82-Lancaster Farming, Saturday, December 21, 1991
COLLEGE PARK. Md.
Home for the holidays. For some
people, the phrase brings a sense
of anticipation, thoughts of good
food and good friends. In others, it
instills anxiety and fears of
conflict.
“Some conflict is almost inevit
able when groups of people are
together in one place for an
extended period of time even in
families that have strong and sup
portive relationships,” says Dr.
Billie Frazier, a human develop
ment specialist with the Coopera
tive Extension Service, Maryland
Institute for Agriculture and
Natural Resources.
“Such conflict tends to occur
over issues involving power and
control, values and attitudes,
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respect, gratitude, lifestyles and
especially this year money.
The conflict can affect anyone
from teen-agers home from col
lege to parents playing host to sev
eral generations.”
Although there is no such thing
as a perfect visit, there are ways to
defuse family tensions and
increase the probability of a pleas
ant visit. They involve planning
ahead and a willingness to change
(at least temporarily) old behavior
patterns that cause strife among
family members.
Dr. Frazier recommends the
following guidelines, which she
adapted from research appearing
in the November 1988 issue of
Psychology Today:
* Have realistic expectations;
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discuss your expectations and
those of your relatives ahead of
time to avoid any surprises and
misunderstandings.
* Plan your visit for the optimal
length of time not too long and
not too short.
* Alternate time together with
lime alone. Take walks. Go to
another room and read a book.
♦ Think about possible dis
agreements that could arise and
how you will respond if and when
they do.
* Realize that people have dif
ferent attitudes and beliefs and
that maintaining a valued relation
ship is frequently more important
than winning an argument.
* Maintain a sense of humor.
Laugh at the small stuff, and leam
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