[No. LXIV.j THE TABLE T. No. LXIV. »' People tire never ?nore vexed, than when the thing that offends theviisiuhat they mujl not complain of." TEARS anil complaints are among tlicfour ces ofrelief that lie open to the afflicfted and unfortunate. Those people, who can vent their grief in either of tliefe ways, feel less op prelfion of spirits, than those who conceal their misfortunes through atemper of prid», or cheridi their sadness under fucli a clole contexture of heart, as cannot readily let loose its sorrows.— But one meets with innumerable ills and vexa tions in the world, about which, it would be weaknefsto sigh, and indelicacy to complain. An epicure, in dining with his friend, some times finds no difli that suits his palate. The cookery may in every respect be different from what he relishes. To be sure, he is placed in a fitiiation, which, to him, is a very unpleasant one. Nothing could vex him more, and yet he mull not complain. He mult disguise his feelings, or he will offend those of his friend. An old man, connected with a young wife, whom he durlt not quarrel with, is perpetually exposed to vexations, which he cannot even men tion without being ridiculed. His natural dispo sition may be sullen and reserved ; and those cha rafteriltics may be heightened by age and infir mity. Her temper may be peculiarly gay and volatile, and her desire for company and amufe inent may be encreafed, by living with an hus band, wliofe character and wilhes are so different from her own. Both of them feel a state of un easiness, which they can neither hope to escape, nor cease to lament. And yet their disquietudes are of such a nature, that any complaint would excite contempt rather than pity. The evil ad mits of 110 remedy : It meets with noconipaffion. It can be 110 mark of difcerninent for persons vo luntarily to plunge into a fftuation so tedious and hopelels. The secret of living happily depends very much on knowing how to avoid the description of evils to which I allude. In the choice of inti mate friends and companions, one will fall into disagreeable mistakes, unless he adts with great difcernnien't and caution. A liuiilarity in circum itances, a coincidence in political sentiments, and many other causes may induce men to .form cir cles of acquaintance, into which perhaps not a lingle ray of realfriendlliip ever penetrates. One should not number among his particular friends, those persons with whom he becomes acquainted, only through accident or convenience. If he does, he will commit an error, that will involve him in all the difficulties, I am exhorting him to Ihun. Before any man is recognized as a familiar associate, he ought to give unequivocal proof, that he poli'efies purity of principles, and gener osity ot heart. There should be a resemblance intafteand habits between those who often come together for the relaxation of their mutual cares. When there is a disagreement in this refpedi, their scenes of mirth and fellivity will soon de generate into fullenncfs anddifcontent. It is not material, that chere be a limilarity of age, under standing, or natural temper. It is only requisite that their habits and inclinations Ihould be form ed with a view to limilar modes of gratification. Nothing is more common than for an old man to be less lprightlyand enterprizing than his young friend, and yet both may take delight in the fame course of business and amusement. A man prone to lilence and gravity may be happy in companions of an open unreserved temper. If they are both alike well-bred, aAd familiarized to like cultoms, their difference of temper may probably never prove a l'ource of much vexation to each other. But persons living together will soon disagree, if they have been accustomed to a different llile and manner of enjoyment, and have modelled their taste and fafhions by a dif ferent level of circumilances. When I visit my friend, it is of no importance to my liappinefs, that he fiiould know as much, or talk and laugh as much as I do. But if he gives me bad wine, and a dinner not so well dres sed, as I could have got elsewhere, I undergo a vexation, against which I have no remedy. This shews how much of our pleasure in life depends on avoiding habitual familiarities with persons, who will inceflantly counteract our prevailing taffe and inclination. I may view a man withref peift and veneration for his talents and virtues, and yet 110 degree of acquaintance may be able to intereff any of the tender sentiments of my heart. Wemavhoth applaud each other for our reflec tive good qualifies, but we must commit force upon ourselves if we attempt to pal's a social hour together. It cannot be too much contemplated how many or the irkib ne moments of life are occaiioned by S A T U Pi D A Y, November 21, 1789 incidents, that appear too trifling to be ranked in the catalogue of misfortunes. No man could ever move one l'enf'ation of pity in the breast of ano ther, because his fellow-lodgers chose a different hour of dining, or a different fort of provisions irom himfelf; and yet many a man lias fuffered more a