84-Lancaster Farming, Saturday, September 13, 2003 No Time, No Money, Unpredictable Weather Spells Stress LOU ANN GOOD Food And Family Features Editor QUARRYVILLE (Lancaster Co.) “The world thinks farm ers lead an idyllic life. They don’t see the hinges falling off the bam doors, they don’t know that even if the farmer could afford to buy the hinges, he doesn’t have the time to fix it.. .that it has rained the past 40 days and the tractor is stuck in the field, that he’s been up all night helping a calv ing cow, that so far this year only bulls instead of heifers are being born, that chickens are losing their feathers and the com is molding,” said Jane Boyd. Boyd was one of four speakers at the workshops on Farming, Stress, and Economics conducted last week at several different Lancaster County locations. Too much to do, unpredictable weather, and sinking commodity prices all add to stress. When stress levels get too high, farmers are prone to make poor decisions, accidents happen, and family re lationships suffer. As an agricultural nurse spe cialist with the University of Rochester, Boyd visited New York farm families to find out how farm accidents happened and how family members are af fected. “Accidents place huge stresses on families. And, in most cases, stress contributes to accidents,” Boyd said. “Farming is a physically de manding occupation with a high potential for accidents. This is partly due to complex machinery and unpredictable livestock. An other reason is the fatigue caused by long hours, demanding work, and time pressures,” Boyd said. Some stress is necessary. “It makes us to get up and work to provide for the family,” Boyd said. People handle pressures differ ently. Some people aren’t happy unless they have a hundred things to do, and others' can’t handle more than three things on their list. People also experience stress in different ways. Some people have physical symptoms such as head aches, stomach aches, a racing heart, or sleeplessness. Some have emotional responses such as bit- terness, lonliness, and poor relationship man agement. Some people experience mental Farming, Stress, and Economics Workshop speakers, from left, Jane Boyd, ag nurse specialist; Janneke van Buscern and Dan Hess, Life Management Associates; and Ger ald Phillips, Mid-Atlantic Farm Credit. symptoms of feelings of worth lessness, depression, irritability, anxiety, and mood swings. Relationships suffer during pressure-packed times. Farm spouses attending the Quarryville workshop reported that under se vere stress, one spouse will stop talking and the other will ex plode. Recognizing this, spouses should try to modify their behav iors. The person who withdraws should force himself to verbalize his feelings. The person who ex plodes should recognize the nega tive impact this can have on a spouse and verbalize frustrations before they build up to an un manageable level. Sometimes parents try to hide concerns from their children. Even if parents try to hide their stress, children often sense that something is wrong. They may perform poorly in school. Take time to talk to your fami ly. Let them know if you are feel ing pressured or stressed. Find a friend who can listen to your problems. To counteract stress, Boyd stressed the importance of sup port systems with spouses, neigh bors, family, and friends, espe cially with those who understand. It’s important to receive ade quate sleep and to eat properly. Farmers who skip meals or eat unbalanced meals because they are too busy to take the time in crease their stress. Proper nutri tion is needed to build and main tain body tissue, produce energy, and keep the mind alert. Although farmers have heavy labor, they still need to take time for regular exercise to get their heart rates pumping and relieve stress. Financial stress often means borrowing more money. The workshop presented information on proper and improper methods when working with creditors. Talking With Creditors Gerald Phillips, Mid-At lantic Farm Credit, em phasized the importance of honesty when working with a lending institution. If a client “fudges” figures to make his numbers look good, a lending institution is skeptical that the client isn’t being honest with them in other areas. “No one ever forgets every thing they own, but many forget to list liabilities such as credit card debts and equipment leases,” he said. The negatives of the past year with too little and then too much rain, lengthy periods of low milk prices, and high costs have worked against farmers, Phillips said. 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Phillips believes the best stress relievers is to become involved in an activity where your mind is forced to focus on something other than farming, such as sports or teaching a Sunday school class. “Take a vacation, even if you think you can’t afford it,” Phillips said. “That doesn’t mean you go on a cruise. Vacation may mean no more than taking every other Sunday evening off. Don’t stay around the farm. Do some thing else,” he said. The workshop broke into two groups, one for men taught by Dan Hess, and the other for women taught by Janneke van Buscern. Both Hess and Buscern are from Life Management Asso ciates. Buscern said that it’s impor tant to discern between stresses that can be controlled and those that can’t. “Don’t waste your time focus ing on things in which you can do nothing, such as weather,” she said. 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