TAKING
by Rebecca Wolf
Extension Home Economist
Grown-Ups Are People Too!
Everyone wants to feel impor
tant. In this column, we’ve talked
about children and self-esteem,
but we less frequently mention
adults and self-esteem.
Yes, adults farm workers,
teachers, stay-at-home moms,
middle-aged men, seniors, sales
reps, employed parents, unem
ployed parents adults need to
boost their self-esteems, too.
Daily, we are bombarded by
messages that may conflict with
our lives. If there are contradic
tions, we question our lives not
the messages.
For instance, diet product com
mercials promote certain appear
ances. In general, we say “You’re
right. 1 should look like that.”
Moms listen to others who do
three or four community outreach
efforts and say, “I should be giv
ing like that.”
The reality is that different
choices are good for different peo
ple in different circumstances!
We may also feel inferior
because of unrealistic expecta
tions. Our spouses, our parents,
our children, and even we,
ourselves may have expectations
that can’t be met. Unrealistic
expectations chip away at self
esteem.
Most adults can tell when they
are feeling like a failure, when
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they are frustrated with how
things are turning out personally.
But what can improve the situa
tion?
First, when you find yourself
feeling this way, take some
responsibility for your life.
Recognize that no one can do or
have everything. You have made
choices. (I keep a door hanger that
proclaims, “Superwoman doesn’t
live here anymore.”) If you’re not
satisfied, maybe you need to take
action to build in some positive,
enriching experiences.
Also, there are two sides to
every choice. Trade-offs.
Secondly, surround yourself
with people who make you feel
good. Give yourself good mes
sages about who you are and what
you have done. “Wow. I did a lot
of work today.” “You know, I
really am a good listener.” “I’m
please with how well I’m caring
for Dad.” Don’t be afraid to
announce your successes.
Third, give to others. When I
take my eyes off my own needs
and get excited about being with
or helping someone else, my
whole world is brighter.
Finally, build mini-rewards into
the system. If you’ve been giving
out a lot, take a break and go get
your hair done. Take an hour this
evening to sit on the porch and
read a novel, or take a day trip to
visit a friend. Plan incentives to
help you work toward goals. “If I
keep my spending to the budgeted
amount each week this month, in
September I will buy myself a new
pair of shoes.”
No matter what you do
whether you follow the status quo
or try something different,
whether your world consists only
of your immediate family or
reaches to distant countries and
grand social causes, you are
important. You have value, and
you have a place in your commun
ity. Remind yourself of that each
day. And be confident about the
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As part of their celebration of
June Dairy Month, the Pennsylva
nia Dairy Promotion Program and
Chuck E. Cheeses of Pittsburgh,
held two special promotions at the
Bridgeville and Wexford restaur
ants. The promotions were the cul
mination of the chain's special
June, Dairy Month promotion.
Throughout the month of June,
children from the Pittsburgh area
colored cow pictures and returned
them to Chuck E. Cheeses to
receive free game tokens for the
restaurant's games and activities.
Then, on Saturday, June 29„ the
dairy industry came to two Chuck
E. Cheeses with live calf displays,
pudding making, and visits by a
costumed cow.
At the Bridgeville and Wexford
locations, children visited with
Chuckie, himself, and received
free coloring books. Calves were
provided by the Bisset Farm of
Washington, and Marburger Dairy
of Evans City, Butler County.
Dairy Princesses from Beaver-
Lawrence, Butler, Washington-
Greene, and Somerset Counties
assisted with the promotion.
Future promotions are planned
with the restaurant chain as their
young guests arc anxious to have
dairy princesses and calves visit
again.
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choices you have made and will
make in your life.
Think of your life as an apple.
This summer and fall as you cut,
process, and mill apples into pies,
crisps and sauce, remind yourself
of this illustration. Positive com
ments and achievements act as
polish. Each time you hear a good
thought, you get one good stroke
that builds the luster of the fruit
causing it to shine. But negative,
hurtful comments or neglect take
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Children at the Bridgeville Chuck E. Cheeses visited with
a small Jersey calf provided by Janet Bisset, the
Washington-Greene County Dairy Princess. This young
boy, Stephen Williams, also posed with the calf for area
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bites out of the apple’s flesh.
Some are small nips; others take
chunks. Eventually, if the negative
comments increase and the posi
tive comments diminish, you’ll be
left with a person who feels worth
less and rotten like a withered
apple core.
This summer, take a few
minutes to polish the esteem of
those around you and add a few
good strokes to your own while
you’re at it.
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