10-Lancaster Farming, Saturday, March 16, 2002 B Kids It’s Not Whether You Win Or Lose LEESPORT (Berks Co.) Many children who participate in youth sports and their parents have become obsessed with winning at almost any cost. This attitude can interfere with what sports programs for kids should be all about, warns Sue Giachero, Penn State Cooperative Exten sion family living agent in Berks County. “Go to any sporting event involving 6- to 12-year-olds and you’re guaranteed to see an out-of-control parent or coach,” says Giachero. At this age, the focus should be on teaching skills and having fun, rather than cut throat competition.” Kids at those ages are trying to get a sense of mastery, Giachero explains. They’re learning specif ic sports skills. They’re also learning important life skills, such as backing somebody up, accepting responsibility and lead ership. “A vvin-at-all costs atmosphere also results in less commitment to values such as honesty and fair play.” she adds. Sixty percent of the boys and girls involved in sports programs drop out by age 12, Giachero said. When 12-year-olds were sur veyed about the reasons they dropped out, they listed in order of frequency: loss of interest, takes too much time, poor coach ing and too much pressure. Giachero suggests some guide lines to keep in mind when shop ping for or creating a quality sports program for kids. • Fair and equitable policies that kids help create. These poli cies should be age-appropriate and applied consistently. No players should get away with anything simply because they have the best ability. • Orientation for staff, coaches, parents and youth. Ev eryone should know up front what’s expected of them, includ ing expectations about conduct, fairness and honesty. • Emotional control. Adults should be expected to set positive examples. Help for kids to learn from their experiences. “Adults should spend time after a game talking about what the players did well and what could use im provement,” Sue Giachero says. “Coaches should make use of ‘teachable moments,’ where something significant has just happened such as a nasty foul or an accidental collision to stop the game and ask the play ers to think about how they could have behaved differently.” • Conduct follow-up activities. A post-season meeting can be scheduled to celebrate successes and plan for future changes and improvement. Maximize the so cial side of sports by promoting interactions among team mem bers and between teams. Above all, Giachero says, sports programs should be fun. “Watch kids play on their own,” she says. “If one team’s ‘killing’ the other, th( ill ‘Switch!’ to Korner divide up the talent. If someone makes a silly mistake, they yell ‘Do-over!’ Kids play sports for the action and excitement,” she said. “Games shouldn’t be organized to determine a winner but to promote a close and exciting game even if it means modify ing the rules.” Finally, everyone should par ticipate, regardless of skill level. “Less than one percent of kids go on to play professionally,” Gia chero says. “Why focus on that small number and miss a great opportunity for the other 99 per cent?” Penn State Cooperative Exten sion has developed a series of free booklets, “Coaches Making Youth Sports a Positive Experi ence,” and “Parents Making Youth Sports a Positive Experi ence.” Single and multiple copies are available free of charge for Penn sylvania residents from county Penn State Cooperative Exten sion offices. Out-of-state resi dents can contact the College of Agricultural Sciences Publica tions Distribution Center or call (814) 865-6713. For more information about these publications and other edu cational programs about youth development offered by Berks County Cooperative Extension office, call Giachero at (610) 378-' TICo TACx ■I Wmmm 1 sen n'f here f - J K 1 '.. FD nnne „ ' It - - * 6 ; -7.®: s *u • • f • ; 2 Jo Pluralism LANCASTER (Lancaster Co.) Pluralism is a condi tion in which minority groups participate fully in dominant society, while maintaining the cultural differences that make them unique. A pluralistic at titude means diverse groups share the responsibility and joy of leadership, while enjoy ing their right to maintain their cultural heritage. It im plies mutual respect. Do you maintain a pluralis tic attitude in your everyday life? Here is a checklist to help you evaluate where you stand in your pluralistic practices: 1. I use language that does not stereotype, generalize or disrespect others. 2. I have sought out more information to enhance my own awareness and under standing of racism and preju dice by talking with others, reading or listening. 3.1 do things with the point of view of others in mind. There has been a wide variety of families in the White House, but what about the pets that have lived there 9 Today, “Socks,” the Clintons' cat, is the only pet that lives in the White House Socks is the first cat to live there since Amy Carter’s cat, “Misty Malarky YingYang” Russell Harrison, President Benjamin Harrison’s son, had a pet goat named Old Whiskers The president had to chase him down Pennsylvania Avenue one day when he ran away pulling a wagon full of Harrison’s grandchildren Zachary Taylor pastured his old army horse, Whitey, on the White House lawn When people visited the White House, they took home horse hairs as souvenirs. President Franklin D Roosevelt’s dog was named Fala The dog was a gift from the president’s cousin, and usually wherever the president went, the dog went too. Caroline Kennedy, daughter of John F Kennedy, had a pony named Macaroni A gift from Lyndon /tf* (V \ Johnson, Macaroni was allowed f '1 I/) / to roam the White House V ' \ 's' / grounds and received fan mail Caroline 1 also had a dog named Pushmka 1 \'/ “Millie” was President and Mrs George Bush’s dog Millie had two big things happen in her life while President Bush was in office She wrote a book, and she had puppies Just as pets may play a big role in your life, they do in presidents' lives, too 1 v I Checklist 4. I have re-evaluated my use of terms or phrases that may be perceived by others as degrading and hurtful. 5. I find out facts rather than acting on assumptions. 6. I have made a personal decision to take a positive stand on diversity. 7. I involve everyone when gathering information, resolv ing problems and making de cisions. 8.1 value the options of oth ers and respect cultural values other than my own. 9. I tactfully call another’s attention to their biased, prej udiced or stereotypical lan guage or behavior. 10. I give the others the op portunity to teach me what I don’t know or understand about their culture. If you answered yes to most of these statements, you are well on your way to promoting a positive, pluralistic attitude that builds understanding and mutual respect among people. FIRST PETS President Lyndon Johnson had three dogs—two beagles named “Him” and “Her” along with “Yuki ” Yuki and the president used to sing in the Oval Office