Dads And Discipline Nancy E. Wallace, MS., CFCS Penn State University In recent years, a researcher and popular author has published books supporting the premise that men and women think and act very differently. It is true. And, it is also true that fathers and mothers differ on the “why” of discipline. While dad and mom have differing viewpoints on discipline, one person’s views are not necessarily bet ter than the other. First, let’s look at the reason for discipline. “Disci pline” comes from the Latin word disciplina and means teaching. Discipline does not mean punishing. Both par ents agree on that the goal is teaching behavior and not punishing misbehavior. Mothers, though tend to want their children to behave because they feel that it is good to be good. Moms think, “Be good, because if you don’t, we (mom and child) won’t get along.” Dads tend to want children to be good because chil dren will find their way in the world if they behave according to certain societal rules. Dad, on the other hand, thinks, “Behave, because if you don’t you’ll never get a job, have friends, etc.” What’s a parent to do? Recognize and appreciate the differences. It is important for both parents to participate in limit setting and discipline. Effective discipline is short and simple. Teach children to engage in behaviors that will not harm themselves, other people or property. As Berks Fashion Revue Names Winners LEESPORT (Berks Co.) Fifty 4-H’ers from six 4-H sewing clubs modeled their sewing projects at the Berks County 4-H Fashion Revue conducted at the Ag Center recently. Winners who advanced to the Southeast Regional 4-H Fashion Revue, Allentown, were Rachel Rounsville, Ka trina Shutt, Taryn Stein, Kelli Ann Shlegel, Katie Kauff Install The Gates & Fencing That Are Manufactured To Last! 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Decide together, how far is too far, how much is too much. Making a chart of acceptable and not acceptable behaviors and their consequences works in some families a mom method. Dads tend to think chil dren should remember. Some children do remember, but don’t count on it. Label the child’s and your feelings about the behavior. I know that makes you so angry, but we don’t hurt peo ple. What can you do? Children feel relieved when dad relates that he is angry, or frustrated, confused, etc., too. Young children, especially, feel that mom and dad are perfect. By labeling their and your behavior, children are taught that anger is an acceptable feeling. Once the feel ing is identified, work with the child to handle it. Dads tend to look toward more concrete solutions. Counting to 10 works. Leaving the scene works. Sometimes dad can reinforce that crying is okay, too (even for boys). With discipline, moms and dads have the same expec tations, goals in sight. Their roadmap to that goal may vary. Children benefit by being exposed to the differing styles of their parents. Being exposed to both styles helps children to better cope with the variety of people and problems they will encounter in later life. So while men may be from Mars and women from Venus, both provide valued reasons and methods for dis cipline. Keep teaching your children. man, Angela Hohl, Monica Beistline, Caillin Ketterer, Caitlin Celia, Jamie Marsh, Jennifer Faust, Logan Mon ighan, and Jamie Celia. Three gold honor awards went to Kelli Ann Schlegel, Taryn Stein, and Rachel Rounsville. Senior division blue honors went to Katrina Shutt and Katie Kauffman. 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