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How has the AIDS scare affected
your views on your own sexuality?
by Vail Weller
and Nan Quatchak
Jen Shelley
3rd semester
Chemistry
"You're careful, you're
scared."
Dana Williams
7th semester
DUS
"I've been fortunate to be with
one person for a while. It
hasn't really affected me, but I
do put toilet paper down on
the seat."
Voice
Dr. Colleen Kelley
4 years
Communications
"I think anybody that thinks
about it for a minute thinks of
discretion. Be very sure of
who you go to bed with and if
you're not sure then you
shouldn't."
Erik Braho
sth semester
Psychology
"It hasn't with me. I've
always been careful with my
sex life, although at my stag
party - no hookers allowed
unless they pass the AIDS
test."
Julie Tibolla
sth semester
Communication
"You're more careful you take
precautions, and you respect
sex more." .
photos by Audrey Acosta
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The Sonnenberg
[ln the ordinary sunlight]
In the ordinary sunlight
i could have said
how perfect you are
but i didn't;
instead, i sat
and whispered into
a hole in an ordinary
treetrunk
saying
"the moon is no match"
then looked
across a hill
to wonder at
the bigness of trees.
-Kenneth Sonnenberg
by Rob Prindle
Feature Editor
Kenneth Sonnenberg was bom
in Erie. He spent all but two years
of his life here. In 1985
Sonnenberg graduated from Behrend
with a B.A. in English. Shortly
after graduation, he married and,
with his new wife Arden, moved to
Arizona
Sonnenberg was to attend The
University of Vermont in the fall of
1987. He had been accepted into the
Masters of English program and
awarded a Teaching Fellowship.
Sonnenberg wanted to become a
teacher at the university level. He
died shortly before the semester
began.
Sonnenberg was a poet. His
poetry was published in "Sunrest
Magazine," "Tempus," and "The
Sandcutters."
He took his poetry from nature.
The wilderness offered him an
environment in which to create and
explore his feelings. His book of
poetry and photography "Moving
the Dunes," published
posthumously, exemplifies his
feelings and perceptions.
Sonnenberg is being
remembered by The Sonnenberg
Poetry Award, an annual award
given to a Penn State-Behrend
student whose poetry demonstrates
a high level of achievement The
award is a project of the
Sonnenberg Memorial Fund.
In the introduction to "Moving
the Dunes," the Editor, Dr. Diana
Hume George, tells of her
Having Visions of
Success
(CPS)--"Don't get nervous;"
"Don’t say this;" "Don't look at
that...;" "Don't think about...”
People often defeat themselves
before they go into a pressure
situation by thinking about what
they don't want to do.
Thinking about what you don't
want to do can actually make it
happen. It's like the golfer at the
water hole. As she prepares to
swing, she thinks, "Don't hit it in
the water.” Where does it always
go? Plunk like radar into the
middle of the water.
Let me explain why that
happens. The mind is an incredibly
powerful tool. Research shows
that when you picture something in
your mind the same pathways of
your nervous system are being
excited as they would be if you
were really doing that activity. The
body can't distinguish between an
actual experience and a very clearly
held picture in the mind.
Thinking about "the don'ts" is
actually rehearsing failure. It also
causes enormous stress, and stress
has become the plague of college
campuses. In fact, the Nuprin Pain
Report, the first national study on
pain in America, documented that
more people 18-24 are likely to
suffer stress and pain than any older
age group.
To overcome that don’ts, think
about what you do want to do,
rather than what you don’t. In a
pressure situation, visualize a win.
How would it look? What would
you be doing? How would you be
feeling? Imagine it as clearly as
possible.
There have been many
experiments indicating positive
effects of visualization. One study
involved three groups of students
shooting basketball foul shots.
One group physically practiced foul
shots for 30 minutes a day. The
second group did nothing. The
third group visualized themselves.
November 22, 1988
relationship with her student:
"From the beginning, Ken
Sonnenberg occupied my office as
though he had a right to be there;
and he did. His attitude toward
professors was respectful enough,
but he always made it clear that he
was expecting to get something
worth his while from the most
casual exchange. He never said so.
It was something about the way he
carried himself, a sureness he
projected even when he was (I
would discover later) feeling most
tentative."
Ken Sonnenberg is remembered.
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The Sonnenberg Poetry
Award deadline is December 8.
Entrants are encouraged to submit
three poems. Entries must be typed
and double spaced, each being 40
lines or less. This year the judging
will be done by Maxine Kumin, a
widely published, Pulitzer Prize
winning poet. The winner will
receive SIOO, a certificate,
publication in "Tempus" (the
College literary magazine), and a
copy of "Moving the Dunes." For
more information contact
Dr. Diana Hume George
Carriage House
The Behrend College
Erie, PA 16563
shooting foul shots for 20 minutes
a day.
At the end of 20 days, the group
that actually practiced every day
improved 24 percent. The group
that did nothing showed no
improvement The group that only
visualized themselves shooting
fouls improved 23 percent.
Jack Nicklaus, one of the greatest
golfers ever, attributes 10 percent of
his success to his setup, 40 percent
to his stance and 50 percent to the
mental imagery he does before he
takes each stroke.
Picturing what you do rather than
what you don't want to have happen
works for more than sports. It is
effective for increasing confidence
and preparing for any type of
situation, mental, or physical.
Time, Inc. Chairman Dick Munro
told me that as part of his
preparation for an important speech
he imagines the whole
environment. "I will see it in my
mind, what it looks like, who will
be there, how they will be seated."
Then he "sees” how he will come
across, how he will look, what he
will be saying and the positive
result.
Many peak performers that I have
interviewed in business, politics,
medicine, law, the arts as well as in
school use mental imagery to
prepare for pressure situations.
You can too.
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Sonnenberg
Foetry
Award
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Sonnenberg Poetry Award will
be given annually to a Penn
State-Behrend student. The
Award is a protect of the
Sonnenberg Memorial Kund.
instituted in honor ot
Mr Sonnenberg. a poet and a
1985 graduate of Penn State-
Behrend who died in 1987.
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Ask Louanne
Dear Louanne,
Last week you wrote a response to the "Last Man” letter. You gave
him the advice of picking up condoms so that when "the time is right",
he'll be prepared. The question I pose to you, "Is waiting until your
wedding night to lose your virginity an antiquated idea?" Some guys,
and I stress SOME not ALL guys, I know say what happens if they
wait until their wedding night, and then they find out that "she's no
good in bed, what then?" Why are some guys only interested in their
hormones? Why is it when some people find out your a virgin they act
like you are the one who is doing something wrong....or not with the
times? Is it old fashion and obsolete to wait for Prince Charming to
sweep you off your feet and into the bed for the Ist time on your
wedding night?
Dear Snow White,
Thank you for having the courage to write. Sounds like you feel
pretty strongly about this. About four years ago I administered
questionaires to groups of students at Gannon and Behrend. I was
surprised to find out how many men and women still hold traditional
values. Our Puritan background still has an influence on many of us,
and believe it or not, the double standard still exists. There’s a
difference between "girls you play with" and "girls you stay with".
Girls who were not virgins felt they had to lie and say they were. Guys
were ashamed of being virgins. From one male student, "It's tough to
be a virgin CRAZY!
My opinion: Healthy sexuality means feeling good about yourself,
not guilty , ashamed, anxious, or angry. Sexuality should be expressed
in sharing, enhancing, non-exploitive ways. Choose what's right for
you freely without worrying about what others think. Consider the
feelings of your partner. Three words sum it up for me:
RESPECT, HONESTY, and AUTHENTICITY.
Please! If you’re still out there, Prince Charming, won't you write?
Dear Louanne,
Help! When mid-terms roll around, I can't sleep. I toss and turn,
then by morning I’m in no shape to take my exam.
I'd like to get a handle on this before finals.
Dear Sleepless,
Sleep disturbance is often a symptom of anxiety. Here are some
suggestions: Try not to get too upset about it. You can lose quit a bit
of sleep when you’re young and still get by. If you wake up in the
middle of the night, don't lay there and brood or wony. After 10-15
minutes get up, get a drink of water or something hot (without
stimulants such as caffeine or sugar). You can try reading or studying
something that's not too challenging or stimulating. (NOT material for
the exam the next day). Take a walk. Listen to relaxing music.
Engage in some boring physical task. Try a relaxation exercise such as
progressive muscle relaxation which will occupy your mind. (I have
tapes you can borrow if you like.) If you have trouble keeping
disturbing thoughts out of your mind, it might help to writhe diem
down, keep a journal or make a list and put it away til morning.
Try to exercise during the day. Don't do anything too exciting just
before going to bed. Try not to nap during the day. Limit caffeine and
sugar particularly in the evening. Alcohol may seem to relax you, but
when it wears off during the night it results in agitation of the nervous
system. If sleep disturbance persists over longer periods of time inspite
of your efforts, you may need to seek help for anxiety or depression.
However, remember, some sleep loss won't hurt, but worrying about
sleep loss doesn't help.
Address Letters to:
Dr. Louanne Barton
213 Glenn Hill Farmhouse, Behrend College
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