84-LanCaster Farming, Saturday, November 28, 1 Taking Time by Rebecca Escott Thinking About Old Pajamas A couple weeks ago, I man aged to tear through the sleeve of my favorite pair of flannel pajamas. I didn’t even know I was doing it. My elbow bent, and the fabric ripped. (After all it is a well-worn, well-loved pair of pajamas') My husband urged me to discard them and get a new pair, but I’m resisting. What is it about old pajamas that makes them so hard to part with 7 As I thought about my dilemma, I also though about how losses and changes are faced m more serious arenas of a family’s life. Here’s what I’ve concluded- Old pajamas are comfortable and familiar. We’ve grown accus tomed to one another. When things are comfortable, familiar, and connected, partings are dif ficult. Besides that, I’m frugal. 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Other people who split out the sleeve of an old pair of pajamas would rejoice because they could justify a new purchase (after all they were tired of that pair, wanted a dif ferent color, and just saw a neat pair in a catalog last week, etc.) Guess which temperament I have? So what can this experience teach us about change and loss? First, I need to recognize that it’s okay to give up some things. Making a change can be a diffi cult step, but also a good step. If my frugality gets in the way, I could drop the item off at the recycling center. Of course, I could also choose to retrofit them with my sewing machine and keep wearing them. I am also reminded that what seems like a little change to one person may be a bigger one to another. I can’t tell you how many times my siblings and I urged/forced my Mom to pitch things. At other times we shook our heads in amazement that she was willing to hang on to seemingly useless items. NOW here I am, wanting to hang onto my old pajamas and others are telling me to pitch them. I don’t like how that feels. This is teaching me, once again, to be quick to think and slow to direct and judge. I’ve found when a person chooses to make the change by himself rather than having the change forced on him, it is a much more positive experience. Of course, it’s not always pos sible to control when the change happens and what we can do. We don’t control when layoffs occur, car accidents happen, children get the flu, refrigera tors break down, or grocery stores close. In those cases, it’s M PENNSYLVANIA CHRISTMAS » and GIFT SHOW Dec. 2 thru Dec. 6 • PA. FARM SHOW COMPLEX NEW in '9B: PA CHRISTMAS GARDENS 1600 sq. ft. of Poinsettias, Plants, Trees and Shrubs. Designed & Landscaped by Walter-Nisley and Walter, Inc., Hamsburg, PA Opens Wed. Dec. 2, 1998 at: Pa. 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