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Karl Benacci, Features Editor Hey, your by Elizabeth Sivesind Knight Riddler Newspaper Boy enters bar and sees girl. Boy likes girl. Boy wants to flirt, but his heart is in his throat. Boy buys beverage, avoids girl and makes a beeline for his chums at the pool table faster than you can say, "Hey baby, what's your sign?" The No. 1 mistake men and women make in the flirting game, says dating and rela tionships author and expert Susan Bradley, is to not ap proach a love match when your heart and hormones are prompting. That said, Bradley has some tips for the flirtatiously chal lenged. Her lecture "How to Flirt Without Appearing to Be in Heat" was the keynote speech at a recent singles convention in Berkeley, Calif. Part of the fun is audience involvement. "I act like Lam in an improv comedy theater production and the audience is my unwitting cast of char acters," Bradley says. "Before they know it they will be flirt ing with each other and los ing their shyness. We will try all sorts of different flirting techniques." A dance party Crossword ACROSS 1 Meeting between lovers 6 In the future 11 Crane's arm 14 Truancy 15 Lily variety 16 Wallet bill 17 Needle boxes 18 Standing 19 Gotta Be Me" 20 Observant one 22 Herb for felines 24 “The Mad" mother of Charles V 27 Ceremonial act 28 Green state? 29 Slugger's stat 32 Word manufacturer 34 Frog’s cousin 35 Intelligence tests determinations 37 Three-time U.S. Open winner 39 Those showing deferential esteem 42 “Joanie Loves Chachi” star Scott 46 Changes to fit 47 Draw 48 Opera set in Egypt 49 Remote button 50 Storage area 52 With venom 55 Dog’s warning 57 Rather or Marino 58 Greek colony 60 Spirited vigor 64 Gobbled up 65 Shutout 66 Part of ROK 67 Trawling device 68 Edgy 69 Agitated states DOWN 1 Definite article 2 Decay 3 Are There" 4 Swanyiaked 5 Cicely of “The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter” is that pocket, follows. Bradley, who is trained as a registered nurse and hypnotherapist, travels the world to teach singles how to make their moves. Her clien tele is half men and half women, ranging in age from mid-20s to mid-60s. Bradley's approach is simple and strategic. She calls it the Repeated Contact Rule. Flirter should make three contacts with a flirtee in 45 minutes or less. Environment does not matter - restaurant, book store, nightclub - but tactic does. The point of initial contact is to get noticed for the right reasons. A smile. Eye contact. A walk-by with a meaningful glance. The second contact involves an actual exchange of words, usually a brief comment or, if you are bold, a compliment. Contact three is a conver sation and the "defining mo ment" in a flirting scenario. (Hint: If you do not start a conversation, how can you S> 2003 Tribune Media Services, Inc. All rights reserved. Solutions 6 Pasture portion 7 Narrow margin 8 2002 British Open golf champion 9 Smart guy? 10 Ivey or Elcar 11 Merging 12 Guest 13 Cell phone precursors 21 Road surfaces 23 Tentative plan 24 Black shade 25 Lennon’s love 26 Actress Gardner 30 Stooped 31 Small cove 32 Ballplayer Jose 33 Along in years 36 Actress Garr 38 Dog’s best 43 Be in poor health 44 Neighbor of friend? 39 Fast month of Islam 40 Teach 41 Inferior, shiny fabric Wash. 45 Boat propeller 51 Lucas folk 53 Categorize 54 Oxen holder a Beacon 0r... 55 Cotton-cleaning devices 56 Roue 59 Holy sister 61 Med. picture 62 Stroke gently 63 Possesses J* fffra aaun^aaMa. Friday, January 24, 2003 ask them out?) The best way to start gab bing is by sliding into an al ready existing discussion. Eavesdrop. Do not be afraid to chime in on Oprah, Enron or taneously ignite, never fear, says Brad ley. "People meet someone and they expect instant chem istry. Those feelings are chemical; it is nature's way of getting couples together. Do not write someone off if you are not immediately attracted to them. You could be pass ing up your soul mate." Remember, flirting is sup posed to be fun and good love is a good thing. "It's not love that makes people unhappy; it's people that make them selves unhappy," says Bradley. "It's the expectation that someone should love you ex actly the way you want to be loved that makes people un happy. Ask for 100 percent of what you want 100 percent of the time, but do not always expect to get it. Be prepared to negotiate." You are by Mary-Kathryn Craft Knight Riddler Newspaper Mary Hambright sometimes prepares burgers, hot dogs or grilled cheese sand wiches on a George Foreman grill in her Waccamaw Hall dormitory room. But most of the Coastal Carolina University freshman’s meals consist of Hot Pockets, Ramen Noodles, microwave popcorn or Cocoa Puffs cereal. Hambright isn’t different from most college students. She chooses foods for convenience and taste, often overlooking nutritional value. Yet healthy foods and proper nutrition are essential for students. College students, most of whom are al ready on irregular eating schedules, also consume more junk food during finals than other times of the school year, said Ann Litt, a Washington, D.C., nutrition ist and author of “The College Student's Guide to Eating Well on Campus.” Bal anced meals are important for focus dur ing study time and often improve test per formance, experts say. Throughout the semester, most students at Clemson University visit the grill lines ordering hamburgers, chili dogs, pizza and fried chicken, said food service director Todd Littrell. Though he’s seen an increase of veg etarians on campus in recent years, most students still stick to the junk food, he said. “I try to remember back when I was that age,” he said. “Nutrition wasn’t really that important.” Denise Elliott, CCU food service direc tor, sees the same eating patterns among students “So many kids in general are growing up on the fast food concept, and that’s what they expect when they go off to col lege,” she said. The “freshman 15” is a common term used to describe weight gain for college students, but Litt said there’s no scientific study that pinpoints how many pounds students actually put on. Still, most stu- I’LL GET YOU, SONNY, NOW HOLD STILL | A bull elk became intoxicated when he ate some fermented apples near| Karlskoga, Sweden, and then launched a rather unsteady attack on an 8- | year-old boy playing in his back yard. The boy was not seriously injured. | The police shot the animal. | | A MARRIAGE MADE IN HEAVEN, SORT OF | | A Spanish wife was reasonably happy in her six-year marriage, even | | though her husband was frequently away on “business trips." It turns out | | that hubby is actually a Catholic priest, who, when not with his wife and | | their son, was out ministering to his flock. | | THE SPUR-OF-THE-MOMENT GANG | Two teenagers in Edmonton, Alberta, confronted a pizza-delivery man | and tried to rob him of the four pies he was carrying. Then, they changed | their minds and decided to steal the guy’s car. They got in and found that | they didn’t know how to drive the vehicle, which had a stick shift with a |clutch. So they went back to Plan A: Stealing the pizzas. A police spokes | man said, “It was a toss-up between pizzas and the car, and they knew | how to operate pizzas.” They were arrested. origami. When in doubt, ask what they do for a liv ing and ap pear to be interested. And if sparks do not instan- what you eat dents gain some weight, When MTV’s “Road Rules” visited the University of South Carolina, six cast members were challenged to gain a cu mulative 15 pounds in four hours. The catch: they could only eat food stashed in dorm rooms. The group easily accomplished the mis sion with the help of Hot Pockets, canned pasta and a multitude of junk food. Derek Clemmensen, a CCU junior from This young lady likes egg and cheese sandwiches and sharp knives. Dallas, said he gained 10 pounds during each his freshman and sophomore years. This year, he lost 15 pounds. “I’ve been so busy this year, I don’t eat as much,” said Clemmensen, a resident adviser who works on campus and is taking a full load of sports medicine and psychology classes. There are ways to fight the weight gain and get proper nutrition. Substitute fruit and vegetables for chips and sugary food during snack time. Set and stick to a meal schedule. Ensure balance at every meal by mix ing fruits, vegetables, meats and grains. One reason most students gain weight in college is they don’t have regular meal Through the looking glass by Mike Pingree, KRT Campus DITHERED TWf TS "Hello, is this the Jumbo-Tron hotline?" The Behrend Beacon by Sprengelmeytr & D»»ls schedules, said Litt, who studied eating habits at more than 100 colleges for her book. Students eat sporadically sometimes forgetting about food altogether and then gorging when they feel hungry. “They stress and kind of use food to distract themselves and console them selves,” she said. Christina Gladmon, a CCU freshman from Baltimore, said her meal patterns in college are different from what they were in high Students don’t necessarily eat because they are hungry, Litt said. They eat be cause they are bored or want distractions from the books. Many snack items are what Litt calls “nonhunger foods,” or food that will never satisfy appetites. These foods, such as candy or chips, are for munching, but not all nonhunger foods have to be junk. Students should try baby carrots, popcorn or fruit if they desire a snack. Throughout the semester, Hambright, a marine science major, has used food as a reward for studying. “Food is a big part of my day,” she said. “You study; you take a break; you eat a snack.” Page school. Then she had a job and school to oc- cupy most of her time and parents to guide what food she ate. Now, she has much more free time. For many stu dents, free time and long stretches of studying are filled with snacks.