BlfrUncastw Farming, Saturday, September 10, 1988
Neighbors, Friends, Strangers
Rally To Help Amish Family
NEW HOLLAND —They
came by the horse and
buggies, cars, pick-up trucks and
bikes. Neighbors, Mends, and
strangers came to a New Holland
farm last Saturday from as far
away as Florida, Rhode Island and
Argentina.
Why did they come? Mostly to
A spokeswomen for the event
refused to be identified because
“it would not be fair to give one
person credit, it can’t be said
that anyone does it. Many,
many people helped make it a
success. ”
support the benefit sale that was
being held for Joseph Esh and his
family. Passerbys, uncertain of the
event but attracted by the crowds,
stopped too. Whatever the reason,
the proceeds from the sale will go
toward the Amish family that was
severely injured by an intoxicated,
hit and run driver on June 27.
“We sold 1,400 subs and more
than 1,600 pounds of chicken and
it was not nearly enough,” one of
the organizers of the event
reported. “I couldn’t believe it,
people delivered baked goods by
the van loads. In the beginning 1
thought, 'Who is going to buy all
these things?’ But the people kept
coming. Freshly baked bread bare
ly had time to touch the table
before it was snatched up.”
While donated items were auc
tioned and sold, the smell of bar
becue chicken wafted over the
New Holland farm that served as
the sale site. Freshly turned ice
cream and steaming hot chicken
com soup attracted the patrons.
There were baskets of pears,
peaches, and cataloupes to take
home.
A spokeswomen for the event
refused to be identified because “it
would not be fair to give one per
son credit It can’t be said that any
one does it. Many, many people
helped make it a success.”
Although two districts of the
Amish community organized the
benefit, the help was not limited to
the Amish. The spokeswoman
said, “Many ‘English* people
helped transport all the food and
supplies: we couldn’t have done it
without them.” She continued,
“One, Galen Martin, who is with
Animal Medic, offered his ser
vices. For several days before the
sale, he acted as a “go-for”. His
help was invaluable to us because
we don’t have cars and there were
so many things that needed trans
ported.”
Seven members of the Esh fami
ly received injuries. In addition to
Esh who is paralyzed from the
neck down, his wife, Barbara, lost
her spleen and suffered a miscar
riage. Three daughters suffered
broken legs. Three-year-old Lizzie
received minor injuries and one
year-old Barbara is recovering
from a concussion.
A Mend of the family reported
that the little girls are improving
fast. Two are on crutches, another
in a wheelchair. She said, “A piece
of bone is missing from one of the
girl’s leg but doctors are hoping
that since she is young, the bones
will grow together. Tn the mean
time a pin was inserted for 18
months.”
It was reported that the father
who is paralyzed from the neck
down, and still hospitalized, is
regaining a fighting spirit He, so
accustomed to hard physical labor,
felt useless after the accident to
support his family of seven. Then a
letter came from another parapleg
ic who encouraged him: “You
might feel like a burden because
you cannot help your family, but
remember you’ll still be there to
guide them.”
“Things like that cheer him,” an
Amish friend remarked. “It’s a
little word here and there from
people who care—some that don’t
even know him—that makes a
difference.”
Although enthusiastic about the
success of the sale, the organizers
admitted, “What we collected is
only a splash in the bucket toward
the amount the family needs.” The
Esh bill has already bypassed
$300,000. Insurance should cover
$lOO,OOO of that amount, but Esh
hasn't begun his rehabilitation.
The Amish community will
continue to provide financial sup
It would be an unheard of thing
for an Amish family to visit needy
members and not take along
food and let it on the kitchen sink
before leaving.
To Improve Listening
To get along in any relationship
whether it’s at home, at work, or
among friends, the key is commu
nication... that means two-way
communication. Most of us are
really good at the sending end, but
not so good at the receiving end.
After a while others will just not
bother trying, because they think
“she’ll never listen.” Here are Ten
Steps to Improve Listening. It
works for men and women, parents
and kids.
1. STOP TALKING: You can
not listen if you are talking.
2. PUT THE TALKER AT
EASE: Help them feel they are free
to talk.
3. SHOW THEM THAT YOU
WANT TO LISTEN: Look and act
interested. Do not read a magazine
or perform other chores while they
talk. Listen to understand, rather
than to oppose.
4. REMOVE DISTRAC
TIONS: Don’t doodle, change the
radio station or TV channel. It
»it for the family. One member of
the sect noted that in cases like
these, no formal plan is devised.
“We know the need is there and we
continue to visit and give. It would
be an unheard of thing for an
Amish family to visit needy mem
bers and not take along food and let
it on the kitchen sink before
leaving.”
The 23-year-old driver struck
the Esh buggy while they were
traveling to church will stand trial
on charges of drunken driving, hit
and-run and reckless driving.
This was not the first benefit
sale held at the New Holland farm.
Since 1981, the family has been
hosting a benefit sale for a needy
member of the community.
According to a participant, the
benefits were first implemented
when an Amish woman named
Barbara Lapp organized a small
sale for a widow. Because Barbara
derived great pleasure from help
ing others, she continued the annu
al tradition by helping other needy
families. Last summer, Barbara
succumbed to lung cancer. A
friend remarked, “We knew that
the last thing she’d want is for the
benefit sales to stop. There is
always a person who needs it”
Those who knew Barbara
explained, “What she started is just
like a small seed that keeps grow
ing. Even though she is no longer
with us, the seed she planted keeps
growing.”
Those desiring to contribute to
the fund, may send donations to
the Beiler Benefit Fund, 101
Amishtown Road, New Holland,
PA 17557, orphone 717 354-6066.
Ten Steps
might be quieter if you shut the
door and turn the radio and/or TV
off.
5. EMPATHIZE WITH THE
TALKER: Try to put yourself in
his place so that you can see his
point of view.
6. BE PATIENT: Allow plenty
of time. Do not interrupt. Don’t
start for the door or walk away.
7. HOLD YOUR TEMPER: An
angry person takes the wrong
meaning from words.
8. GO EASY ON ARGU
MENT AND CRITICISM: This
puts people on the defensive, and
they may “clam-up” or become
angry. Don’t argue even if you
win, you lose.
9. ASK QUESTIONS: This
encourages a talker and shows you
are listening. It helps to develop
points further.
10. STOP TALKING: This is
the first and last, because all other
guidelines depend on it. You can
not do a good listening job while
you are talking.
See your nearest
(NEW HOLLAIND
Dealer for Dependable
Equipment and Dependable
Service:
PENNSYLVANIA
Ann villa, PA
B.H.M Farm
Equipment, Inc
RD 1
717-867-2211
Baaverlown, PA
BSR Farm
Equipment, Inc
RD 1, Box 217 A
717-658-7024
Belleville, PA
Ivan J Zook
Farm Equipment
Belleville, Pa
717-935 2948
Canton, PA
Hess Farm Equipment
717-673-5143
Carlisle, PA
Paul Shovers, Inc
35 East Willow Street
717-243-2686
Chambersburg, PA
Clugston
'implement, Inc
R.D. 1
717-263-4103
Davidaburg, PA
George N. Gross, Inc
R D 2, Dover, PA
717-292-1673
Elizabethtown, PA
Messlck Farm
Equipment, Inc
Rt 283 - Rheem's Exit
717-367-1319
Gettysburg, PA
Yinglmg Implements,
Inc
3291 Taneytown Rd
717-359-4848
Greencastle, PA
Meyers
Implement's Inc
400 N Antrim Way
P O Box 97
717-597-2176
Halifax, PA
Sweigard-Bros
RD. 3, Box 13
717-896-3414
Hamburg, PA
Shartlesville
Farm Service
RD 1, Box 1392
215-488-1025
Hanover, PA
Sheets Brothers, Inc
1061 Carlisle St
Hanover, PA 17331
717-632-3660
Honey Brook, PA
Dependable Motor Co
East Mam Street
215-273-3131
215-273-3737
Honey Grove, PA
Norman D Clark
& Son, Inc
Honey Grove, PA
717-734-3682
Hughesville, PA
Farnsworth Farm
Supplies, Inc
103 Cemetery Street
717-584-2106
Lebanon, PA
Keller Bros
Tractor Co
RD 7, Box 405
717-949-6501
Loysvltla, PA
Paul Shovers, Inc
Loysville, PA
717-789-3117
Lynnport, PA
KermiJ K Kistler, Inc
Lynnport, PA
215-298-2011
Mahaffey, PA
Hutton Farm Equipment
RD 2
814-277-6647
New Holland, PA
ABC Grotf, Inc
110 South Railroad
717-354 1191
New Park, PA
M&R Equipment Inc
PO Box 16
717-993-2511
Oley, PA
C J Wonsidler Bros
RD 2
215-987-6257
Pitman, PA
Schreffler Equipment
Randy L Schreffler
Pitman, PA
717-648-1120
Quakertown, PA
C J Wonsidler Bros
RD 1
215-536-1935
Quarryville, PA
C E Wiley & Son, Inc
101 South Lime Street
717-786-2895
Rlngtown, PA
Rmgtown Farm
Equipment
Rmgtown, PA
717-889-3184
Tamaqua, PA
Charles S Snyder,
RD 3
717-386-5945
West Grove, PA
S G Lewis & Son,
R D 2, Box 66
215-869-2214
MARYLAND
Churchvllle, MD
Walter G Coale, Inc
2849-53
Churchville Rd
301-734-7722
Frederick, MO
Ceresville
Ford New Holland, Inc
Rt 26 East
301-662-4197
Outside MD,
800-331-9122
Hagerstown, MD
Antietam Ford Tractor
301-791-1200
NEW JERSEY
Washington, NJ
Frank Rymon & Sons
201-689-1464
Woodstown, NJ
Owen Supply Co
Broad Street &
East Avenue
609-769-0308