The Battleground-Sharing!
We survived ten hours in the car
together, a lack of showers due to
a dry well, and less than favorable
ski conditions on our recent vaca
tion. However, little did I realize
that the real challenge of the week
would be to negotiate between
five children, three of which were
all around one-and-a-half-years
old. And the issue of negotiation
almost always seemed to revolve
around the sharing of the mutual
pile of toys.
Sharing a tough topic for
parents. If often ranks right up
there with discipline and toilet
training as a much discussed issue.
Right or wrong, we often judge
the amount of concern children
have for others by judging one
characteristic, and that is then
willingness to share. Also, our
definition of sharing is often nar
row. We limit sharing to that of
giving materials.
But sharing also involves time,
space, attention and affection.
These areas are often shared will
ingly by even very young child
ren. Yet, as adults we fail to recog
nize that they are engaging in real
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sharing behavior. As I reflect back
on our vacation, I realize the many
times our “only child” had will
ingly shared our attention and our
affection with the other children.
Learning to share is- a life long
process. Below are a few sugges
tions that might help with the shar
ing principle in your family. First,
remember that sharing is not only
the giving of materials. Recognize
the many times your child shares
affection, such as the hug with the
friends who stopped over for the
evening or with another sibling.
Appreciate the times your child
shares your attention and time
while you are involved in other
activities. There are many oppor
tunities when children share
space, such as the play corner of
the doctor’s office or die addition
of another highchair at the table.
Recognizing these aspects of shar
ing will build a positive basis for
sharing of material things.
With children under two, we
can begin to teach sharing by giv
ing a child two cookies ... one
for the child to keep and one to
give to another child. As children
mature through the next two years,
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they can learn to give the cookie to
another child and then receive a
cookie for themselves. Later a
child can leam to share one cookie
by breaking it in half.
Another way to encourage shar
ing of material things is to talk to
your child about sharing at times
other than when they are involved
in a battle over the toys. When we
only discuss sharing while on the
“battleground” it becomes an
unpopular thing to do! How about
calling it “sharing” when you
both work together and put the
clothes into the washer or when
you carry a bucket together. If we
could focus on these fun sharing
times we would not build such a
negative feeling of sharing.
By recognizing that sharing is a
difficult process, we can also plan
for it Take along several toys for
your child when you go visiting.
Designate one toy that is theirs
and does not have to be shared.
Then help supervise the sharing of
the other toys. The one item that
does not have to be shared may
provide the security to share all of
the other toys.
Only with maturity comes the
ability to go without in order to
share with someone younger or in
greater need. Every child needs to
feel that he is a worthwhile indivi
dual. Before we can reach out to
others, we must feel comfortable
.with ourselves. The same is true
for children. Children who feel
they are loved, wanted and cap
able at an early age are able to
show concern for others at a much
younger age than children who
feel unsure of their personal
worth.
If children feel good about
themselves, they leant to share by
choice. Recognizing the many
areas in which children leant to
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share can help us respond in a
more positive manner to behavior
learned by our children. After all,
as an adult, I still find it some
times challenging to share. Our
enjoyable vacation was also a time
Adams County
The Adams County 4-H potato
judging team placed first at the
annual state competition held dur
ing the 1989 Farm Show. The A
division team members were Scott
Gibson of New Oxford, Bill Gil
bert of Fairfield, Dan Ludwig of
Gettysburg, and Kristi Mummert
of East Berlin.
Adams County had two B divi
sion teams, which placed first and
third. The first-place B team con
sisted of Christy Waybright of
Gettysburg, Christy Pressel of
New Oxford, AMy Miller of New
Oxford, and Travis Green of Get
tysburg. The third-place B team
members were Emily Miller of
New Oxford, Angela Light of Get
tysburg, and Arlyn Meyers of
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“Let’s Make a Sampler Quilt”
which started January 31, 10 a.m.
or 7 p.m. at the Extension Meeting
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of sharing our time, affection and
space with twelve other people.
Perhaps our community and coun
try would be a happier place if we
more appropriately modeled some
more sharing with those around
us!
Potato Judging
Gettysburg.
The individual placings for
combined divisions are as follows;
Scott Gibson was first-place indi
vidual with 450.75 points; Amy
Miller was third-place individual
with 425.75 points; Dan Ludwig
was the fourth-place individual
with 419 points; Bill Gilbert was
the seventh-place individual with
412.50 points; and Christy Way
bright was the ninth-high individu
al with 411.50 points.
The conteest consists of decid
ing if each of 100 potatoes is in or
out of grade; identifying 20 potato
defects on 40 potatoes; and placing
two classes of four plates of
potatoes.
The class will meet every other
week until May 9. Sheila Arnold,
a member of the local Quilters
Guild, will teach advanced piec
ing and applique techniques as
well as methods for marking and
setting lap quilted squares
together. This whole quilt will be
made without using any quilting
frames.
Advanced registration is
required. Call 757-9657 for more
information on cost and
registration.