FEBRUARY 18, 2000, THE BEHREND BEACON, PAGE 12
FEATURES
Website of the Week
by Christine Piccola
staff writer
Have you ever gone to send a
card for someone's birthday, an
niversary, or foy a holiday, and
then realized that by the time you
would actually get the card, fill it
out, and mail it, the date would
be past? Try e-greetings-online
cards that arrive in, a person's e
mail boxj ust moments after they
are sent. Not only are they fast,
but they save on thAost of cards
since most of them are free. And,
you'll never have to buy stamps
again. It is as simple as choos
ing from one of these sites, or the
thousands of others on the web
today.
Blue Mountain Arts
(wwwbluernountain.com) is one
of the `most popular online greet
ing card sites. They.offer e-cards
for any' holiday imaginable, and
others for any reason you could
ever think of. Some categories
include 3-D art, women, love, re-
cif go
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Dear Jane
My boyfriend and I got engaged,
nd my dad is flipping out. My mom
is not too thrilled either, We have been
ogether two years, and I love him a
ot. Everything is right! How can I
onvince my parents???
Half-Way to the Alter
)ear Half -Way
l still not say don't get engaged: I
- now better than to try to talk anyone
Ett of that .sort of thing. Besides, that Is
tot what you asked. Just remember
wo years is really not that long.
Ilavbe that's why your parents are
ipset. No doubt, in their lifetimes,
hey' cc seen many people get married
no quickly and end up in a nasty
livorce (and with a whole mess of
- ids Parents these days live in
'ear of their children getting knocked
ip and leaving them to become
mrents A GAIN. Hopefully, since
You're in college, you are not
wavidering kids yet. Tell your parents
hat. It might help. Also, perhaps a
ong engagement (two or three years)
's in order. That would cool your
mrents off, and give you plenty of
irate to make sure your relationship
is everything you think it is. If you
really love this guy, then there should
.e no rush. Plus, you'll have more
ime to save for the wedding and
"married life" (or did you plan on
ligion, and teens. Not only is there a
diverse selection of occasions, but
you can also send cards in 8 differ
ent languages. The cards come with
animated g raphic s and catchy music,
which load quickly. This is by far the
most used site, and for a good rea
son.
You can also try Care-2-Make-A choose from a variety of "gifts."
Difference twww.care2.com). This is You can pick anything from a
an eco-friendly site which allows Porsche to a diathond, from a turtle
nonprofit environmental organiza- to a showgirl. Your friends will ap
tions to profit from your use of the preciate the thought behind the
site. There you can send free photo "gift" and your creativity in find
or picture e-cards. Items can also be ing it. And you'll save money.
purchased from the shopping section. All of the e-greetings sites on the
The site donates 10% of its revenue web today have something differ
from the banner ads and product ent to offer. Whether it's Blue
sales. Some groups that benefit from Mountain with cards for anything
this site, are the Environmental De- imaginable or C-Ya with its online
fense Fund and the National Wild- Dear John letters, there is some
life Federation. thing for everyone. So when your
Want to send someone a Dear John best friend's birthday comes up, or
letter, but don't want to write it your- when you just want to say hello and
seCyals Relationship. Closure good-bye; checkout these sixes and
Card`titna. e-yetcom) writes them have some online fun.
for you! Choose one from 23 differ
ent languages, or with various mu-
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Dear Jane
My girlfriend and I have dated for
over a year. and we have sex. The thing
is, she doesn't like it! She just doesn't.
She says it•s not me. and that she has
never enjoyed sex with anyone. We still
have sex because she says she knows it
makes me happy. But it is NO FUN
when I know she does not like it, and I
am beginning to think it IS me. I have
been with a lew other girls, and they
all liked sex. What am I doing wrong?
What can I do?!?
I)ear Lin (uv
I am very, I cry sorry for you and your
girlfriend. Ihere are many women out
there who do not enjoy sex. (The rest of
its %limit," be VERY thankntl.)
this . sort of problem Is psychological.
There is a
, I:(id chance that your
,girl
does not enjoy sex because she has
deep-rooted bad feelings about it.
Often, a religious upbringing or a past
relationship could turn a girl off to sex,
especially if she feels bad about her
body. In an extreme case, she may have
been the victim of sexual abuse. Don't
assume that thiv is the sort of thing that
she would share with you; many girls
and women harbor such severe feelings
of guilt (since they think that it was their
/ ONLINE
I GREETINGS 1.
seek
and
lane
Unhappy Guy
sic s lext, and color options. Then
dick on Specials to pick a breakup
card. You get the same effect with
out the hassle of writing the letter
yourself.
Don't have the money to buy an
actual present for your friend? Go
to wwwvirtualpresents.com, and
fault) that they never tell anyone about
being .setually abused. It may be
obvious, .so do not ask het: "hey, do you
hate sex because you were raped or
abused?" Be supportive and
understanding. It is probably not her
fault. Another possibility is that she has
never been with a glly who wanted to
make her happy; it is so sad that many
guys just bang away at it and pay no
attention to the girl they're having sex
with. By the time she got to you, she mar
have been used to "getting it over with"
and she does not expect anything
different. Does she like to be touched?
Does she like kissing? Do things 90%
slower and see what happens. Maybe
stop having sex for a while and just
cuddle (girls like that sort of thing). /
she doesn't even like to be touched, think
long and hard. Keep in mind, you could
he the greatest guy in the world, and
she might never enjoy sex. So, if you stay
with her you may never enjoy sex again.
(PS- It not you.)
If you have questions about your
relationship or sex (and who
doesn't??) write to Jane at
dickandjane@wildmail.com, or put
your letters/questions in the Beacon
mailbox marked "Dear Jane." All
correspondences are confidential. As
many letters will be answered as
possible.
Down To You needs
to get down to earth
by Kelly Walsh
staff writer
If you are looking for a romantic,
never-ever-would-happen comedy,
Down To You is just for you. But
make sure you go during the day, or
better yet to the dollar theatre on 50
cent Tues-
cause this
movie tries
a "love at
first sight"
th e e
which
should
have been a
little more
realistic
The movie
is geared
for the ro-
mantic 12-
year-old
girl who
doesn't re
alize what
real love is.
A
Connelly is
played by
the oh-so
hot Freddie
Prinze, Jr., and just looking at him was
the best part of the movie. Julia Stiles
plays Imogen, the college freshman
that Al falls in love with. The film
starts right out with these two falling
in love, and leaves you wondering
what the conflict was in the first place.
They are the cutesy couple that ev
eryone hates. The PDAs (public dis
plays of affection), like the way he
always holds her hand, along with the
Crossword
ACROSS
1 List-ending abbr.
4 Pineapple brand
8 Bloom
14 Team cheer
15 Time periods
16 Second spin?
17 Best pitcher
18 Carriageway
19 Danish port
20 Based
23 Newsman
Koppel
24 Catch sight of
25 In a dignified
manner
29 Treaty
33 Strider
34 Apart
37 Indicated
indirectly
40 & breakfast
41 Tear
42 By way of
43 Self-image
44 Final stage of
play
46 Swell
48 Door columns
49 Gain momentum
50 Narrowly spaced,
like eyes
53 London district
57 Nexus
58 "NBC Nightly
News" anchor
62 Fleet afloat
66 Sleeper spy
67 Ms. Landers
68 Securely closed
69 Engendered
70 "She Loves "
71 Els and Kovacs
72 Bastes
73 Liquid taste
DOWN
1 Wipe memory
2 Diplomacies
3 Cut-price
4 Moore of "Ghost"
5 Cookie choice
6 Mown expanse
7 Wormy shapes
8 Partner of to
9 Directed
10 Mine vein
way he constantly talks about her, are
just nauseating. In addition, Al lov
ingly cooks for her at least once a
week, and this aspiring chef doesn't
settle for spaghettios. And Imogen
loves combining her two passions, Al
and painting, to create beautiful por
traits. The two do not leave each
other's side until Imogen has to spend
a lonely summer in France.
This is a storyline seen many times
before. Two people falling in love,
leaving the ladies in the theatre with
hope and inspiration. Why couldn't
writer and director Kris Isacsson leave
it at that? Instead, he added random
scenes that had nothing to do with
anything. For example, Al's friend
from high school becomes an egotis
tical porn star, and Al himself downs
some shampoo to cleanse himself of
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11 More cold and Solutions
snowy
12 One of the Fords
13 Thin-voiced
21 Secretarial
mistake
22 Stand and !
26 Masquerade
mask
27 Consternate
28 Aviv-Jaffa
30 Letter-shaped
home
31 Ascends
32 Prepare for
printing
34 Justice Fortas
35 Sportscaster
Berman
36 Jack of all
trades
38 Easter hunt
39 Unknown John
45 Helium or argon,
e.g.
47 Furthermore
50 Go after
51 Decoy
52 Pyramids and
mausoleums
54 Gives the go-
ahead
55 Capital of
Vietnam
his girl problems. But since this is the
movies, he comes out of the ordeal
unscathed. Imogen gets high, yet this
has nothing to do with the scene, or
for that matter, the movie. Basically,
the directing was not up to par.
However, don't get me wrong. I
did like the movie, and if I didn't have
to sit down and analyze it, I would
have liked it a lot more. It had poten
tial to
tire chocolate marshmallow cake be
fore sex, but they cannot hold your
attention for an hour and a half.
I kept waiting for something big to
happen, and it never did. It is a make
you-feel-good-movie by the end, or
at least I thought so when leaving.
Now I recall it as disturbing. A movie
with such a cute couple and a poten
tially good script somehow turned out
so, so bad!
56 Confess
59 Exira
60 Tooted
61 Cincinnati nine
63 Mr. Baba
64 Bad grade
65 Classified
be a hit
for the
ladies
(guys
don't
let her
drag
you to
this
one ) .
But, the
little
details
just
don't
add up.
Al and
mogen
are cute
gether,
the way
they eat
an en-