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Blending Culturais:
A Dad’s Perspective on
Bring Up a Daughter
in America
Ask most fathers and you will
find that raising a daughter is a
different challenge than raising
sons. But what is the impact
when two different culturais
marry and begin the challenge
of raising children?
To answer that question, I
asked a co-worker, David Tang
to help me understand how cul
ture plays a role in parenting.
David is from Thailand with
Chinese ancestors. He arrived in
America in 1987 at the age of 37
and is married to Elizabeth, an
American citizen David became
a naturalized citizen in 1993
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and works in Dauphin County
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talented daughters - Sara, age
11 and Anna, age 9
It is easy to assume that
there are differences between
the Chinese/Thai and American
culturais. The real questions are
what are the largest differences
and similarities faced in parent
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David explains that expecta
tions can be quite different.
1 He was expected to marry
a Chinese! This would bring
honor and status to the family
As an American he doesn’t plan
to limit his girls in their choice
of future partners. No arranged
mamages either.
2 Education is highly hon
ored, more for sons than daugh
ters, and children are sent away
to a boarding school often many
miles away from the nucleus
family David has high hopes
that his girls will attend an
institution of higher learning,
but neither Elizabeth nor David
could imagine sending their
young girls away to a distant
school.
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3. The labor laws are very lax
in Thailand. David began work
ing at the age of six selling pop
sides. Working was an impor
tant value in his family. David
still has the value of hard work,
but his girls do not work outside
the home; however they do have
chores and are given small
allowances to spend. He views
this as teaching money manage
ment.
4. As a young boy it was an
honor to do chores for no reward
for their elders. In America,
David observes that this prac-
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tice isn’t always the case He
finds that young people often
expect a reward for helping oth
ers He tries to instill the atti
tude that families help one
another and friends without any
expectations
When asked what similari
ties he saw between the cultur
al, David had to give great
thought to the question He felt
that both culturals expect that
children will exceed their par
ents in work, education, and
social status. Also, that children
are encouraged to reach their
potential. And finally, that val
ues are passed on to their chil
dren. The emphasis on various
values may differ, but the basic
values of family, education, hard
work and faith are the same.
When asked what difference
involves discipline, David was
quick to point out that corporal
punishment was enforced when
he was a young boy, but was
done in the aspect of love and
not anger. In his family today,
David practices positive rein
forcement rather than an harsh
methods. Teaching respect is an
important aspect in his disci
pline If children respect them
selves, they will respect others
as well
Most fathers have a long list
of fears when it comes to raising
daughters, but with a smile
David quickly said none l His
wife has more fears than he
does David’s philosophy is that
you cannot predict the future for
your children. He believes that if
you give them them a firm foun
dation, children will be fine 1
That certainly must be an east
ern point of view Americans
often have many more guilt feel
ings and worry over most every
aspect of their children’s lives
In summary, I concluded that
culture does not play a role in
parenting when it comes to
which values are shared, how
discipline is administered, and
certain parental expectations
However; basic fact remains, no
matter what culture parents
love, nurture, and protect their
children with all the resource
made available to them
It is often easy to see differ
ences between cultures, but with
a little thought it is just as easy
to see that parents of different
cultures are more alike than dif
ferent.
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