by Rebecca Escort Penn State Extension Home Economist For Lehigh County Taking Time Helps Stop Violence Why is our gut reaction to punch someone or to shout a hurt ful name when someone insults us? Statistics show that the United States is Incoming increasingly violent. But violence is not just a societal issue. Violence affects small communities, families and individuals. Across the country people are also demonstrating that it’s small communities, families, and individuals who have the opportunity to stop violence one confrontation at a time. Did you know that half of the homicides that occur in the United States are among family and friends? Dr. Deborah Prothrow- Stith, MD outlines the characteris tics of people committing violent The Tough Landscaper Tools from Woods Landscape Rakes They come in 5 Model Series and offer the Versatility needed to do a complete landscaping Job. 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