thu th -j bl.'st.Ml aug'.li know.
Lei us reach in our bottoms
Torth: ky to oth.r live,
Anl with love tuwar Is erring nature.
Oi'-riah good that atill survives ;
Ho that vvh-'ii our di-robjd spirits
Hoar to realms of lijht again,
Wu may pay, dear Kailu r. iudge u
A wc Judged our fallow iulii.
Frwi the Happy J.'omt,
HOW PARENTS PROVOKE THEIR
CHILDREN TO WRATH.
"AnJ ye fathers, provoke not your childrcu to wrath.'
Immediately preceding tho text, chil
Qren arc coiuuiauueu to nouor tm.tr pa
rents; and then, as it to warn pannts a
gaiust governing them iu such away as to
loricit tilth' honor, it is added, "And ve
fathers, provoke not your children to
wratu." The coun-el is given to fathers
becausj they are tho heads of families.
Mothers, ot course aro to regard it as
equally addressed to themselves, though tho
gotTuuieut of children moro geiurally
devolves upon fathers where signal author
ity is to be exercised, and obedience so
cured, 'llicv more frenently administer
tbos'i painful corrections and chastisements
which aiethe last resort, l-'orthis reason
tho counsel iu the text may be addressed to
them. Fathers, too, are naturally sterner
and more severe than mothers, so that thcro
is more used ol warning them asm tho text.
Many a child has sought shelter from a
father's severity in a mother's gentleness
and lovo.
But, iu general, the command hero is to
parents to guard against provoking their
children to wrath. They must not givo
them occasion to disobey. Doubtless there
is much disobedience and recklessness
among children that is provoked by paren
tal imprudeneo or impatience. It exists
solely becau.-o it is provoked into being.
The Trustees of tho Girls' Reform School
at Lancaster, say, iu their first report,
"One important tact has already been dis
covered, and which the Trustees would im
press upon the minds of all, viz ; That in
nearly every case, tlio parents, or thoso
who previously had them in charge, were
more in fault than tho girl, and that with
nearly ono half tho number, their unfortu
nato condition was attributal to the neglect
or abuse of a stop father or step-mother."
It is thus among adults in the community.
There aro many wrong things in neighbor
hoods that live because there was prove
eation. Thoughtless words, censorious
words, unkind words, biting words, call
forth othera of a tiniilar character j and
then follows a jealous spirit, a retaliating
spirit, a contentious spirit, and almost any
thing btit a good spirit. If wo could sub
tract all provokod evils from tho sum total
of jtyils in a given community, thcro would
be a great reduction of unpleasant occur
rtUMa. So, it is bcliovcd, thcro would be
a very material reduction of disobedient
uuiu aiuuiij .iuui.;u, ii mi mui. nru pru-
voiced wore taken away. I
It is, then, a matter of much importance1
to reduce tho sentiment of the text to prac-
tice. How shall a parent avoid thcie pro-j
ut.iuuu3 iu wt-uiu i ii a question iiiai uc-. jess auu unnuai. Wo suggest tuo lorcgo
mands an answer. It is an inquiry that re- iug as one of the possible reasons,
latos to vital points in the family. Its 2. Parents provoke their children to
peace, harmony, happiness, the good or wrath sometimes by favoritcism. That
evil cour.ae of sous and daughters, charac ' prido of a child's brightness or beauty
tor in thU life, and glory or shamo in the . which somo mothers and fathers possess
lifo to come are points involved. 'will certainly run into favoritism unless
I shall speak of some of the wayi in ' thcro is a btudied watchfulness. That
which parents provoke their children to genuino reasons may cxit for thinking
wrath. i more of one child than another, in some
1. By want of sympathy with them. 1 respects, wo would not deny, but care
Some fathers always keep their children at should be taken that it may not appear in
arms-length. Perhaps they are pressed the conduct, and one bo treated with par
with cares and duties belonging to their tiahtyj which is what wo mean by favor
business, so that they have no time to itism. Nothimr will arouso th.. in.Imnnnt.
hpend in conversing with the little ones
about their sports, studios, companions and
other things. They eat with tbom, areoe-
casionally in and out, and spend a short
time at the eloio of the evening in reading
a nowspaper at tue urcsiuo j but tncy nave
iiv wmi; .v uutuLU i:sjj:i!aii lu till; vuiLi' rulU.
tainment of the eliildrcu. They never Parental favoritism is ono of the evils
stop to observe their plays and toys, and which is universally deprecated, and, on
express their views about this, that and the that account, parents aru quite unwilling to
other, and thereby show their intcmt in admit that they have favorites anion their
what secures juviuilu attention. Perhaps ' children. But this is a stealthy cvfi, and
they think that it is of no consequence takes possession of the heart without sound
whether children arc amused or not it is ina alarm. Simnlv liviinr without stonin.r
well enough if they surround themselves to reflect upon this danger may lead to it.
with things to entertain them without trotib- It is one ot the perils that must bo ponder
lin their father, who never provides them I ed often, to cuard cffectuallv a--ain,t, it.
with that which shall interest. Here is no i
sympathy with childhood, and it is soon 1
perceived by young observers. Such a
lather may be feared : but lie is not ardent-.
ly loved. A youug man in his employ,
who loves to s2iort with children, will draw
the sons of that father to himself, as the
father does not, and cannot draw them. i
Some mothers have not true sympathy I warning against this evil. A long train ol
with thur oiTtpriug. They can sec no I borrows were entailed thereby upon both
need of to much running and uoie. They ! parents anl bons. A great rupture wa
wouder if other children are so active ami j made in tlio familv, and E an became a
boisterous. A cheek is put upon their ! rougher, harder, and more wilful man than
sportiveiicss many times a day by the mo-1
ther's voice, hushing, complaining, or scold-1
iug. They learn, in a short time, that j
their mother has no interest in their pas-
times, and that the best way for them is to j
have all their enjoyments by them-elvcs. .
A barrier is thus erected between them and i in this regard, ho made Joseph his favoiita
a mother's love, that may diminish their j It was manifest in his conduct. The bro
attachment to home hereafter, and finally thcrs s.iw it clearly, and you recall how it
send them rceklevs wanderers over tho 1 provoked them to wrath. " What a terrilde
e;irt''. tragedy was enacted, in consequence, in
Rev. Mr. Hemp-tead, late chaplain of that family. There is scarcely any tiling
our State Pri-on, said at a public meeting upon the annals of crime, in all past hii'
in Boston, that he had found, by actual tory, to compare with it. We have niur
observation, that want of sympathy with defs MOw, and lows shoots lover in th
childhood ha-, been a prolific cause of plncnzy of disappointment, and barbarous
crime. Parents, iu not appreciating the cruelties aio perpetrated upon men; but
motives and distortions of their offspring, 1 where does brother riseup againstbrotlier
had corrected them unwisely, and thus scut and conceive of.-ueh malignant wickedness,
them adiilt in the world, ; sick of home, and as that which sold Jo-qih into hopcles
d.termined to have their own way; or bondage? That was a deed done in the
else, maintaining a cold reserve, and never family circle. It was conceived and act
stooping to participate in their early pleas- cd by those who had sat around the same
ures, or condole with them in their daily table, and knelt at the same altar. Chil-
sorrows, strong aflVction cither tor parents
or noma, no ui.n nicy were uasuy uiawii
away by the fascinations ami temptations
of the woild.
Now, no parent is qualified to govern the 1
young, unless he can sympathize with them,
ami join with them, at suitablo times, in
th-ir plans, works, and plays. Wo should
all remember that once we were children,
a fact which tho class of parents referred
to seem to have forgotten. Tho more cor
rectly and vividly we can recall tho feel
ings and aims of childhood, the more really .
can wo enter into tho projects and joys ot
our own eli1lilri.li. Wu hnnlrl reenlleet.
- " - ...... , tuiiuiun aiu usually jjee.isu, iiausiiun,
also, that it would be unwiso and perilous ana jful. Being left to their own way
to make littlo men and women out of them. 0 n,uch flattered, carrcsed and pampcicd
A child must be a child. Ho must think thoy finally demand tho gratification of
and act like a child. Tho parent who their wishes, and become turbulent and
would make him otherwise inflicts an in- passionate if denied. The direct tendency
jury upon ids undeveloped nature, and will 0f indulging a child in his own way is to
probably provoke him to wrath. Dr. Scott, mako him rash and reckless If allowed
tho commentator, had romarkablo success to go uncorrected to day because it is dif
iu family discipline. A friend once akcd ficult to secure obedience, ho will take
him what was tho secret of his success: moro advantage to-morrow. Give a child
aud ho replied, "I never corrected them au ;nch, in this respect, and ho will tako
for being children, but for being naughty all cn. Quo indulgence causes him to de
children, mand another, until he reaches a point
Then tho trials of children aro real. where ho resists all restraint", and passion
We are too apt to think that, when a child Usulp3 the throne of reason. Hence, in
loses or breaks a plaything, or experiences any community, the most unruly and irre
borne other trouble to make him weep bit- tpousiblo children are found among the in
terly, that it is of no consequence. It is dulged. They aro much oftcnor fouud with
only a childish enjoyment that is lost. this class, than thoy aro with those who
But these trials of t he young aro real to have been treated too severely. The Scrip-
tlieill. What loss Of riches and office, tho tnroq w.nrn nMl nnin.t iniliiWnrvi
j trials of disappointment and sickness, to- j
getherwith the ordinary perplexities and
. vexations of domestic and social lifo, and
to ndults,such aro tho juvenile trials in
question to our off-pring. Unless we re-1
member this, it is impossible to express
such sympathy for thein as wo ought. I thy son, while thero is hopo, and let not
Now, tho direct tendency of a want of thy soul spare for his crying." "Withold
sympathy with childrcu, is to diminish their , not correction from tho child, for if thou
sympathy for us. If I sympathize with bcatest him with tho rod, ho shall not die."
you in trial, you will sympaihizo with me. I "Thou shalt beat him with tho rod, and do
Lovo draws out lovo. You hate another , liver his soul from hell," Theu tho ex
and ho will hato you in return. Speak I ample of Eli and others is held up as a
kindly to a neighbor, and ho cannot speak j beacon light over this dangerous shoal.
unkindly to you. Hero is a philosophy Judging trom tho frequent reference of the
that is substantiated wherever human na- Bible to this bubject, wo should infer that
turo is found. It holds good with regard
to childhood as really as it docs with regard
.to mature years. Tlio con'cquenco is, that
want of paternal sympathy for the child
keeps him at a distanco, so that filial affec-
tiou does not expand and grow, and di
vests homo of its luchest chirms, thereby
leaving him more exposed to the terapta them pain, or makes them weep, is depre
tions of life. At the same time, tho dis- J cated. Their love is blind and unreason
positiou becomes soured, and an irrespon-' able quite onough to spoil any thing hu
rible tcinpor of iniud is begotten. It is I mac. Tho second oauso is a desiro for
probable that many parents, perbapi un- 'personal tate. Perhaps a nOlWAtoc-
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consciously witLolding this necessary sym-
i'iuuy, uavo occn Burpnseu at tlio apparent
disregard of their wishes and lccliii"s.
which children carlv r-rliiliif. TL mi
scarcely understand why it is that they
aro so unaccommodating, morose, reck-
feelings of a sou or daughter quiekerthau
this evident partiality. It stirs up tho
worst class of passions in the human bosom,
Nothing creates more surely the don t
tare spirit in the young than this; and
sucu a reckless spirit cunerally leads tu
Wisdom will not alwavs do it. nor even
goodness. As good a man as Isaac bad
his favorite Ksau, and as good a woman as
Rebecca had her favorite Jacob. Kvi.
dently neither of them iutended to wrong
their sons. Perhaps they never Hopped to
consider whether thev were narti.il. The
cousumiences. however, aro a tiernntunl
ho otherwise would have been. The worst
part of his nature was developed by that
partiality, and his tierea passions raged for
more than twenty vear.s. Then, when
Jacob became the father of a large family
notwsth,tandin.' the experience he had liar!
dren of a common parent, bone of his bone
ami tlesli ot his llcsh, developed a spirit
that was fiendish and cruel as the grave,
extinguishing the last, flickeriug spark of
fraternal love, and terminating in a family
quarrel that crushed the lic.uts of tho pa
rents, and destroyed the peaco and h ippi
ncss of the children. Parental partiality
was tho mother of a deep rooted and spite
ful envy ; aud this gnawed away, as a
canker-worm, at tho heart of domestic
peace.
I). Parent provoke their children to
wrath bv excessive, indulirenco. In lultrcd
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1Uch moro frequently than they do against
severity, intimating thereby that it is a
greater evil. Wo have such instructions
as the following repeated : "Ho that spareth
the rod hatcth his son ; but ho that loveth
J,;,,, chasteucth him betimes." "Chasten
it was a prolific source of evil that it is
a very common way ot spoiling children.
There are two frequent causes of this in
dulgcnoe, Tho first is mire animal ojfic-
turn. Somo parents idolize their children
so that they can scarcely enduro to see
, them punished. Any thing that causes
TOUCH OF TRUTH AND WAVE IT
ble, or weighed down with cares, and die glass. Suppose a pareut directs a daugh- I for tho lessor evils they perpetrate ; but he
consents to almost any thing that will bring terto render somo assistance about tho proceeds to remove tho greater ones out
relief. If the erring child will be quiet house, and in yielding obedienco she breaks of which inferior defects crow,
and ccaso troubling her, by tho proffering some valuable article. How many there 7. Parents provoke their children to
ofindulgeuco, lt is readily granted. Per- arc who would scold, and perhaps punish, wrath by administering punishment with
haps she wants timo for fancy needle-work although it was purely an accident 1 How i out regard to their mental moods It is as
or somo other employment that pertains to many would not stop to reflect upon her important to study moods as motives
pleasure or display, and therefore children 1 good intentions to afford needed aid, hut Children are not always alike in their men-
, . . . . . " """L 'eri3o woum
too great a sacrifleo for a parent who wants
every moment for something else.
Butit matters not what is the cause of
tins indulgence, tho direful fruits are tho
same in all eases. It provokes children
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to wrath.
1. Parents provoke children to wrath by
undue severity. While it is true that over
indulgence leads to ruin, it is also true
that over-severity does. This is particu
larly the ease with severity that is the res
sult of passion. Some parents seldom ad
mini-tcr punishment except when angry.
So long as their patience is not tried, and
their affection is not crossed, they allow
their children to do many wrong things
with impunity. But when your patience
is exhausted, and anger rages, they fly to
tho rod, and use it unsparingly. Tho child
readily perceives that passion is on fire.
He knows very well that ho is punished
because his parent is enraged. Then he
concludes th id, if it is right for ins father
to whip him in anger, it is right for him,
receive it with a like
spirit
;:r c i i , ,
pint. bo he becomes t urly, angry, and
indietivo. 1 ho father of Madame Roland
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WOJ n V.1Uctnnntn 1
..... .. t.....wit(.bu uuu,uii man, auu uiiuu
suujccieu iter 10 almost, urutai treatment,
Tho last act of this kind, on which her life
he was
to coin-
earsnt
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seven years old ; and it was done to
wvvmiiyu nut;i( cnu
pel tier to swallow a medicine, lo
ter she rnleirod In it in tho (nil
guage: "I experienced the same inflexible
linimess that I have since felt on great and
trying occa-ions; nor would it, at this mo-
nioiit, cost me more to a-eend undauntedly
the scaffold, than it then did to resign my-
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tiou, winch a thousand rods could not sub
due. The caso of Byron was similar.
His mother never punished him unless sho
was angry, and then her puiiMiuieiit was
barbarous. Hit young spirit was aroused
against her at an early ago, and he grew
up without a p.irtielo of love for her, and
the end you know. Punishment inflicted
in wrath can do know good, but evil. It
may secure a temporary and formal obedi-
ence, but th ln-art is injured thereby. It
is driven to unlili-il thoughts and plotting-.
Said a boy, about twelve vears old, to a la
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ay who was annum tjiiust wlKlomo eoun
scl to him in view of his having stolen some
of her money, said ha, after having listen-
ed attentively and seriously. "My parents
nevcr talked lo mo like that. If they had
l shouldn't have bicn so bad a boy." Un
tho next day he called to see this lady a-
g tin, appaieittly grat -fill for her timely
words. His were Christian parents, who
supposed, probably, that seventy only
I could cure him of his stealing propensity,
I He is thought, however, tu have perpetra-
; leu two
1 two thefts for every whipping. It is
e of those cases which show us that dis-
sit.ons must be studied, if we would
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po;
properly control the young. Another case
might have been eurde by just such severi-
l ty. Treatment that will save one child
will spoil another.
uu luruiuuen. ji uiues iimo to correct tlio ; migut oe careless ; but then she should be ' is so with their parents. Tho latter have
faults of thcyoung. Work must frequent-1 reproved for carelessness, and not for tho I days when their patience is more easily cx
ly be laid aside and domestic matters inter-1 injury done. Tho extent of tho injury haustcd, when they are more irritable, sad,
rupted, m order to do it. This is often i might bo noticed to show tho sad results of or te.stv.llifin lmv nrn nt. nltir. ttma WUr,
,', ' '"'" v.........,, njui, aim uat is ue liKeiy to taKe the very worst view of his
liiUed.Lut could not conqu-r me." In wrong, it his motives are not regarded T experience, and hence feel the most un
this ease, undue severity, the result of an-1 I here can be no liuo to distinguish be-i kindly towards his parents.
Seit fn hMit I fl-0!ltt. tn.it I11..I. ......1.1 nntl 'I Oil. rl 'onuf ...Ixif .1..1.. .....1 .!
jjer, prinoKcu a spirit oi angry tietermina- iw-cn incm, wncn tins is romoved. To a 1. It is easier to nrcarh rin
lliere lsia golden mean between nulul- ot those under his command; aud he ac
geneo and severity to be sought out if pos- ted in this crusty way on principle. Tho
siblc. Ho who can discover and observe attention of the other officer, on the con-
it. hfis. nil,, nf ttin tf.nr.'t ntai.nr.ni ftil I'., it.
ilygoveriimc.it. Ho will find necessarily
invnlvetl tliitriiin tilts t.nntrnl nr'lil w nwn tt.tt, .
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per. Self-government is tho beginning
and foundation of all good government,
be it iu the family or state, '-lie that is
slow to anger is better than tho mighty;
aud he that ruleth his spirit than ho that
taketh a city." Napoleon may achieve
glorious victories at Magenta and Solfer-
mo, when ho is not fitted to govern a child,
5. Parents provoke children to wrath
by punishing them for wrong doing with-
out regard to their motives. Childrcu of-
ten do wrong things ignorantly and acci-
dentally. When tho boy, George Wash-
ington, cut the applc-tteo with his new
hatchet, wo was ignorant
ot the couse -
queuccs. He did not know that such cut
ting would kill tho tree, Somo fathers
would have puuished him at once, without
stopping to see whether tho boy understood
what hu was doing. A little child is al
lowed to mark an old book with a pencil
tor amusement,
ish hours with joy
It fills some of his child-
By and by ho takes I
n the parlor table, audi
the best book truui
defaces it in tho sauio way, for which ho
is puuished, or severely reproved. JJut
possibly ho has received no instruction that
teaches him why he can dufaee ono book
and not another. IIo did not moan to do
wrong. There was no evil intention in his
heart. Why, then, should ho be punished
or reproved Instead of cither, explana
tion aud counsel is what tho case dcuiauds.
But faults of accident are morn common
than thoso of ignorance ; and thoy are fre
quently punished, when tho ch.ld may be
actuated by the best of motives, A child
is allowed to play with a ball in tho house
until a window is brokeu thereby, when a
termination is put to the sport by immediate
punishment. Vet tho breaking of tho win
dow is only incidental to playing ball in
the houso. If correction be demanded at
all, it is for playing thus in tho house, and
not fpaccidkntajlyjlestrgyinpajna
O'ER THE DARKENED EARTH."
uuijr ui mu loss msiaineu. one
i carelessness, but with no other view. Chil- i
dren arc sometimes chastised for soil-
'mg and tearing their clothes, losing-
I articles of value, and injuring compan
lions, and similar acts, when notlnncr wrnn 1
.,,.'. 0 O
was intended. A man of rank and nffln.
enco said that, in hisyouth, ho wasscvorc- '
,pu' . .".e' 10r 1051US a ton d0"" bill
Willi WIllM. liA l... ennt In n nAt..l.1.A.. .J
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' heart in the two cases ; and while consci-
dice condemns them for thu intended
p . iu5, t uui;s nui lur mu aeeiueiitai. i'a
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rents Know tins, too. 1 liey alw
Thev alwavs iudr'a
of men by motives. The killing of a man
is ninmurierun ess it is done with malice;
aforethought The motive is a ways re
garded m judging of men. Shall not chil-1
' irC",b,ltrf l ' ?, dT.tion '
"wu vuiitsa ii ia uunt; mil.
i - - mu' ii vuiijiMvninyii
as adults? Lspecially ought not this to
, be the case when making no difference be-
, tween a fault of intention and accident ob -
literates the distinction between right and
i wrong in the mind of tho child How
.1 ! i
n. Parent, .provoke their child to
people Iiavo a tact for iault-uuding.
" t auii Hiiuuig. qujiiu
A"
tin neighborhood and family, thy are
more likely to discover blemishes than gra -
co. Ihey pass by exhibitions of human
excellcnces with a kind of reserve and de
termined silence, and speak and comment
only when defects are seen. When this
class becomo parents, they watch their
children closely for faults, and are seldom
disappointed iu discovering them. As
children are not usually more nearly pcr-
feet than their parents, the opportunities of
reminding them of their faults aro numer-
ous. The consequence is that almost con-
tinual fiultfiiiding salutes their oars. Pa-
rents differ at this point, like the comman-
dors of vessels described by Basil Hall.
Speaking of two captains, ho says, "When-
ever one of these commanding ollicers came
onboard tue ship, alter an absence ot a
day or two, and likewise when he made
his periodical round of the decks after
breakfast, his constant habit was to cast
his eye about him, iu order to discover
what was wiong; to detect the smallest
t... .., . . - ,
thing that was out of its place ; in a word,
to hud as many grounds for censure as
possible. This constituted, in his opinion,
the best preventive to neglect, ou the part
ti-ftrv- .Imtn'lri.il tn Itrt ,1it.nn.,iM nl.w.flt. tn
those points which he could approve of.
t'Vil- ilwtttttntt lt li'niiltl ttn nt l.rt ,.
- . ..w...u, ..v mwi.,.. .,t ii, ... titii.
along from timo to time, and bay to the
first lieutenant, 'Now, these ropes are very
nicely arranged ; this modo of bestowing
tho men's bags and mess kids is just as I
wish to see it ;' while the first officer do-
scribed would not only pass by theso well
arranged things, which had cost hours of
labor to put iu order, quite unnoticed, but
would not bo easy till his eye had caught
hold of some casual omission which af-
j forded un opening for disapprobation."
i "Under the one, accordingly, wo all
worked with cheerfulness, from the convic-
, tiou that nothing we did in a proper way
1 would miss approbation. But our duty
under tho other, being perlormed 111 tear,
seldom went on with much spirit. Wo had
no personal satisfaction of doing things
correctly, from the certainty of getting no
commendation. - - - The caso being
t inw uoiieicss, tue cuasiiseuieiii seiuoiu
conduced either to the amendment of an
offender, or to the prevention of offences."
It is so in thu family. Habitual fault-
mining means mu sjuwgui gum-iuus aim
noblu effort. It hardens the heart against
its influence, so that recklessness is the
legitimate result. Children who arc ac-
customed to hear fault-finding so generally
l ,. , , , . G t - -..ww ..v mvib .U.b 1V1 111U1U 111
he coutessed that he always carried the tho latter, who have not arrived to years
recollection ot it as an act of injustice on of discretion, and over whom motives of
the part ot Ins father. Ho desired to per- self-control have, consequently, less influ
form the errand promptly. Ho yielded once t This must be granted. But wheth
cheerful obedience ; and yet it all weighed or conceded or not, every parent knows
nothing bosido the accident of losing the that his children aro not always in an
mmy' i c , I equally favorable frame of mind to receive
1 he tendency of such disregard of mo-1 correction. When they arc peevish in con
tive in the punishment of children is, to sequence of illness, correction oltcn arouses
beg.'t tho feeling of having been wronged a retaliating, sullen or revengeful spirit.
to arouse a spirit of hostility against Tho same kind of correction will awaken
what s soma to bo, and what actually is in-1 harder thoughts, and angrier thoughts,
ju-tice. Children know when they intend ' than at other times. So, when a chifd is
to do wrong, and when they do notiutend angry, it is nearly as dangerous to inflict
it. ihey know that there is a great dif. I punishment, as to do it when tho parent is
forence between the moral statu nf tlir. ,..... ti. i.:i.i .... e
need it about as nmcii as tnoy do tno idlo little lias ever beeu written or published
wind. It provokes them to yet grosser i upon tho subject a fact which shows how
faults. ! little attention has been dovotcd to it.
It should bo remembered, in dealing with While enough has been produced upon the
the faults of children, that many minor culture of plants and tho training of colts,
short-comings grow out of one great defect, I and even Canary birds, almost nothing
like the twigs and branches from a large I has been donofortho instruction of parents
limb of a tree ; aud tho removal of the concerning tho most important of all their
great fault will cause the lesser ones to duties the government of their children
disappear. Tho husbandman is not so on which, not onlv tha hanmnnas of Wli
foolish as to spend his timo and strength
in pruning or cutting off tho littlo withered
branches of a diseased limb, in tho orch-
ard; but ho cats off the limb itself. So tho
truly wiso, judicious parent spends not his
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tal ttatcs. f-or is it ncculiar to them. It
exceptions to this are few and far between
It does not require very lonK or deep study
for any of us to discover this in ourselves ;
and there aro causes for it. Jlultiplicity
fifnn. nf.,i .,:.., v.,in :n.,L .-j
..UJIlll.dVttl UU41.MI UWU11V llllll.iStUllU
;mito i..V :.: j ...
happy state of mind. But if adults aro
thus subject to them, may not children
1 . T. . I . 1 .. ..
oe , ls Ulere no ,noro excuS(J lor Uicm ,n
im Buira a nut iucii iu a irame
1 of mind to perceive the junice of ids cbas
' tiscmeut. nor to care much ahont it Tti
In . . ' . . . -
ieeliii"s are too bitter for that,
Also, tho I
1 norin.w .riion. ;u i.. ..!.. r. 1
1 the weather and physical indisposition, so
that the child is more easily provoked to
wrath by the parents. When these diff-
criug frames of mind aro not observed, and
cl-ti;emet is administered without any
iMi-iu-emnnr. is finiinnivrnrnri trititniit
regard to them, injury is usually done
The heart of the child becomes more sadly
' warped than ever. A bad thing is made
j worse. The child will misconstrue or
misanDrehend naternal motives then 'nn,l
family gov-
I '
h" Teen said foshow She govenmS
oi cmiarcn is a very Uillicult matter-
verv d Jlh fin It. mnttor flint.
It rCOUirCS Wisdom. forrMfrlit. fr.niiitr.nfi.-in
and a good knowledge of human nature, to
' be able to di-cipline tho young heart ari"h.
y0 doubt it is tho desire and aim df nearly
. . .7 p
an parents to govern their children so that
n. . .. t
uey snail neco.ne uset.il and worthy mem -
hers of society. But wo err in judgment,
or knowledge of the mental and moral laws
under which children act. The science of
lamilv- froverninent. vn nrn nnr. en ffimilinr
f . c ..... ....
with as we aro with other sciences. If it
bo truo, as the poet says,
" Tlu.chilJ
That shuts mthin its breast abloom for heaven,
Muy lake a blemish from the breath of love,
And b 'Hi thu blight forever,"
it is not btrango that many of the young
niaiio smpwrucK oi tneir uopes. o say
that a teacher must have a knowlcdfC of
human nature if he would bo a successful
disciplinarian, and we say the truth. But
how much moro truo must this be of tho
j parent, whose government over his children
never ceases during their years of minor-
ity! Yet this is a difficult knovvledce to
. .. .. . . 9 .
acquire.
Tf.,ll ttmnint, ,.n,i.in.
iuuuu uui uiteiuiuu, auu uiuers ucsiuc,
1 ... .!.. 1 -.1 1 . 1 I
attention and ofl,. nea;,ln
every one must see that parents have no
' ll.!.,.. vt l.. ... , .
sponded, " Who';" Men who have made
.. . 1 1 11 1
igwuu vi:iiiui3 auu legal ewuusuiigrs ijave
i tailed utterly in managing their sons. It
is so much more difficult to govern a fain-
ily than a state ! A ruler is not obli"ed to
j study the dispositions of his subjccts,Tjut a
j parent must. Facts provo that an anna-
ble disposition may be soured by misiuan-
' agciueut, aud a naturally unamiablo ono
may be improved by judicious culturo.
But how shall we acquire this necessary
j knowledge of different dispositions. This
lis tho difficulty. Such considerations show
'that wo can theorize upon this subject
I much more easilv than wo can rednen
theories to nractico.
2. Wo learn, hence, tho necessity of
i parents making family government more
of a study, and the subject of moro serious
i thought than they generally do. Men
have their treatises ou tho cultivation of
plants, grains and fruits, tho raising of
nees. cons, anu otlicr animals: but how
few of them, who aro fathers, havo any
1 treatise upon thu managemeat of children !
They havo weekly papers upon politics,
agriculture, me mccnaiuo arts, and upon
j almost every thing else that pertains to the
j trades and callings of life. But how few
' have any means of instruction upon tho
subject of Home Education 1 True, very
( parties is suspended : but, in a great
measuro, tho welfare of church and state.
i But thought, reflection, ttmlv. mm. nnr,
I ought to bo given to this subject. Instead
of devoting no particular thought to it, nor
J-i -J-s--!,Sr-
niierior worn to pertorm. Uovv ofteu thev ... , .
are nm-nWod. nnd sreoW l-,,nw l,f tn ' a gCSlUrC, atld turning
dn 1 ' tfnw m nv nf ,t,n Jn,t !.,- ,1,,1 I hMl ,Ut" a OlwU Oil her
anxiously. Who is sufficient for these ?m no' she said,
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ftil and virtUous, parents should feci that
no more important subject can claim their
attention. And tho more thought they
can bestow upon it, tho more they will sco
tho need of information relating thereto.
Finally, we learn tho need of love M
the pervading clement of family govern,
meut. Whatever may bo our views about
corporeal punishment,or tho use of the rod,
cither for or against, all must agree that
love should bo the pivot on which all
things in the family turn. If wc inflict
corporeal punishment, it should be doneia
love. That tender, affectionate spir.t,
which aloue is consistent with tho parental
relation, should bo manifest even in tho
severity employed. This is turooftha
Divine government. God is just, but his
ju'tico is tempered with mercy. Seventy
sometimes charactmcs hi3 government,
but it is prompted by love. Whom tha
Lord loveth ho chasteucth." It is true in
nature, and it is truo iu providence. Wcra
tho power of God more prominent than bii
love in creation, instead of prevailing sun
shine and calm, we should have wind and
Ftorm, thunder and tempest, and other
manifestations of Divine power, more than
tho opposite. Dark and frowning skies,
wild tornadoes, and mighty earthquakes,
would convert this beautiful world into a
spcuo of indescribable terror. So if jus
lice, in tho providence of God, prevailed
over love, we should bo arrested in our
earthly career, and the merited retribu
tions of eternity would fall upon us at oncf.
Wo should be overwelmed with tho conse
quences of our guilt, and perdition would
Open itS VaWllin.' milrill tn vpcnivn nnr v.-..
ished spirits. But now that Divine Invn
underlies and pervades the entire universe,
... "
1 c.tLa itl, l
moment m a life that is
lcssings. So manifest and
wonderful is that lovc!l'hat vve Tcan Respond
to the lines df another, P
Zt..
Were every reed on earth a quilt.
And every man a eribe by trado J
To write the love of God above.
Would draintbe ocean dry,
Nor could the scroll contain the whole.
Though itrctched Irani tky to ky."
So must love in tho family underlio and
pervado its entiro discipline. Then chil
dren will not. hf nm'nrrA n.fttU
frequently, and peace, harmony, and con
l''
EXECUTION OF QUEEN MARY.
Arrived on tho scaffold, Mary seated
herself in the chair provided for her, with
her face towards the spectators. The dean
; of Peterborough, in ecclesiastical costume,
sat ou tho rigt 'r tLe 0ue,, n , . !
foot8tooi before him. The Earles o
I and Shrewsbury were seated like h
.1 . 1 . , ... . . .
f Kent
him on
the right, but upon larger chairs. On th
other side of the Queen stood Sheriff An
drews, with a white wand. Iu front of
Mary was seen the xecutioner aud his as
sistant, distinguished by their vestments of
black crape with red crape around tho left
arm. Behind the Queens chair, rangjd
by tho wall, wept her attendants and mai
dens. fri the body of the hall the nobles
and citizens from tho neighboring counties
wore guarded by the musketeers of Sir
Amyas Paulet and Sir Drew Drewerv.
I fJond tllc 'jalus'ra do was
J"buuaL J-ho sentence
' Wuc1? 'Protl:s tct! "St it
I rovalitv and or mnncennn
Bayond the balustrade wa3 the bar of tha
was read : tho
in the name of
ua'"i anu 01 innocence, nut accepted
1 l" ..... , . . .
death for the sake of faith.-She then knelt
I n ui i j ..
:-"ZZ Z-VZlUUTS
Witt- luiciiutk
towards thi
lorchead. "I
to bo un-
numerous a company.
1 , ,y land3 of such Sm ftha
I Cliaillbcr,
Sho then called Jane Kennedy anl
Elizabeth Curie, who took off her inantlo,
her veil chains, cross, scapulary. On their
touching her robo the Queen told them to
uuloose the corage, and fold down the er
mine collar, so as to leave her neck bar
for the axe. Her maidens weeping yield
ed these services. Melville aud tho three)
other attendants wept and lamented. And
Mary placed her finger on her lips to sig
nify that they should be silent. Shu then
arranged her handkerchief, embroidered
with thistles of gold with which her eyes
had been covered by Jano Kenedy. Thico
sho kissed crucifix each timo repeating
''Lord, unto thy hands 1 commend myspir
it." Sho knelt anew, and bent her head
on the block, already scored with dcocn
marks ; and in this solemn attitude r-ha
again recited some verses from tho Psalms.
The executioner interrupted her at tha
third verso by a blow of the axo, but its
trembling stroke onlv grazed her neck :
she groaned blightly and tho second blow
severed the head from the body. Lumur
line.
A Lesson ron the Ladies. A pen.
tlcmari, .nil had often been annoyed by
waiting a long timo for tho mating of tha
toiletts of thoso ladies ho had escorted to
balls, was invited by ono of tho ladies to
attend a Leap Year Ball, recently at
i no tauy caueu tor htm at tho appointed
hour, but ho was " not quite ready." Oar
lady friend was ushered into tho parlor.
. i i i ,i .... i. ... .r
auu nan tno pleasure oi waiting until near
ly 10 o'clock, for the gentleman to "dress.
ino jone wa3 kindly taken, but was so well
dona that tho fame thereof had extended
to almost every person in tho ball room,
in tha courso of tho next hour. Not a few
were the jokes' and repartees exchanged,
urusaeu uuiore so
nun an saiu iqat ovirpertJminii'Jifi?sJ-