Capitol leads sweethearts to altar
With men outnumbering
women seven-to-one at Capitol,
this isn’t exactly cupid’s nest.
Yet each year some of the ar
rows hit their marks here, and
a valentine or two pays off at
the altar.
“I’ll remember Valentine’s
day for the rest of my life,”
says My (Ngo) Guidarelli,
“because that’s when I got my
engagement ring.” She met
Francis Guidarelli at a
Graduate Student Union
meeting and for them, there
wasn’t a real courtship. “We
always went out with others in
the club and it wasn’t until I
went to dinner at his parents
home that Francis and I got
closer.” she says.
They were married on
November 27,1982.
Steve Cremo and Annette Bux
met in a restaurant where she
Top photo: Mr. (Steve) and Mrs. (Annette Bux) Cremo; directly above Mr. (Francis)
and Mrs. (My) Guidarelli.
Mark Clauser
Photo b;
was working. “I bought her din
ner, and a little while later she
was being harassed by some
drunken guys,” says Cremo,
“so I stepped in and said ‘Get
your hand off her--she’s my wife.’”
When they met, he was attend
ing Capitol and she was at Penn
State’s Schuylkill Campus,
planning to transfer to Capitol.
They were married May 29,
1982 and they are expecting a
baby this spring.
While taking a bus trip to
Atlantic City, Mary Williams,
Capitol grad, heard over the in
tercom the joking voice of Tony
Becone, also a Capitol grad.
After the trip, “I started
dating Mary,” said Becone.
“Seven months later I asked
her to marry me.”
Are there diners? Probably,
or at least there may be after
today’s valentine exchange.
Take the "Scenic Route " at
By Sharon DePalma
With the aid of women’s lib,
young women, in particular,
now play the most interesting
and intriguing games of
all—especially at night! These
evening bar games become
rituals with prescribed codes
and rules, such as on eye con
tact and touch. Why do women
engage in bar rituals?
Some experts say it can be
seen as a defense against feel
ing foolish. In a bar environ
ment men generally dominate,
and women need an un-
conscious excuse for being
there, such as meeting
girlfriends or listening to the
band. Society dictates that men,
unlike women, have every
reason to be there: drinking
and talking with the guys, or
just to unwind.
The'women, according to Dr.
Timothy Perper in a 1982 Vogue
interview, initiate flirting and
consequently, do the choosing.
“Men usually don’t know how
to make contact with a woman
Solve exam
By Barbara Myers
John is a college Junior. He is
outgoing, gregarious, and well
liked by his peers and his in
structors. He wants to go on to
law school—if he keeps his
grades up—but John has one
big problem: he crumbles at
test time.
“I just know I’m going to
flunk,” John told me. “I don’t
know why I’m so afraid to take
this test...it’s just that my mind
goes blank;”
John is suffering from Test
Anxiety, and few experiences
are more frustrating. Especial
ly when students study diligent
ly, test anxiety seems a par
ticularly cruel handicap.
Research has shown that
there are two types of anxiety:
Trait Anxiety, wnich is the
natural amount or generalized
anxiety, and State Anxiety
which is anxiety generated at
an individual moment.
“In order to zero in on test
anxiety,” said Counselor Ed
Beck of the Capitol Campus
Counseling Center, “you have
to zero in on a major
psychological theory and then
see how it applies to test
taking.”
“Basically,” he said, “test
anxiety is an unnecessarily high
amount of State Anxiety which
interferes with performance.”
While a certain amount of
anxiety is a healthy thing, too
much can be debilitating.
in a bar,” Perper said, “and
they are ignorant to the clues
ana signals of female
flirtation.”
One of the few games men
play is “Joking;” whereby, a
man constantly kids his
girlfriend about everything
from A to Z. This male game
has little imagination and even
less sensitivity, yet it is a man
ly way of showing affection in
public.
Some of the best female bar
games are products of ac
cidents; unintentional female
actions that reap male atten
tion. They range from the coy
game of “Brushing” to the
deceptive ritual of “I Don’t
Know Where They Are.”
Mary, a 21-year-old college
junior, and her girlfriends
always sit at the table farthest
from the ladies’ room to play
“Scenic Route.” This position
ing ensures synchronized walks
through the herd of men near
the bar; which is indeed a
scenic route!
Once amid the male mob,
Mary adds the demure game
testiness with stress te
“People with test anxiety,”
said Dr. Marian Krieger, coor
dinator of Counseling Services,
“have real physical symptoms:
nausea, shortness of breath,
racing heart, sweaty palms,
and a tremendous urge to flee.”
In order to cope with tests
and test taking anxiety,
Counselors Beck an Krieger say
that students do extraordinary
things to their bodies and
minds.
“Some students do not eat
several days before a test,
other students eat too much
before a test. There are those
students who stay up all night
before tests, those who take
drugs to put themselves to sleep
before a test, and those who
take drugs to keep themselves
up before a test,” said Beck.
“None of these things are par
ticularly helpful, and are more
frequently a hindrance to per
formance,” he added.
Why do some people become
so upset by tests? Is it pure
conditioning? Do a few bad test
experiences mechanically con
dition a fear response?
“It’s caused by experience,”
Beck says. “An early learned
bad experience with test taking
or anxiety association, whether
internally generated (by the in
dividual), or externally
generated (by teachers,
parents, or peers), has been
shown many times to contribute
to the onset of the symptoms of
test anxiety,” he said.
Test anxiety may be more
“Brushing” to her agenda.
“Brushing” occurs when I
brush against a guy as if by ac
cident,” Mary explains. “Of
course, if it’s really crowded,
sometimes it truly is an
accident!”
Another popular game is
“Phone Call;” it is similar to
“Scenic Route” in that it re
quires a woman to maneuver
through a mass of men.
“I just go to the pay phone,
which is usually near the bar,
and call someone,” says
25-year-old health instructor
Kim. “I call my mother, the
operator, anybody; ’cause som
guy I’ve been staring at is
bound to ask who I’m calling
and start a conversation.”
“Hi There, You’re Great;
Now Introduce Me To Your
Friend” is the most widely use
game both men and women
engage in. The scenario is sim
ple: a beautiful girl, her unat
tractive girlfriend, and an in
timidated guy.
David, awed by Sherry’s stui
ning looks, couldn’t bring
himself to start a conversation
widespread than most of us im
agine because many victims
conceal their condition. They
are ashamed of their fears and
of ridicule by others for having
these fears, so they often suffer
in silence and hide their symp
toms from an unsympathetic
environment.
“I’d be too embarrassed to
tell my teacher I’m afraid of
taking tests,” John told me.
“She’d just think I was trying
to get special favors.”
And test anxiety is on the in
crease.
“In the last five years,” said
Dr. Krieger, “we have seen
more cases of test anxiety in
the Counseling Center. This is
probably due to external
pressures, decreasing job
markets, and increased com
petition for employment.”
Adding to that, Beck said that
there is a strong positive cor
relation with need achievement,
with competition needs, and
with need to excell and get
ahead.
Research has shown, fairly
conclusively, that test anxiety
can be relieved through a com
bination of different ap
proaches.
‘‘l use an eclectic approach,”
said Beck. “Essentially, I try to
help the student develop a
lifestyle that allows him all the
things he feels he needs to do,
also study for tests. I try to
Eut the performance aspect of
is life into a comfortable
lifestyle.”